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Art of Feminine Presence™
Be Seen, Be Heard, Inspire Change
Teacher’s Manual
Level 1 Practices
Table of Contents
Message from Rachael Jayne Groover 7
AFP Class Format 9
1) Tune In 9
2) Check In 9
3) A Practice 10
4) Feminine Presence Meditation™ - Warm Up 11
5) Feminine Presence Meditation™ - Witnessed 13
6) Appreciations 15
7) Close 17
Teaching the Feminine Presence Meditation™ 18
Challenges that may show up in the meditation 19
The 44 Practices 22
Bathing in Gratitude 23
Conscious Beauty 25
Energetic Presence – (a.k.a. “The Light Globe”) 27
Guided Meditation 27
Feeding our Longing to Be Seen 30
Guided Visualization: 30
Feminine Activation Points 34
Forgiving the Feminine 37
Healing the Heart and Yoni Split 41
Less is More 43
The Light Shadow 46
Radiant Glow 50
Receptive Body 53
Staying Open — Even When it Hurts 56
Stop Projecting 58
Sustain and Circulate Pleasure 60
Importance of Containment 61
Verbal Guidance 61
The Art of Following 63
Two Bodies Move as One 65
Unguarded Protection 67
The Vertical Core 69
Vocal Power 71
Walking with the Feminine 73
Watery Flow 79
The Womb Space 82
Head Bubble/Womb Space practice: 83
Additional practice: 84
Teacher Resources 86
Getting Started – Promotion, Sales, and Marketing 87
Sales Conversations 87
Rachael Jayne’s 10 Step Sales Process 88
STEP 3 - Mirroring: 89
STEP 4 - Overall Transformation: 89
STEP 5 - Transition Statement: 89
STEP 6 - Describe the Offer: 90
STEP 7 - Empower: 90
STEP 8 – Ask for the Sale (The Close) 90
STEP 9 – Follow Up 91
STEP 10 – Release Attachment 91
Leading with a Remarkable Marketing Message 92
AFP Matrix of Communication 94
Modality and Pain List 94
Problems and Solutions List 95
Urgent Wants and Needs List 96
The 3 Brand Promises: 97
Statements to acknowledge who this work is for 98
Statements to acknowledge who this is not for 98
5 benefit bullet points of your work 98
A one-sentence description when you need it. 98
“The New Generation” statement: 99
Statements to acknowledge skepticism and answer top 5 objections: 99
Statement of Difference: How are you Different 100
Modality and Pain List 101
Problems and Solutions List 101
Urgent Wants and Needs List 102
The 3 Brand Promises: 102
AFP Website 105
Sample Marketing E-mail #1 105
Sample Marketing E-mail #2 106
Email Marketing 108
Flyer 108
Referral Strategy 108
Describing the Classes 109
How to Find the Perfect Women for Your Classes 111
Networking Groups 111
Speaking Engagements 112
Other Ways to Find the Perfect Women for Your Classes 112
1. Intention and Visualization 112
2. Invite Your Perfect Women 112
3. Tell Networkers 112
4. Ask Your Higher Power 113
5. Online Communities 113
6. Testimonials 113
7. Create a Video or Send an AFP Video 114
Keeping Your Women 114
Sample E-mails 115
Shared Agreements email 115
Sample “End-of-series” E-mail 116
Payments/Finances 117
Tuition 117
Budget 118
Options to Receive Payment 118
Cancellation Policy 118
Fees to Groover Seminars, Inc. 118
Teacher’s License 119
Class & Presentation Structures 120
Sample for an Introduction to Art of Feminine Presence™ 120
The 5-Week Series 125
Class Sample Time Frame 125
Size of Class 126
A Good Structure for Your First 5 Classes: 126
Workshops 127
Outline for Half-Day Art of Feminine Presence™ Workshop 127
Outline for One-Day Art of Feminine Presence™ Workshop 130
**For a Two-Day Workshop, 134
Facilitation Information 135
Facilitation Tips 135
The emotional/vibrational scale 135
Awareness is Key! 136
Why and when to use "Shared Agreements" 136
Using inclusive language and explanation of Yin and Yang energies 136
If someone is expressing a lot of emotion 136
Holding a Great Space for your Classes -- 137
even when your own life isn't perfect 137
Your AFP Box: Basics to take to your events 138
Music Suggestions 139
Consent and Release Form 141
Feminine Presence Meditation™ 143
Why We Do the Witnessed Feminine Presence Meditation™ 145
Additional Information on Appreciations 147
Recommended Reading List 149
Inspiration 151
Feelings 154
Extra Income Opportunities 155
Offer Private VIP Coaching: 156
Tips for Marketing a class out of town 158
How to set up a one day with multiple team teachers 159
Working with Teenagers 160
Exercises that work 161
Why we do not have teens do the witnessed meditation 161
Working with Men 162
Additional Groover Seminars, Inc. Programs 164
Acknowledgments 165
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Message from Rachael Jayne Groover
Creator of Art of Feminine Presence™
I am excited and grateful to start this new phase of our journey together. Teaching this process has kept me accountable to becoming more present, joyful, radiant, grounded, and emotionally and energetically strong. After all, if people are looking to you as the “Feminine Presence” woman, it disciplines you to make sure you are an example of that. Being a teacher of this process has encouraged me to walk my talk in the best possible way, and now it’s your turn—to be inspired into your next level of feminine presence. I’m grateful because I know that you saying, “Yes!” to this opportunity is not a small thing. Thank you for your trust in your own guidance and in me.
Why I Decided to Train Teachers
I have studied and taught Feminine Spirituality and Leadership for many years, mostly over the phone and Internet. I wanted to teach an in-person class here in Fort Collins, in part so I would have the opportunity to practice this work myself, several times a week. Being new to Fort Collins and not knowing anybody, I thought it would be a great way to connect with some spiritually grounded women. I started my first series of classes in June 2009 with a group of 5 women. In just 6 short months, the community grew to 35 women—most of them participating in classes week after week. One year later, all five that started in June were still in class with me every Tuesday night. With 3 full classes per week, and women traveling over an hour in some cases to get to those classes, I considered that clear guidance to expand this work. Women need this, and women want this.
I have structured the classes in a way that facilitates a high repeat rate, with very few “no shows,” and a tuition fee that is achievable for most women, and is also worth my while. I have discovered an effective way to promote this work, and I believe I can teach this business model to other women who are spiritually grounded, physically and energetically aware, and who have good leadership skills. The process really stands on its own merit and is not just about the teacher. Women like you can teach this, and teach it well.
This Manual contains information to help make your classes a success. It is my intention to be with you every step of the way as you make your classes and wider spiritual teaching a reality. I want to stay in close contact, so please continue to check in and let me know if I can serve you in any way. It’s an honor to be with you as we take another giant leap forward.
Much love,
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Rachael Jayne Groover
AFP Class Format
1) Tune In
2) Check In
3) A Practice
4) Feminine Presence Meditation™ - Warm up
5) Feminine Presence Meditation™ – Witnessed
6) Appreciations
7) Close
The classes consist of 7 components or segments, as described below.
The segments include tips on how to lead each component of the class and the challenges to look out for.
1) Tune In
The class begins on time with silence for approximately 2-3 minutes. The teacher lights a candle in the center of the circle, then briefly invites the participants to close their eyes and use this time to come to the present moment as much as possible and tune in with their physical, energetic and emotional state. Invite them to tune in to how they are really feeling, underneath the surface emotions. Then, given how they are feeling, is there anything they want to intend for the class? Some weeks you may feel intuitively that you need a longer check in. Trust that. It takes time for people to settle into their bodies and really feel what is going on. The tune in prepares them for the group check in.
2) Check In
Each participant (including the teacher) has 2-5 minutes to share aloud with the group their answers to these 3 questions in this order.
1. How am I authentically feeling in this moment?
2. Given how I am feeling, is there anything I am wanting for this class?
3. Is there anything that I have felt shift in my inner or outer experience
this week from participating in these classes? Any “brags” or “wins”?
Often women will jump into their story of what happened during the week. A little “story” is ok because it creates connection between the women, but not encouraged. Keep inviting them to start with how they are feeling and their desires before jumping into their story. If someone completes their check in and forgot to share any feeling words, the teacher can gently ask them “. . . and how are you feeling tonight?” Some women don’t know the difference between feeling words and describing what they did or what happened to them. The teacher may need to articulate the difference from time to time. At the end of this manual there is a list of feeling words that you can print out to use as a resource for the class.
During each check in the other participants only listen. This is not time to give advice, try to make someone feel better, or to make any comments that what they are feeling is either great or unfortunate. Encourage them to nod and make short verbal cues that help the person feel heard, of course. This is a practice for all in the group to realize that no emotion is inherently better than any other—some just feel better. If someone feels deeply inspired to share something with another participant, they must ask for permission first, and make sure that permission is given before proceeding. One of your roles as a teacher is to make sure the contrary doesn’t happen on your watch.
The teacher may add comments or suggestions to the person checking in, but they should be kept to the realm of helping them clarify their desires for the class. Don’t go into “advice giving” mode at this time.
3) A Practice
Art of Feminine Presence™ is 44 unique practices that take 20-30 minutes each to teach and experience. These include:
• Physical movements that cultivate feminine energy.
• Body awareness practices that help women “be at home” in their bodies — no matter what stress is occurring around or within them.
• Energetic practices that spark an instant expansion of a woman’s personal presence and radiance.
• Deep questioning of how we relate to our femininity, sensuality, and sexuality. These 44 practices are outlined in depth in the next segment of this manual. These practices have been inspired by a range of modalities and teachers as well as my own personal experience. To read about these influences you can refer to the Acknowledgements section on page 98.
4) Feminine Presence Meditation™ - Warm Up
Most of the time you will ask the participants to start their meditation standing up, but occasionally invite them to start lying down, sitting, or any way that calls them. Once you have an experienced group, you can invite them to start the Warm Up any way they feel called to each week.
Feel free to read the primary focuses of the meditation starting on page 18. You'll often need to remind your students why we do this.
Prepare 7-10 minutes of music for the meditation before the class.
Here are some words that you can share before you start the music.
“Take a moment to close your eyes to feel your feet on the floor. Soften your knees. They should always be slightly bent so you can isolate your pelvis. Start to put more attention on the lower half of your body. Imagine sending energy down your legs and into the ground as if your legs are two tree trunks. Imagine there is the darkest, richest, most fertile soil underneath this floor and you have roots coming out from under your feet that are sinking down into that soil. Send the energy roots down into the ground at least 10 feet deep.
Now, bring attention to your “Womb Space.” This is about 3 inches below the navel and back inside the body. Imagine something suspended there. Maybe it’s a point of light, or lotus flower, or a crystal there. It might be a candle or light bulb. As you breathe, keep sending more and more attention to your Womb Space.
Once you feel present to your Womb Space, start tilting and tucking the pelvis very slowly.
Your upper body should be soft and relaxed. Keep your jaw and face very relaxed. Let your jaw hang open ever so slightly so you can breathe out your mouth. Feel the softness of your breath caress your lips. Keep your neck long at the back, short at the front, as if you are slightly looking down towards your “Womb Space.”
Start the music. For beginners you will need to give more guidance throughout the music. For an experienced class, you will not need to share much out loud. Here are some examples of phrases I share during the 7-10 minute warm up:
“Keep dropping your attention a little further down and back in your pelvis than you might expect. Start to feel the energy move up from your Womb Space to feed and open your heart.” “Stay grounded in your legs. Keep softening your shoulders, neck, and face. Let go of any tension in your jaw.” “How much pleasure will you allow yourself to feel? How much will you allow yourself to enjoy the simplest of movement?”
During the meditation, the teacher will, at times, be meditating themselves, or with soft eyes looking around the room to see if anyone needs guidance. The guidance that the teacher can give will be in the form of a gentle whisper or occasionally, a hand on the back of their lower back guiding their attention to stay low in their body. When you touch a part of the body — yours or someone else’s — your attention goes there. When your attention goes to a place in the body, energy follows and flows there. Therefore, if the teacher feels like the participant needs help grounding, they can touch their feet to the floor. If the participant needs help coming back to their Womb Space or sending more energy there, you can touch them on the lower back and lower belly, at the height of the center point of the pelvis. If the participant needs help softening the shoulders, you can gently put your hands on their shoulders.
If you are drawn to gently touch along the core of their torso, be sure to touch their back first, as it feels safer to them to receive touch on the back first before the front.
The most important thing to look for is if someone is going too fast. Remind them to slow down and move “underneath the beat.”
If someone is expressing a lot of emotion let them have that. Don’t go over and touch them or comfort them. You can comfort them and check in with them after the meditation is complete. The only thing you need to make sure of if there is a lot of emotion moving, is that they stay grounded. To help them stay grounded, you might send them your attention from across the room as you ground in your body, or if they really need it, go over and put your hands on their feet, or whisper, “keep feeling the emotion, but stay grounded, stay in your body.”
When the music stops, remind the participants to ground the energy through their legs, stay connected to their Womb Space, and feel the openness in their heart. Chime a bell to signal the end of the Warm Up. At that time everyone can open their eyes.
5) Feminine Presence Meditation™ - Witnessed
The Feminine Presence Meditation™ that is first done alone with no witnessing is then practiced in front of the other women.
You can read this aloud at some point:
“A powerful, feminine woman is comfortable with attention directed towards her. Many women are starving for healthy attention. This is why many of the practices in Art of Feminine Presence™ are witnessed by another woman or the entire group in a safe and supportive way. This challenges many women at first, but once they discover the ways to let go of self-consciousness, it is the most healing and empowering part of the class.”
You can refer to the document, "Why we do the meditation witnessed" in the Teachers’ Resources section.
The group sits facing the area where the meditations will take place. Everyone together tunes in to who is to go first. Each waits to follow the impulse of what wants to organically happen. When one woman moves in front of the group all of everyone’s attention is on her. She closes her eyes and moves into the same meditative practice that she practiced alone moments earlier.
When witnessing a woman’s meditation, we practice seeing how the energy is moving or not moving in her body—without judgment. Often, a particular quality of the ‘feminine’ is present in a woman’s meditation. Sometimes those witnessing receive a beautiful reminder for their own lives.
In the first two weeks of an all new group, the teacher meditates first and keeps the movement minimal, focusing on a visible tilting and tucking motion, with no arm movement and the hands resting gently on her womb space. If there is a new group but you have one or 2 existing students, ask them to go first. Usually the teacher will meditate last. This allows your meditation to be a little shorter if need be given the time schedule. It also helps ground the series of meditations. Having the teacher go last makes it less likely participants will try and copy you by being further along than they really are.
The teacher may also feel called to help guide a meditation that she is witnessing. This is a delicate decision to make because the teacher standing up and touching them can throw them out of the present moment and interrupt their meditation. Only move to touch them if you get a definite “yes, my guidance will help a lot” from your inner guidance system, and this should be the exception rather than the rule. If you go up to touch them, always touch them on their back first, and then move to the point you want to send attention to. Most of your supporting them can be done by you dropping into the part of your body that you want them to activate more.
The best way to start guiding another’s meditation is to stay sitting in your place while you set the intention of holding their Womb Space, or holding their heart space. This would be the preferred way to guide them in the beginning because it doesn’t interrupt them. If this doesn’t help them drop in, you can whisper some guidance to them during the meditation. Finally, if that doesn’t work, and you hear the clear “call” to go up and touch them, you may do so, with very “quiet, contained energy.” Often someone moves a lot of energy during their meditation, which may appear to be physical or emotional energy. After an intense meditation of this nature, verbally remind them to take their time to ground before they open their eyes.
Due to time constraints, usually there will be 4-5 meditations only; therefore some women will pair up with another woman in the group. On the rare occasion if needed in a big class three women will be witnessed at the same time. Refer to the sample time schedule below to know when the witnessed meditations need to finish.
Notes:
6) Appreciations
After each woman has been “witnessed,” the group gathers in a circle. Each participant takes 1-2 minutes to share their experience of their meditation. This share is followed by a chance for others to share what they most appreciated about each woman’s meditation. This process is enormously heart-opening as the woman is sincerely told how beautiful, radiant, powerful, grounded, joyful, and surrendered she appeared and felt to those witnessing.
The teacher chooses who is to go first and the shares go around the circle, ending with the teacher’s share about her meditation. Encourage each participant to include at least one or two sensations they felt in the meditation, so they are reminded of how aware they were in their body. This will bring her back to the practice of feeling her internal space in her body. Some of the common things to share at this time include:
Giving Appreciations: The appreciations shared by the other women towards the participant can encompass all of the above, and include:
• The aspect/s of the feminine they saw in the woman.
• A positive quality they saw in the woman.
• A positive aspect of her physical beauty you admire.
• How they felt the energy moving inside of them; where it flowed and felt wonderful.
• What they felt emotionally as they witnessed the meditation.
• What they were reminded of: possibly a life lesson or piece of wisdom for themselves.
• A message they received for themselves, or a transmission of energy they felt blessed by.
• What part of the meditation they most appreciated and why.
You may choose to print out this list to keep near as a reminder for your first few classes. Remind your participants to trust what they see and feel and appreciate. Remind them that everyone “appreciates” differently. There is no wrong way to say something positive to a woman. We only have to watch giving a back-handed compliment or a running commentary of the meditation and not actually giving an appreciation.
Have them start their appreciation with the word “You”, and make it an acknowledgement of something you saw her do, such as, "You were so grounded in your lower body, and your tilting and tucking was so graceful and flowing.
The appreciations are not to be critical in any way. The teacher will need to encourage the participants not to compare the meditations from week to week, either for themselves or for others. For example instead of saying, “I haven’t seen you be so open before, this was so much more open and receptive,” you can say, “I felt you were even more open, I so appreciated your receptivity.”
Appreciation time is not about giving “feedback” or giving a synopsis of what you saw and how they moved, it’s about what you appreciated most about them and their meditation.
Every meditation will be different and none are better than another. The teacher may add suggestions to help each participant progress with the meditative practice, but keep this minimal.
You don't want to rush the appreciation process. Be sure that there is time for at least 2 or 3 appreciations for each person. It's the best part! We need to make time and space for the powerful act of appreciating others, and giving them time to let it sink in.
Let them know that they may feel uncomfortable during this—for both the receiver and the givers. Women connecting in this way authentically have been taken out of much of society as competition set in long ago, and this is how we heal that and nourish each other.
Examples of appreciations: "You are so courageous; it's in your energy. You are so grounded and “in the room." You emit this radiance, this glow about you that is so beautiful. You are able to move your body in such subtle ways that are so magnetic and elegant. Your sensuality is so lovely and inspiring -- you make me feel safe to express my own." Notice there is an acknowledgment aspect to this -- that is something they are. Use the present tense, not the past tense. It feels better when someone says “you are radiant” than “you were radiant.”
Receiving Appreciation: Invite the women to sit in silence and let the appreciation sink in. This means not saying thank you, giving a Namaste bow, a big smile, or anything that physically or energetically deflects the appreciation. Have them notice how they can let it settle fully into their bodies, and where they are deflecting or feeling resistant to letting it in.
7) Close
At the end of class the teacher invites the circle of women to hold hands and feel the gratitude and support that is present. The teacher says a few words to close (30 seconds – 1 minute).
An option to close is to let each participant tune in and ask themselves “if I was to remember and practice one thing that I received from this class for next week, what would that be?” Ask them to close their eyes and think of some place(s) in their life that they could use it, then pause. Then, invite them to notice what shifts when they practice this one thing in their lives over the week, and report back what they notice. Open eyes. If you have a little extra time, they can share a place where they want to experiment. Remind them it’s a constant practice and a commitment to break the old habits of behavior. Just as important, they to be gentle with themselves and stay curious about what can happen when they use this new tool. They could then share that aloud or keep it silent.
Blow out the candle in the center of the circle together -- or -- create your own closing. You can gather in a circle and hold hands -- inviting each woman to say a word out loud that encapsulates what she got from that evening, while sending a squeeze of appreciation around the circle through the hand of the sister next to her.
Notes:
Teaching the Feminine Presence Meditation™
This meditative movement practice is based on my 5-year study of The Tantric Dance of the Sacred Feminine with various teachers, as well as my own qi gong, authentic movement, and dance practice.
It is recommended that you read aloud the part below on why we do this meditation. There is also a hand out under Teachers Resources that you can give your students on this. Ask them not to discuss outside of class that we do the meditation witnessed at any time. This foundational practice does not translate well to others when taken out of context. Part of the transformative power of it is experiencing it firsthand, with no preconceived notions, and we want them to experience that gift. They can feel free to share, though, the power, potency, and the positive changes in their life as a result of practicing it.
The primary focuses in this meditation are:
* To move feminine energy through your body
The meditation is slow, sensual, and devotional. The slow movement is mainly in the hips and pelvis as this is where the feminine energy most loves to move. The upper body is soft and straight. The neck is long and straight at the back with the chin slightly tucked under so you feel you are looking down towards your heart. Once the energy builds in the lower torso the participant is guided to move it up the spine to the heart center and eventually to the center of the head.
* To follow the pleasure and joy inside your body
How much pleasure can you move and contain in your body before dissipating it? The movements are not big, jerky, or fast as that can release the energy that is moving inside the body. Containing energy actually brightens the Light inside of you and increases your glow. Learning to sustain more joy in the body allows you to sustain more joy in your life.
* To heal the split between the energy of your heart and your sexuality
Feel your heart and womb communicate with each other. Pay strong attention to the three main points of energy in your vertical core of energy. These are the center point of your pelvis, the center point of your heart space, and the center point of your head. Healing the split between our heart and sexuality increases when we can move as we stay connected to both pelvis and heart and feel the energy that is running between the two centers.
* To stay in your center – no matter what!
Remaining in your “Womb Space”, the center of your body, creates so much inner power, outer magnetism, and great connection with others. This meditation asks us to stay connected to that center by feeling and sensing its power at all times.
* To let go. Trust and follow the energy that wants to move you
Let go of self-consciousness. Being witnessed brings up self-consciousness for everyone.
That self-consciousness can appear two different ways. The inner voices of these 2 ways speak like this:
1) “I don’t want people to look at me. I might look silly or uncoordinated.” In this space we can close down our authentic free movement because we don’t want others’ judgment and
2) “I hope people are looking at me. My movements probably look really good right now.” In this space we can close down from authentic free movement because we want others’ judgment that we look cool. One may feel more confident, but both are self-consciousness. When we stay present to our body, and come back inside it when we start to feel self-consciousness, it quiets our mind so we can follow what movement wants to happen—in the meditation and in life.
Challenges that may show up in the meditation
Tilting and tucking too fast or too slow
Be aware of the ideal slow speed that helps you go deep in your meditations. Guide your participant through whispering to them to slow down or feel a little more flow by picking up the pace a little. A general rule is, “go as slow as you can go that feels pleasurable and that keeps the flow of the movement.”
Confused by the tilting and tucking
If someone is really challenged with understanding what it feels like to tilt and tuck the pelvis correctly you can invite them to place their hands on your back and lower belly to feel what it feels like when you do it. They may need to be reminded that it is not a side to side movement, but a tuck forward and tilt back to create a vertical flow of energy. Make sure the woman does not use her legs and the bending of her knees to create the tilt and tuck. The correct way is for it to come through the isolating of her pelvis. The legs will stay fairly still. Often the best way for them to understand the movement is to have their hands on your belly and back while you slowly do the tilting and tucking.
Unable to ground well
You can have the participants feel what it is like to completely relax their pelvic muscles and feel the drop in their pelvic floor. Have them squeeze and release the muscles. On the release they will feel that drop. For some it will feel like they are about to pee. That’s okay. Alternatively, you can have them do a few squats before starting the meditation.
Their head moves a lot and disconnects the connection between heart and head
Every participant should keep their neck long at the back and short at the front, and not move from side to side. Sometimes women will move more in their head and neck, but that can easily disperse the energy.
Some women have physical issues
Some women have physical restrictions or injuries that cause pain or limited mobility. Give them a chance to do the meditation standing and in full range first to see how it feels. If it's uncomfortable for them, have them sit at the edge of a chair or lay down. Use pillows under the knees to support their back. If a woman cannot move her pelvis freely, tell her to move it physically as much as she can without experiencing pain, even if it’s only a small amount, while also feeling the full energetic movement of it. We’ve had women in the classes right after hip replacement surgery, women with back and knee issues, even women who are in wheelchairs. There is no physical barrier that will prevent a woman feeling the energetic movement, so guide her to a pain-free way of doing the meditation.
Women may feel uncomfortable when first practicing it
Once in a while, a woman may feel uneasy when first coming home to her Womb Space and the meditation. She may come up against her own judgement about the movement or about the sensual nature of the energy she sees or feels. Refer to the Facilitation Tips in the back of the manual around staying out of the need to fix her. You can tell her this happens sometimes in the beginning and prompt her to stay curious about what’s coming up for her on it.
Women who have had partial or full hysterectomies get concerned
Women who have had these procedures done often worry that they won't be able to access "Womb Space". The energy and power of these feminine organs are still there in the pelvic bowl, and it's extra important to keep this energy flowing with these practices. (Refer to page 62 in Powerful and Feminine.)
Remember:
Release forms need to be signed before someone joins your class. This is a great way to reiterate the shared agreements and make sure everyone is clear that this class is not “therapy.” A copy of a release form you can use is in this manual.
Notes:
The 44 Practices
In the Level 1 Teacher Training, you will learn to participate in and teach the first 22 practices. The first 22 practices lay the foundation for this work. It is recommended that you focus on the first 22 practices in your early classes and wait until your participants have a grounded experience of the Feminine Presence Meditation™ before you move on to teaching the second 22 practices, which are taught in the Level 2 Teacher Training.
Each practice can be taught in a flexible manner. As you move along in your own Feminine Presence practice, you will have ideas and experiences to add. When you teach a practice for the second time you can add your own flare or a different practice that clearly brings the participant to a similar “end” experience. If you have any concerns about whether your idea will take the practice too far off track we can talk about it together.
For some of the practices, I have already added an additional practice that you can do the second time around.
It is recommended that you teach these fundamental practices first, which will support participants going deeper into their meditation sooner. The following is a great order to teach the fundamentals when you have a new group of women:
The Womb Space,
Walking with the Feminine,
Energetic Presence
Circulate and Sustain Pleasure
Healing the Heart and Yoni Split,
Feminine Activation Points,
Feeding our Longing to be Seen,
Less is More (especially, if you have anyone who is challenged with moving slowly)
Notes:
Bathing in Gratitude
We can underestimate how difficult it is to give and receive appreciations, so this practice allows us to focus on this skill for an extended period of time. This is a practice to do when everyone in the group knows each other well.
Have your group sit in a circle so you can take more time than to practice giving and receiving appreciations. Remind them why appreciations are so vital to increasing a woman’s feminine essence. When the appreciations aren’t tied to a witnessed meditation, the women have an opportunity to appreciate anything about each other.
Before starting the appreciations, take 5 minutes to share the tips on giving and receiving appreciations that are on page 147 in this manual. You can also say: "The invitation is to let the appreciation sink in. Notice if you cut off feeling the appreciation before it reaches your body. It shouldn’t just reach the skin, but it should sink into your body. Let it open you. Let your body soften as you hear the appreciations."
Start with the first woman. Allow a few minutes for 2-3 people in the group to share what they most appreciate about that woman.
After the woman has heard the appreciations, she encapsulates what she heard and says, “I am that.” Ask her to make a mental note of which appreciation was the most challenging to let sink in. Then move to the next woman. After each woman has had a turn receiving appreciations, ask the group which appreciation was hardest for them to let in?
Alternative Practice – Connect In
The power of the group largely depends on the connections between individuals in that group. The stronger the individual connections become the stronger the group’s energy and connection will become. The “Connect In” is a part of the Heart Circle model, created by Tej Steiner, and it simply is a time where an individual in the group connects with one other person in the group, by giving them an appreciation or asking them a question that they are really curious about – while the rest of the group witnesses this connection. If it’s a question, it’s advised to not be a question that brings up something dark and heavy, but would bring up a light-hearted answer.
Tips for use:
Use Bathing in Gratitude every time someone is giving you an appreciation, a compliment, a gift, when you are receiving an award or applause, acknowledging something you did, or standing out in some way.
What other places in your life do you feel you could practice this one?
Notes:
Conscious Beauty
Your radiance has the power to attract strong friendships, great business opportunities, and the right attention at the right time. Increasing your radiance is not just about strengthening your inner Light, but also about highlighting your outer physical appearance. One is just as important as the other and many women now don’t feel good about putting a lot of priority on their outer appearance. This is understandable since it has not been used for good most of the time, but for manipulation. At one time, it was one of the only powers women had. It was abused. Beauty is power, but how can we use it consciously?
Ways to enhance your outer Light include, color, clothing, make up, doing your hair, drinking lots of water, and eating an alkaline diet.
Discuss the power and gift of beauty in our lives. Discuss the resistance or relationship each participant has to sharing their beauty.
In pairs, ask the 2 Heart Circle questions:
1) How do I feel in relationship to my beauty and sharing that with the world?
2) Given how I feel about this, what do I really want in relationship to my beauty and sharing it?
* You can circle up after this practice if you have time, and have them share their biggest take away from this practice.
Tips for use: You can use this one when you know you have a desire to consciously express more of your light and beauty as you reclaim your feminine essence and/or are having resistance to it.
You could use the practice when talking to your daughters, nieces, or any young women in your life that you are a role model too.
When else do you feel you could use it?
Notes:
Energetic Presence – (a.k.a. “The Light Globe”)
Our Energetic Presence is the tingling, vibrating energy we feel inside our physical body, as well as the energy that expands out from our body. This is something we can’t see but can feel. We have control over whether we choose to feel the energy or not. The conscious decision to feel your energetic presence is the mechanism that flips the switch to effortlessly shine your Light and your radiance. The energy that expands out from our body can be big and spacious, or small and contracted. We have control over this also. We increase our “presence” and become more visible when our energetic presence is big and spacious. Be aware of how much energetic space you take up. To do this, you first need to be present with your body.
Guided Meditation
(This meditation is on the Feminine Presence Meditation CD
if you want to use that for your classes)
“Close your eyes and bring your attention to your hands. Shake them or rub them together for a few seconds to stir up the energy in your hands. Hold your hands still for a moment. Feel the energy that is moving inside your hands. Now feel the energy that is radiating off your hands. This is what I call your energetic presence. Now feel your energetic presence that expands up your arms, into your torso, down your legs. Feel it in your whole body. Enjoy sitting with this for a moment. Now feel your energetic presence expand beyond your physical body. Feel it expand out to a little past an arm’s length. Imagine a beautiful ball of light energy that is through you and around you. Now feel where that ball of energetic presence stops—a little more than arm’s length out from your body. Imagine that is the outer layer of your energetic presence. Notice what it feels like to have your energetic presence big and spacious. I invite you now to contract your energetic presence, imagining that the outer layer is now just 1 inch out from your skin. Notice what that feels like for a minute. Then expand your energetic presence again just past arm’s length. Feel it big and spacious. Notice what is going on for a minute. Then contract it once again. This final time I invite you to expand your energetic presence big and spacious again, but also keep your attention on the center point of your pelvis (your Womb Space), which is the center point of this ball of energetic presence. Notice what you feel for a moment and how this differs from just expanding your light ball. Now open your eyes and as we discuss what that felt like, continue to feel your energetic presence inside your body and radiating out.”
Get feedback from group as to what they felt with each of these instructions.
Discussion questions
• What “rooms” do you shrink in?
• Who has fear they are going to be too bright or too big?
• Remind the women that people are going to judge them anyway.
• They will judge you if you are too big.
• They’ll judge you if you shrink.
• They’ll judge you if you always complain.
• And, they’ll judge you if you always have a smile on your face.
• You might as well be big and happy.
Tips for use:
There are unlimited situations in which you could use this practice.
This practice is great for you to get used to owning your own space -- that is naturally yours already -- not just physically, but energetically, too.
It’s good for those that feel unsafe or nervous in crowds, but want to be seen more.
It can help give you more "room" between you and others—especially if you are usually shrinking in your energy and others tend to encroach upon you.
If you notice your Light Globe is way out there all over everyone and everything, or
“splashy,” or nebulous, bring it in to a little more than arm’s length around you. This is not to make you smaller; this is to help you be more contained, and, therefore, more potent and powerful -- which will make you more radiant and attractive.
What situations in your life can you think of that you could use it?
* Inspired by and adapted from the Dahn Yoga practice.
Notes:
Feeding our Longing to Be Seen
*** Before sharing the title or context for this practice, ask each participant, “Bring to mind a man who you feel is a great representation of strength, integrity, presence, compassion, and who you think is also very sexy, handsome, and masculine. It could be a celebrity, someone you don’t know, or someone you know personally – but is NOT your significant other or a relative.” Tell them that this man is going to show up in the scene that you will be painting for them. Your significant other, or if you are single, a blind date will also show up in the scene.
(The following guided visualization will give each participant a sense of how they react to a lot of male attention. Read slowly – with lots of pauses.)
Have participants get comfortable and close their eyes.
Guided Visualization:
“Imagine that you are in a beautiful, elegant restaurant. You have arrived and are waiting for your date—that could be your husband, partner, or a blind date. You walk over to the bar in this restaurant, order a drink, and sit down to wait. On this evening, you are looking spectacular. You feel great in your body and are looking forward to your date. Take a moment to notice how you are feeling in your body.
You look around the restaurant at the people eating. You glance over at the door as you watch people come in. Notice again how you are feeling, physically and energetically.
All of a sudden you see a man come in that has a lot of presence. Then, you realize it is the man that came to your mind before. His masculine presence is palpable, and you notice other people notice this as he walks through the restaurant and towards the bar. He is walking in your direction. Notice how your body responds when you see him coming your way. Then, you realize he is approaching you. He sits next to you. He looks at you and with a warm smile introduces himself. Notice how your body responds to his presence. Notice how you are feeling right now. He proceeds to put 100% of his attention on you in this moment.
It’s clear that he is not there to pick you up, he is just so present with you and the conversation, it’s like you are the only one in the room. You continue the conversation with him and he puts more and more of his attention on you. How are you feeling now? How are you responding? Someone eventually comes over to you and it’s the person that he has been waiting for. He turns to you and says, ‘it was a pleasure to meet you. Enjoy your evening.’ He walks away. You are left there, somehow changed. Right at that moment, your date comes over to greet you. You are very happy to see your date and off you walk to your table and proceed to have a great evening together.”
Ask participants to note what came up for them during the meditation, and have them gently open their eyes. Ask the participants: “How did it feel to have that man put so much attention on you? How did your body feel and react? How do you react usually when you have a lot of attention on you? How does it feel when you have a lot of healthy, integral, masculine male attention on you?”
This is a great time to share more about why witnessing each other is so important and why we do so much of it in class. For example, you can read this:
“All effective advertising plays right into what we most want. If you flip through a woman’s magazine and notice the jewelry ads, in most of them you’ll see the woman looking at the camera and the man staring at her. He is not looking away, or looking at the camera, he is looking at her, as if she is the most beautiful thing he has ever seen. The advertising strategists understand the nature of the feminine essence, just like all good movie makers and songwriters. They know that underneath her nonchalant façade, a feminine woman wants loving attention—she longs to be seen.
Within us and in life there is “the witness” that notices everything, as well as all the things that are witnessed and noticed. The part of us that is the witness notices our thoughts, feelings, the people and colors around us, etc. Those thoughts, feelings, people, and colors are part of all that is witnessed. The masculine essence seeks to transcend towards spirit, and primarily associates with the witness of everything.
The feminine essence longs to be fully embodied and primarily associates with all that is witnessed. He wants to be appreciated for what he does. He likes to put his attention on things.
She wants to be understood and seen for who she is without needing to do anything. She represents the flow of everything; conversation, emotion, decoration, etc. She wants healthy loving attention, and often.
This is not a desire sprung from weakness, as I previously judged it to be, but from an impulse to grow. Healthy attention is like water and food; if we don’t get it, we don’t grow, and when we stop growing, we die. It is that important. You can tell a woman who is seen by the people in her life by her vibrancy, her health, her skin, and her smile. She is well fed and it shows.”
Tips for use:
You could take note of the reaction you had to the masculine attention during this practice. The next time you have a lot of this kind of attention on you, resist going back into that same habit. Use your other AFP practices to stay home, present, and connected to your enjoyable feminine essence.
How can you use this practice to prepare for something coming up in your life?
*The guided visualization in this practice was inspired by and adapted from Shianna Walker’s Art of Being a Woman class.
Notes:
Feminine Activation Points
There are 3 main activation points for the feminine essence. When our attention is at all three of these points our feminine presence increases dramatically and immediately.
The 3 points are:
1. Attention on our Womb Space.
2. Hips activated with movement.
3. Soft heart, penetrating love.
Invite a volunteer to stand in front of the group. Tell the audience that you are going to whisper three instructions to this woman and ask them to notice what shifts they see in her after she follows my instructions. Ask them to notice what they see as well as how they feel towards the woman.
Whisper in her ear the first instruction:
“Bring all of your attention down to the center point of your pelvis, which is about 3 inches below the navel and inside the body. Focus on that point and feel your legs ground to the earth.”
Wait 30 seconds or so and let the audience notice her state before whispering in her ear the second instruction:
“Shift your weight to one side so you are standing with one hip out a little.
Feel the sensuality in your hips.”
Wait 30 seconds or so and let the audience notice her state before whispering in her ear the third instruction:
“Soften your heart as much as you can. Imagine there is a loving light coming from your heart. Now shine that loving light on all the women in front of you. Look at them as if they are the most beautiful group of women you’ve ever seen.”
Wait 30 seconds & let the audience notice her state before getting audience feedback. If anyone starts feedback sooner than that, ask them to wait.
By this time the audience will see and feel a change in this woman.
• Ask the audience to share some appreciations to this woman regarding
what they saw shift or expand. Make sure it’s feedback that is affirming
and not critical of the woman in front.
• Once the feedback is complete, share with the audience what the three instructions were
• And, that these are the 3 activation points if you want to increase your
feminine presence.
• Invite them to follow these three instructions as you share them with the
group. They will at least be able to feel what it feels like to be in this state.
TIP: Feel free to coach a woman at the front of the room on this one. Do this so that the audience really sees and feels the change, if the woman is having some challenge with this one. Ask the audience what they notice that changes when she in in these activation points.
Be sure and state the truth if she’s still not quite there — for everyone's sake. You could keep whispering to her something like, “Beautiful.... We’re not quite there yet, keep dropping down even further into your Womb Space.” At the end of each woman being a volunteer in front of the room, ask everyone, “Everyone, please give ***** a hand for being so brave and doing so well.
Alternate Version:
Invite all the participants to leave the room momentarily, but keep two volunteers in the room with you. Take one through the activation points and have her stand in that power. Instruct the other woman to do nothing, just stand there when the rest of the women are now invited back into the room. Before the participants come back into the room, ask them to notice which woman they feel more drawn to connect to? Usually 100% of the women choose the woman that has activated the feminine. Have a discussion with the group about why they feel drawn to this woman, and teach them the three activation points. At the end of the discussion give an appreciation and thank you to the woman that was instructed to be in her “head bubble” so she doesn’t feel rejected, and remind her she was just playing the part of someone not in their feminine presence.
Tips for use:
This is the perfect one to use with your romantic partner. It’s also perfect to use when you feel your life force and joy meter are low. If on stage, at work, or with family, use it and simply feel more of the second point but make the physical part of the hip shift more subtle. Notice how masterful you can be at this.
Practice the point(s) that are most difficult for you.
What situations can you think of in your life to practice this one?
Notes:
Forgiving the Feminine
This practice creates an opportunity to feel the pain caused by other women in order to bring forgiveness to these memories and people. Forgiveness is the act that reclaims your lost energy and power. You do not need to agree or condone the other person’s actions, just forgive them.
If you have 8 or more participants, create an inner circle and outer circle. Both circles will be facing each other. The inner circle will be group A and the outer group B. If you have less than 8, ask them to pair up with someone different when they are told to move to the next station. Half of the participants will be group A and the other half group B.
Read this script slowly -- with many long pauses when needed.
Station 1:
“Open your eyes, and look at each other with soft eyes. There are so many different parts to each of us, some may feel and look light, other parts may feel and look dark. We have all parts inside us. This sister in front of you has all those parts inside of her. Notice the qualities you see in this woman standing before you. No judgment, just notice what you see. Give each other a Namaste bow to complete. Outer circle move to your right.”
Station 2:
“I invite the inner circle to stand in a receptive mode; there is nothing you have to do. Outer circle, move in towards this dear sister and put one hand gently on her back, behind her heart and the other hand gently on the front of her heart. Create a current of healing energy between your hands sending it through her heart. Feel the part of this woman who has been hurt by other women. We all have. As you continue to send healing energy through her heart say gently to her, ‘I am so sorry on behalf of any sister who has hurt you. May I help heal your heart from this hurt.’ Continue to send healing energy for another minute. Inner circle, keep breathing and allowing this sweet sister into your heart. Give each other a Namaste bow to complete. Outer circle move to your right.”
Station 3:
“I invite the inner circle to close your eyes and think of a woman who has hurt you. You may have thought she was a loving sister, and she may actually have been so, but she caused pain to your heart. A part of her that felt and looked dark hurt you. Feel that person’s soul coming into the room. Invite her here now. I invite the outer circle to feel this person too, even though you don’t know her personally. She is a woman who hurt this beautiful sister in front of you. That part of her that hurt you is in all of us. Inner circle, allow your sister in front of you to represent this woman who hurt you. I invite the outer circle to feel the part of this woman who is truly sorry and now lean in and whisper, ‘I am sorry that I hurt you. Please forgive me,’ along with any other brief words that come to you to share. (Pause for a moment of silence.) Now, inner circle, feel this woman and if you choose to forgive her (even if it’s just a little bit), tell her so. Give each other a Namaste bow to complete. Outer circle move to your right.”
Station 4:
“I invite the outer circle to stand in a receptive mode, there is nothing you have to do. Inner circle, move in towards this dear sister and put one hand gently on her back, behind her heart and the other hand gently on the front of her heart. Create a current of healing energy between your hands sending it through her heart. Feel the part of this woman who has been hurt by other women. We all have. As you continue to send healing energy through her heart say gently to her, ‘I am so sorry on behalf of any sister who has hurt you. May I help heal your heart from this hurt.’ Continue to send healing energy for another minute. Outer circle, keep breathing and allowing this sweet sister into your heart. Give each other a Namaste bow to complete, and outer circle move to your right.”
Station 5:
“I invite the outer circle to close your eyes and think of a woman who has hurt you. You may have thought she was a loving sister, and she may have actually been so, but she caused pain to your heart. A part of her that felt and looked dark hurt you. Feel that person’s soul coming into the room. Invite her here now. I invite the inner circle to feel this person too, even though you don’t know her personally. She is a woman who hurt this beautiful sister in front of you. That part of her that hurt you is in all of us. Outer circle, allow your sister in front of you to represent this woman who hurt you. I invite the inner circle to feel the part of this woman who is truly sorry and now lean in and whisper, ‘I am sorry that I hurt you. Please forgive me,’ along with any other brief words that come to you to share. (Pause for a moment of silence.) Now, outer circle feel this woman and if you choose to forgive (even if it’s just a little bit), her tell her so. Give each other a Namaste bow to complete and outer circle move to your right.”
Station 6:
“Inner and outer circle simultaneously: Close your eyes, feel your body. Feel the opening in your heart. In a moment you are going to open your eyes and look at the woman in front of you from your 4¬year-old perspective. See her as four years old too. Open your eyes. With your eyes and face only (not words), tell her that you want to play with her. Wouldn’t it be fun to play for a while? Silently ask her, ‘do you want to come and play?’ Give each other a big hug to complete and outer circle move to your right.”
Station 7:
“Open your eyes, and look at each other. Notice the Light qualities you see in this woman standing before you. Send her love through your soft eyes. Send her gratitude for being your sister in this game we play. Give each other a receptive hug to complete.”
The teacher may decide to add another station if you want to get creative. Do not have a discussion after this process. Instead, keep everyone internal with their experience and move them into the Feminine Presence Meditation.
If you end this practice just before break, you can go directly into a silent break, and have them journal or take a walk by themselves. When you come back from break, go directly into the Warm Up Feminine Presence Meditation.
Tips for use:
You can remember to use this practice when it becomes apparent that you still have lingering resentments or old hurts around another woman.
How can you use the energy of this practice in your life?
Notes:
Healing the Heart and Yoni Split
This practice will help align the heart energy and sexual energy—to create a relationship between the two energies so they work together for you, not against you. Yoni is the Sanskrit name for vagina. Yoni sounds so much nicer to the ear most of the time. We have metaphorically severed ourselves at the waist and created a split between our sexuality and our heart and spiritual awareness. This split starts early in childhood for most of us. Taboos against sexual feelings are passed down from sexually repressed adults. Sexual abuse, whether overt or subtly intrusive leaves children defensive in the lower parts of their body. The cultural repression is reinforced by many traditional religions that preach that spirituality and sexuality represent the forces of good and evil respectively.
Most women live from the waist up. If they do venture below the waist, energetically or otherwise, they disconnect from their heart in the process, which causes all sorts of problems. Women who live from the waist down often make bad choices in men. They attract guys who they don’t love, or who don’t have the capacity to love them, but think they are hot, and good in bed. Women who live from the waist up experience very little juiciness and passion and have a hard time manifesting in the real world. They may attract men that have a deeper capacity for emotional maturity and love, but who do not turn them on. We may have moments of living below the waist, or above the waist, but true empowerment comes when they are both connected to us, and communicate with each other.
Ask the group to share their experience of this split, including yours.
Guided Meditation
This can be done sitting, standing or lying down. The following is an example of the words you can use.
“Feel the center point of your yoni muscles (squeeze and release the muscles). It breathes in and out. Allow yourself to connect with your yoni. Take your time. (Pause for at least 1-2 minutes) Feel the center point of your heart. It breathes in and out. Allow yourself to connect with your heart. (Pause for at least 1-2 minutes) Now feel both areas breathing together. They both breathe in, and both breathe out together. (Pause for at least 1-2 minutes) Feel them communicating and moving as one.”
(This meditation is on the Feminine Presence Meditation CD if you want to use that for your classes)
Additional Practice
At the end of any heart and yoni meditation, heart and womb meditation, or the Feminine Presence Meditation™ you can bring more attention to the connection between these centers by inviting each center to gently smile at the other centers. For example, you can say “Feel your heart space gently smiling (pause). Now feel your heart gently smiling to your Womb Space (pause). Feel your Womb Space gently smiling back to your heart space (pause). Feel the two centers appreciating each other and connecting.
Tips for use:
This is a great practice to heal the split if you’ve notices any of the dynamics talked about earlier – making bad choices in masculine partners, having a difficult time manifesting in the real world, or feeling a lack of passion in a relationship. It could also be used in love, money, owning value, respect, connection, feelings of safety and creative expression, etc.
What part of your life do you feel could be affected by this practice?
Notes:
Less is More
This practice will help participants feel the optimal pace for the movement in the Feminine Presence Meditation™. The feminine rhythm is much slower than the fast paced world in which we. In life, the feminine essence listens underneath the noise; it listens between the words to what is going on under the surface. The same is true for the meditation. Each woman is asked to move underneath the beat; to slow way down, and savor every subtle movement. Less is More when it comes to movement that helps us feel and expand our feminine presence.
First practice:
You can put this into your own words or use the script below:
"Begin to walk around the room fast without bumping into each other. Notice what it feels like to move fast."
You might need to say “move faster” if some of them are not moving really fast.
After a minute: "Ok, stop. Find a partner, and share quickly what you did today, and how you feel about what you did." Have them share for one minute each, being sure to have them switch.
"Ok, walk again around the room, but this time at half the pace you were previously walking."
After a minute: "Stop, find the same partner, and share what you did today and how you feel about what you did, in half the speed with half as many words as you did the first time. Notice how that feels."
Share for one minute each, being sure to have them switch.
After a sharing: "Walk around the room again, this time very slowly." (PAUSE) I want you to walk as slow as you can go, but keeping the flow. Don’t slow down too much that it feels like there is no flow, but challenge yourself to go as slow as you can go, while keeping the flow."
After a minute: "Stop, find the same partner, and share what you did today and how you feel about what you did, very slowly with hardly any words. Notice how that feels."
Share for one minute each, being sure to have them switch.
Give the participants 2- 3 minutes to share with their partner in this practice what they noticed in each of the 3 paces. After the pairs have discussed what they noticed, you can ask the group as a whole what they noticed and hear from at least 2 people in the room.
At this point you can ask questions to the group on what they noticed.
2nd Phase of this Practice:
This practice will help participants feel the optimal pace for the movement in the Feminine Presence Meditation™.
Prepare a piece of music to play that has a fast beat. (We recommend “Closer to Madness” by Jesse Cook) Tell them that, "As soon as the music begins, with focus, begin tilting and tucking as fast as you can. Your eyes will be closed."
Play the music.
For the first minute of the piece of music ask them to, "Tilt and tuck very fast."
You might need to say “move faster” if some of them are not moving really fast.
At the second minute mark in the music ask them to, "Slow your movement down to half the speed. Now you should be moving at a medium pace. As you shift gears, be aware of how you feel inside your body and what changes you notice."
At the third minute mark in the music ask them to, "Slow your movement down to half the speed again. Now you are moving very slowly. As you shift gears, be aware of how you feel inside your body and what changes you notice. "
At the fourth minute mark in the music ask them to, "Stay very slow in your tilting and tucking and find that perfect pace for you that allows you to become present to the internal sensations in your body and what brings you the most pleasurable feeling. It should feel really good! This might be a fraction slower or a fraction faster." Music finishes.
To feel the movement at different speeds will help you prove why the slow pace of the movement is critical. Sometimes you will encounter a person who feels like moving slow inhibits their power and is constricting. Actually, the more we contain and move slower, the more authentic power we feel.
Additional practice:
Ask the participants to do a simple act, such as, “Stand up and raise your hands above your heads and back down very slowly." Or, "Stand up and circle your hips very slowly." As they do this, invite them to, "Do it in a way that is as enjoyable as possible." They can pair up and share what they noticed or have a group conversation.
Tips for use:
This practice can be used when finding the perfect rhythm for your meditation, when intimate with your partner, when eating a delicious dinner, or when finding your perfect rhythm when working out.
You can use this practice in any area of your life to find the most enjoyable and efficient rhythm.
What other areas of your life do you feel it would be effective?
Notes:
The Light Shadow
Prepare pens and paper for each participant. Ask them to:
“Think of a woman who inspires you a great deal – someone you admire and look up to. Write that woman’s name at the top of the page. Think of another woman who inspires you – someone you admire and look up to. Write that woman’s name 1/3rd of the way down the page. Think of another woman who inspires you – someone you admire and look up to. Write that woman’s name 2/3rds of the way down the page. You should now have 3 names down on your paper.”
(Then ask) “What are the qualities that you most love, admire and respect about these women?” (Give the participants a few minutes to write them down)
(Then ask) “Can you see any themes amongst these women? Circle the qualities that you see are common amongst all three of these women, or at least 2 of these women.”
Have each participant finish with at least 2 possibly 3 qualities that they most admire from this collective group of women and write those at the top corner of their paper.
Then have participants move into groups of 3. (Groups of 2 is fine also if you don’t have at least 30 minutes to do this practice)
Have them Share the three characteristics that you saw in your respected women one at a time using an “I am” Statement. For example, “I am determined” or “I am sensual.” Allow the participants in your group to help you choose the one that was the hardest for you to admit in public. That one becomes the Light Shadow they will work with in this session and throughout the week."
* Now you (the teacher) can share this section:
“There are aspects of us that we accept and comfortably express. There are other aspects that we reject and suppress. We suppress certain parts of ourselves because at one time or another we received the message that they were not ok, or they were ‘bad.’ These aspects are referred to as our ‘shadow’ aspects. The problem is when we disown any part of us and push it away, it doesn’t disappear; instead it gets pushed into a dark corner of our unconscious world.
We are all of it. We are independent and dependent; love and fear; aggressive and passive; defensive and open; patient and impatient. Love, openness, and patience are what we call Light Shadows, and aggression, defensiveness, and impatience are what we will call Dark Shadows. We all have access to both ends of these spectrums. If we don’t acknowledge all aspects of us (and our society), then those parts we have hidden away in dark corners will inevitably start clamoring for attention.
Bringing awareness and consciousness to ALL of us, including our feminine sides, gives us FREEDOM to be ALL that we want to be. The following practice will help bring more awareness to those Light Shadows we have not owned yet.”
Extended Group Practice:
Have the women stay in their original groups of 2 or 3 and chose which woman is going to go first with the second part of this practice. Have her state her Light Shadow to their group in an “I am” statement. The woman witnessing her statement will feel if this woman’s statement is being embodied. There may be certain places in her body that she is not feeling it. Tell her to notice where in her body she isn't letting it in, and to feel that place while she is stating her Light Shadow. Tell her to keep breathing.
After each time she says her “I am” statement, the woman witnessing responds with "Yes, you are, and I'd love to hear that again." The woman witnessing, keeps responding in this way with a loving, supportive, compassionate tone in her voice until she feels the woman is fully embodying her “I am” statement.
After she and they feel like she's got it as good as she's going to get for today, then the woman sharing her Light Shadow can move to the other person in the group of 3 to anchor her “I am” statement. If there are only 2 in a group, then that woman’s process is over and the 2 participants can switch places.
Each woman has at least 7-8 minutes being witnessed in her “I am” statement. If the woman embodies it within 1 – 2 minutes, it probably was not her most challenging Light Shadow and she can move to another quality for her “I am” statement.
After everyone has had their turn to be witnessed in their Light Shadow, invite the participants to embrace the idea that they are indeed this quality by saying something like, “This is one of your greatest gifts that has not been acknowledged and allowed. Move with this part of yourself in the meditation.”
Tips for use:
You can use this practice whenever you feel yourself projecting a lot of positive aspects onto another woman.
You can use it when you feel yourself desiring to go to the "next level", but are also having some resistance/fears around it.
When else can you feel would be a good time in your life to use this practice?
Notes:
Radiant Glow
This practice is best presented the week after the Energetic Presence practice.
Feminine Presence occurs when you have your inner vertical core turned on with your attention flowing there, and you effortlessly fill the room with your radiant glow at the same time. A metaphor to describe this is the light bulb. The filament is the inner vertical core, particularly the center point of your Womb Space. The light globe itself is your ball of Energetic Presence that surrounds your body, and your Radiant Glow is the light energy that fills the room. The stronger wattage in the filament means the light will be brighter and it will make the room glow more. Therefore your radiance is not something to project—something to try to make others notice. It comes from inside you. It brightens as you strengthen your vertical core.
In this practice, have pairs sit facing each other. Here’s a script to guide you through teaching this practice, or you can put it in our own words:
"Look at your partner with soft eyes. Notice her and how you feel in relationship to her. Remember this as we'll end the practice with giving each other some feedback.
Now, close your eyes, and find the center point of your Womb Space, and flow your attention there. This gives you an experience of what it feels like when your filament is strong (long pause). Now gently open your eyes and look at your partner in front of you. As you practice sitting back and down in your Womb Space and turning that light on there, notice how they look and feel different now that they have contacted their Womb Space.”
Keep them noticing each other for about 15 seconds.
Now, close your eyes again. Stay connected to that filament, your womb space, and now, activate your Energetic Presence around you by feeling it.
This is you turning on your Light Globe. Feel where the outer rim of that globe is and fill all the space inside with your presence and attention. Fill the back as well as the front. Your radiant glow comes from your containment of energy. You do not have to jump out of your space (out of your Light Globe) to light up the room. You just need to be resting home and feeling the energetic space around you.
Now gently open your eyes and look at your partner in front of you. As you practice sitting back and down in your Womb Space and feeling into that energetic space around you, notice how they look and feel different - now that they are home in their Womb Space and have turned on their Energetic Presence.”
Keep them noticing each other for about 15 seconds.
Now, close your eyes one last time. Stay connected to that filament, your Womb Space, and your Energetic Presence and the outer rim that contains that energy. Now, with your attention I want you to check out the other side of the room and notice if your radiance is affecting the room. You will not jump out of your Light Globe. Stay home, but simply see if your presence and radiance is affecting the other side of the room. Notice that your Light is affecting the room -- Your Light is filling the room. Sit with this for a few moments and allow yourself to feel how your radiance affects the room. (long pause). Now finally open your eyes and softly look at your partner. How does she feel to you now? What has shifted or changed?
Finish this process with about 3 – 5 minutes of time for each woman to share with her partner what she felt and witnessed.
If you have time, you may finish this process with a discussion in the larger group.
Tips for use:
This practice is ideal for you to realize and experience how much your radiance can affect and inspire a room. The masculine essence is attracted to Light.
What situations in your life can you think of to use this practice?
Notes:
Receptive Body
A woman’s ability to receive is not just about her beliefs and mindset. It’s about how she holds her body, physically and energetically. Is your body open to receive all that you want? This practice will help each woman see how she is letting in love and abundance and how she is not.
Receiving Meditation
“Soften your body as you lie down on your back. Close your eyes and take some deep breaths as you soften and open your body to receive. Bring your attention to your hands and notice how your hands feel when they are in giving mode. Imagine they are giving energy to someone.
Now, imagine opening your hands to let all the love and abundance in that wants to come flowing to you. Your hands are now in receptive mode.
Now move your attention to your heart. Bring your attention to your heart and notice how your heart feels when it is in giving mode. Imagine your heart is giving energy to someone.
Now, imagine opening your heart to let all the love and abundance in that wants to come flowing to you. Your heart is now in receptive mode.
Now move your attention to your yoni. Bring your attention to your yoni and notice how your yoni feels when it is in giving mode. Imagine your yoni is giving energy to someone. Now, imagine opening your yoni to let all the love and abundance in that wants to come flowing to you. Your yoni is now in receptive mode. Next do the same with the attention on your longing. Bring your attention to something you long for. Now, imagine yourself opening to this longing. Allow this longing and feel your body opening to let all the love and abundance in that wants to come flowing to you.
Finally, put your attention on your whole body at the same time. Feel what it’s like to have a receptive body— open to letting all the love and abundance in that wants to come flowing to you. Remember, your body and energy are signals to source, saying you are open or not open to receiving. Practice being in receptive body as much as you can.”
Receiving Love Hugs (originally taught by Bill Kauth)
“As you move towards a person to hug them, lean to your right so your hearts are lined up. Embrace and soften your body. Let your Womb Space drop and receive their hug. If you believe that everyone is whole and complete then there is no need to give the hug, but for both of you to receive the hug.”
The Back Body
“Feeling into the back side of your body, and the back of your ‘Light Globe’ helps to be in receptive mode. In the warm up mediation, take up more space in the back of your body and light globe. Notice what occurs when you embody the back of your body and light globe more fully. “
Tips for use:
This practice is a powerful one for manifestation of all things — love, money, happiness, etc.
It instantly shifts you into Yin essence and makes you more magnetic to the masculine essence.
Use it when you are with your romantic partner, in a networking room, out in nature.
You can also use it when you are feeling drained from over giving and over stimulation.
Where else do you feel this practice would be useful in your life?
Notes:
Staying Open — Even When it Hurts
Talk about the 3 attempts at love. You can refer to Rachael Jayne’s book, Powerful and Feminine, where this topic begins on page 149.
1st: I need to get love from someone else.
2nd: I don’t need anyone else because I can give myself the love I need. So if we get together, let’s have a completely equal relationship.
3rd: I don’t need to keep giving love to myself. I embody love. Relationship is an opportunity to give love unconditionally, without expectations of return. I vow to be the vessel that divine love flows through—to the best of my ability—no matter what happens.
When a woman is in this third phase and something or someone hurts her, she stays open—there is no need to guard her heart anymore. She always expresses love in service to the world; through her smile, her words, her body, and her voice.
This does not mean that she allows herself to be taken advantage of, or give of her energy more than what’s healthy for her. It does not mean that she lets toxic people invade her space.
She includes herself at the center of the world that she loves, rather than forgets herself. She puts her own oxygen mask on and keeps it there whenever needed before she puts anyone else’s on. A person who is used to making choices from the 1st attempt phase would think this advice is crazy, but from the 3rd phase it makes sense and is a healthy way to relate to others and the world around her.
Be prepared with your own personal story of “popping through” to the other side after being present with your pain. Remember, this is not about stuffing down your pain or not feeling it, it’s about being present in your body with it until it starts to “dissolve.”
* Prepare a piece of music that is at least 5 minutes in length.
"Stand up and find a place in the room that is your own. Stand with your feet hip width apart, knees slightly bent, and arms lifted up to your sides at a 45 degree angle from your body. Your palms should be facing up and elbows soft. Close your eyes and find the center point of your Womb Space and heart."
*Start the music, and ask them to, "Start slowly tilting and tucking the pelvis with the focus on opening the heart area as you do this."
*This is a stress position and after a few minutes it will start to hurt them. Don’t tell them that it will. Keep verbally encouraging with words like,
“Stay open and present to the body even if it hurts. It’s just what is happening in the moment. It is temporary. Stay in your body and keep opening your heart.”
In the last 2 minutes of the stress position ask the participants to, "Breathe from your Womb Space sending energy up to open and feed your heart."
Move into the Feminine Presence Meditation™ from here without discussion. Often it brings up a lot of emotion and it is best if that is not “shut down” by intellectual talking.
If it is before break, have them go into a silent break where they can journal.
Tips for use:
You can use this practice to open your heart to a more fully embodied love.
Where in your life do you feel you could embody this practice?
Notes:
Stop Projecting
We all try to project personal qualities that we want others to think we have. For example, “I want to be seen as sweet and lovely” or “I want to be seen as smart and capable.” We may actually have some of these qualities, but when they’re forced and not coming from an authentic place, we have less presence. People can pick it up that you are not being yourself or you are trying too hard. When you stop projecting and are just “home in your skin,” you reach your authentic self. That’s what people connect to. Ask each of the participants to share one quality or persona that they try to project a lot.
Projection feels like that quality is being energetically pushed out in front of them, with the fear that if they don’t they won’t be perceived as that quality. The teacher can demonstrate what that looks like and feels like.
Invite the participants into pairs. One person will be A and one person will be B. Ask person A to walk around the room with their attention outside their “head bubble.” After a minute or so call them back to their partner and invite them to talk from in their head space on the topic of the teacher’s choice. Person B witnesses what that mode feels like and looks like.
Person A is now invited to walk around the room projecting the quality that they most tend to project. After a minute or so invite them back to talk from their projection on the topic of the teacher’s choice. Do not share with your partner at this point what your quality is that you are projecting. Person B witnesses what that mode feels like and looks like. As they walk around, ask the witness, “How would you feel about this woman if you did not know her?”
Finally, person A is invited to walk around the room connected to their Womb Space, imagining that they are slightly leaning back into their body and not projecting anything. After a minute or so call them back and invite them to speak from their Womb Space without projecting anything on the topic of the teacher’s choice. Allow 3-4 minutes for person B (the witness) to give feedback on what they appeared like and how they felt towards them in each scenario.
Repeat the above exercise with person B now being the one to walk and talk.
Finish with 3-4 minutes of feedback time. Person A shares what it felt like when they were in each mode, then person B shares her experience. They also each share what they witnessed. They can at this point share with their partner what quality they were projecting, only if they want to.
Tips for use:
You can use this practice when the stakes are high and you are walking into a room where you really want to make an impression in.
Where else do you project in your life? Could you use this practice and awareness in that place?
Notes:
Sustain and Circulate Pleasure
How much can you enjoy your body, your movement, your life, and the pleasure that is in the present moment? This practice will help increase the amount of joy and pleasure you can contain in your body, before leaking it out, or feeling you are not worthy of it. Often, when we feel a lot of pleasure we want to disperse it— with eating, with orgasm, with letting it out through our voice (moaning, screaming). How can we keep this pleasure in our bodies and keep it moving, which will increase the light inside us? Don’t repress your pleasure; don’t put a lid on it; just keep it moving in you and for you. This will bless you and everyone else.
Part 1 – Grounded in one place
"Isolate different parts of your body, like your hand, or your neck. How much can you enjoy moving your hand? How much can you enjoy moving your neck? “Feel into” the maximum pleasure of that simple movement. How much can you enjoy moving your arms? Find that sweet spot that when you move it, it feels so good."
Part 2 – Moving
"Slowly walk around the room. How much can you enjoy walking? How much can you enjoy your hip movement?"
(Put on some soft music)
"Allow yourselves to begin some slow movement, which does not have to be as contained as the Feminine Presence Meditation™. Discover where your “pleasure centers” are in your body. These are parts of the body that can quickly activate pleasure when you feel into it and move it in a particular way. For example, your hands might activate a lot of pleasure, or raising one heel slightly off the ground might activate this pleasure. It could be anything. Experiment and explore with this."
On occasion you might want to bring in some delicious food at the end of the class to see how much you can enjoy food.
Importance of Containment
This is a good evening to talk about the importance of containment of energy in the Feminine Presence Meditation™, and how we can disperse the energy. When the energy moves up our spine from our root chakra and arrives at the head, imagine bringing the energy down the front of your face by placing your tongue behind your top teeth and imagine it traveling down the front of your body.
If we move our hips to the side too quickly it can also leak the energy out. Even though hip circles are great, each participant should be always aware of the vertical energy and containing that. Sometimes when I bring up this conversation some women make the meditation too intellectual and they move out of the flow. Be aware of this and don’t focus too much on the technique of the meditation at any one time.
Verbal Guidance
During the Feminine Presence Meditation Warm Up, say things like:
“How much pleasure can you feel in your face?”
“How much pleasure can you feel in the tilting and the tucking?”
“Can you feel the pleasure move up and through your body, and also move back down and inside your body?”
Tips for use:
This is a great practice of course to use when you are doing anything using your senses. And, you can use it to make the most mundane tasks, like doing the dishes, more sensual, and therefore more enjoyable.
You can use this practice raise your joy level and your body awareness--which both increase your Presence tremendously.
You also use this practice when you are feeling flat or dreary. It's a powerful tool for a happier life!
Where else in your life could you use this practice?
Notes:
The Art of Following
The Horse and Rider inspirational piece (by Lakota Sioux, found in the Inspirational section of this manual) partners well with this exercise. Read and discuss. The feminine essence enjoys following and not needing to direct and make things happen all the time. However, feminine following is not blind faith. You follow who you trust, and knowing who and what you can trust takes deep listening. It also requires patience and waiting for guidance.
The following invitations can be done together, or the teacher could choose one or two to focus on.
Follow the impulse to speak: 1) Have your participants break into pairs and choose a person A and B, and who will go first. "Person A, hold silence until you feel moved to share something. Wait, listen, and follow what you feel moved to share. Person B, simply hold space for your partner with presence." Do this for a few minutes, then switch partners. Have them share what that was like for them.
2) To add some challenge, you can invite one person at a time to stand up in front of the entire group and hold silence, while the group holds space for them, and have them wait until they feel moved to share something with the group.
Follow the impulse to move: 1) Wait, listen, and follow. This could be used when tuning in to which area of the room you want to sit, or meditate.
2) In the Feminine Presence Meditation, bring more attention to waiting and following that which is moving you.
Follow the impulse to relate to another: When choosing whom to partner with in class practices or in your everyday life, wait, listen and follow whom you are led to partner with.
Follow your internal guidance with an important question.
(The Receiving Guidance Meditation from the Feminine Presence Meditation CD could be used here)
Have paper and pens ready for everyone. Put some soft reflective music on and give the participants time to get into a state of love and gratitude. When they feel they are connected to a high vibration state, ask them to write down the question that they most want an answer to. Invite them to practice in waiting for the answer and not rushing to come up with one. Allow your inner guidance, or guides, or God (whatever feels best to each individual) to share an answer. They can write it down when it comes.
Tips for use: You could use this practice during peaceful times in your life, so that you can get good at it while it's easy. Then when times get challenging and the benefit of following your internal wisdom is vital, you will have established it in yourself.
Experiment with following your impulse in places in your life that you wouldn't normally think of.
Where in your life do you feel you could use this practice?
Notes:
Two Bodies Move as One
We have a physical body and an energetic body. When we move both of these together with focus and intention, our presence and joy levels increase. Some people tend to move in a very physical way and others more energetic. A balance of 50/50 with the feminine enjoyment is something to behold.
Invite everyone to stand up and move their hands in 3 different ways to notice what happens in each mode.
1st: Wave your hand through the air in a very physical way. Watch the dense matter of your physical hand moving through the air.
2nd: Wave your hand through the air in an energetic way. Feel the lightness of the energy in your hand moving through the air.
3rd: Wave both your physical and energetic hand through the air. Notice what it feels like when you move both your physical and energetic hands together.
Ask the group to share what they became aware of in each mode.
Next, have each woman walk the length of the room and back four times while everyone witnesses her. The first time she will walk how she usually walks down the street with no one watching. The second time she will walk with only with her physical body. The third time she will walk focusing on her energetic body. The fourth time she will walk with both her physical and energetic bodies. Once she is finished, the group can give her some feedback if she is open, as to whether she naturally tends to walk more physical or more energetic.
Helpful Tips:
Often a woman is more energetic or physical in the upper body and the opposite in the lower body. Sometimes a woman can have a strong balance but because she shrinks her energy field it doesn’t look as powerful and feminine as another woman. Encourage her to feel how wide her energy space is. Some women leak so much energy out of the top of their head, that they look really energetic in the top half. Instruct her to put an energetic helmet on her head or a crown to feel how the energy can’t escape.
Watch and comment on these things when you see them. They are great learning moments for the participants.
In the Feminine Presence Meditation™ for this class, the participants are invited to practice adding in the “body” that is least natural for them, given the feedback they just received. Start tilting and tucking the pelvis as the music begins, slowly moving both the physical and energetic hips and pelvis together.
Tips for use:
This is a good practice to use when you notice your energy going flat, which decreases your presence and magnetism.
What situations in your life can you think of that you could use this practice?
Notes:
Unguarded Protection
What does it feel like to not close down your heart, but still have strong boundaries? This exercise will help you feel that this is possible.
You will be giving the participants an experience of not being energetically protected when they are in their head bubble, then noticing what it’s like being somewhat protected, and then fully protected. The participants must get really good at being home in their Womb Space and feeling their energetic “Light Globe,” — their Energetic Presence. Noticing the boundaries of their energetic presence is critical.
In this practice the teacher will act as the person who is trying to come inside someone’s energy field and drain them. The teacher can do this by imagining they are jumping out of their body and over into the participants energy and body. You can think, "I want something from them," if word prompts help you. You will do this three times as the participant follows the three different instructions.
Have your students stand up in a row or a circle and spread out to where their fingers don't touch when they put their arms out.
Explain that are you are going to play the part of someone with draining or predator energy and come over into their space--to give them a chance to feel three different ways of dealing with it. You can apologize in advance if you'd like.
"The first round will be with no protection. You will stand there with no attention inside your bodies. Notice how it feels when I come up to you and invade your space."
"In this second one, you will put focus on your Womb Space. Completely inhabit your Womb Space, your pelvis, belly and notice how it feels when I come around this time."
"This third time, focus on your Womb Space, heart, and feel your energetic presence extend out a little more than an arm's length all around you, and as a barrier to me."
Have a discussion about how each felt to both the participant and the teacher.
Then, each participant will pair up and A will be the predator and B will practice the 3 different instructions mentioned above. Then, they will switch. They will have a few minutes at the end to talk about what they felt, observed, and discovered.
Tips for use:
You can use this practice when you are feeling uncomfortable setting boundaries -- whether subtly or in having to speak them. This could be with children, family, close friends, co-workers, etc.
You can also use this practice when interacting with someone who has draining energy, or predator energy. Usually this comes in the form of innocent people just talking too much and being boring.
What other situations can you think of?
Notes:
The Vertical Core
When connecting with someone else, it is important to stay focused in the center core of our bodies. Focusing on the 3 main points of our inner vertical core (center point of our pelvis, center point of our heart, and center point of our head) will help us do that. Some people think moving their energy over to merge with someone else’s is intimacy. It does not usually feel that way for the other person. It can feel mothering. Staying home in your center creates more intimacy, and more safety between two people. Sometimes we jump out of our core into others because we are concerned about what they think of us.
Imagine two telephone poles that are dug solidly into the ground. When they are strong and vertical the wire between them is strong and tight. Imagine two telephone poles that are not solidly in the ground, and instead they are slightly bending over towards each other. In this case the wire between them is slack. This is like the energetic relationship between two people. If the two are strong and centered the relationship will be strong. If the two people are not centered, the relationship cannot be strong.
Invite the participants to pair up and face their partner and then close their eyes. Take them through the following guided visualization using your own words or this script:
“First become aware of the center point of your pelvis – your Womb Space. Imagine a point of light there. See and feel that point of light breathing as you do. Bring all of your attention to this point and notice what it feels like. Now put all of your attention on the center point of the heart. Imagine a point of light there. See and feel that point of light breathing as you do. Bring all of your attention to this point and notice what it feels like. Now put all of your attention on the center point of your head. Imagine a point of light there. See and feel that point of light breathing as you do. Bring all of your attention to this point and notice what it feels like. Now put all of your attention on the three points at the same time. Imagine all the points of light there. See and feel the three points of light breathing together as you do. Bring all of your attention to these three points and notice what it feels like. Now with your attention on all three points, open your eyes and share with your partner what you noticed while staying in your vertical core. Be intensely aware if you move out of your core and into your partner’s field. Notice if and when you feel your partner moving over to your energy field.”
If time permits, open the discussion in the larger group so people can share what they noticed.
Tips for use:
This practice creates a stronger connection between you and others -- romantic, family, work, etc. Use it if you are feeling enmeshed with them, triggered by them, or if you find yourself "going over" energetically into their space for various reasons. For example, if you want something from them, you want their approval, thinking about them constantly, you want them to change, etc. Also, if you are in sales, a healing practitioner, therapist, or a coach, this is valuable practice.
Practice it in those highly positive or negative charged situations, and see what happens.
What other kinds of situations can you think of to use this practice?
Notes:
Vocal Power
History tells us of many times when it was life threatening for women to speak up and to share their beliefs and feminine power. This memory has been passed on through the generations, and we still reflect the unconscious effects of this. This practice will bring more awareness as to how you use your voice -- particularly when you keep it soft and weak.
Share with your participants that,
"Most women usually speak higher and/or softer than their authentic tone. Reflect on how you use your voice with the following questions."
“Are you aware of speaking quieter or higher in pitch at times?”
“Do you sometimes use a more ‘girly’ voice than a strong woman’s voice?”
“If yes, what situations move you into using your non-authentic tone?”
*You can have them share their answers at this point if you have time, or move on to:
Share these tips with them to increase their vocal power:
- Inhabit your throat, vocal chords, and tongue while talking. Flow energy to this part of your body by bringing your attention there. As when we flow energy to the Womb Space it gets strong, so will the voice increase in strength.
- Be aware of speaking in your authentic tone. Drop the pitch of your voice down to a comfortable range and speak at a strong volume.
- When you speak, feel the spacious dome inside your mouth.
- If the vaginal muscles are tight, the vocal chords can be as well. There is a physical and energetic correlation between the two. Bring your awareness to softening your vaginal muscles at the same time as inhabiting your throat and speaking. A side note: This is why it’s very difficult to sing well when you are menstruating.
Practice: Invite the participants to pair up and share something they feel passionate about while focusing on the above tips.
Pelvic Rocking – focus on the yoni and throat connection as you tilt and tuck the pelvis slowly. Keep this focus as they move into the Fem Presence Meditation.
Tips for use:
Use this practice when you really want to be heard or when you can feel yourself getting nervous when speaking.
What times in your own like do you feel you could use these tips with your voice?
Notes:
Walking with the Feminine
This is the practice I include in a private session with a new participant, or the first class with a whole new group of women. I like everyone to have an “in the body” experience of how the neutral energy, masculine energy, and feminine energy moves in the body early on in their class experience. Read through this practice a few times before you teach it, so you get a good knowledge of it. The following is an example of what I say when I take a participant through this exercise.
"This objective of this practice is for you to have an “in the body” experience of how the neutral energy, masculine energy, and feminine energy moves in your body."
"There is gender conditioning in the world. People can look "feminine”, but not necessarily feel their feminine energyMany women don't know they are actually in their masculine energy, but they've done enough study around the feminine to where they put a feminine "shell" on that masculine energy.”
At the beginning, invite them to:
"Be curious about what you feel during this practice. This will be your unique experience of each essence. This is an awareness process. Once you are aware, only then can you make a choice! This practice gets you to that place of choice. Set yourself up for curiosity by going into this like an experiment."
"Also be curious about letting the feminine be a doorway to feeling better in your life. Most women with a primary sexual essence of feminine say that it feels good for them."
"This is about joy, presence, and feeling good. What would happen if you were feeling MUCH better in your life?"
Before you start the process assure them that:
"We are not defining “the feminine” as only soft, flowing, emotional, passive, etc. These are the yin qualities of life. Women have both yin and yang qualities. To say women should only embody yin aspects of life is doing women a huge disservice. Assure them that in this work, we are not defining what feminine and masculine is – but, we are suggesting that there are some physical and energetic movements and suggestions that ignite more feminine energy and masculine energy and asexual energy. It’s those movements and that sexual essence in our body that we want to explore to see what it does to our magnetic presence."
"I will give you some queue's to help you get into this place so you can explore, and then we'll come back and we'll share what is happening in your body and in your attention when you are in these three aspects. Each one has a gift, and awareness around each gift is important. Are you ready to play with these gifts?"
“Stand up and become present to your body. Close your eyes and bring to mind a color that represents a neutral state—not connected to any sexual essence. Then, bring to mind a garment that feels very neutral to you—not at all masculine or feminine. If you were to put it on, you would feel very asexual. Imagine now putting that garment on, and as you do you feel all masculine energy and feminine energy draining out through your toes and fingertips. Now bring to your ear a sound that feels very neutral and asexual to you. Keep allowing all the masculine energy and all feminine energy to drain out your toes and fingertips. When you feel like you are in a neutral state start to walk around the room. Notice what you feel—physically, emotionally, and energetically. After a few minutes of walking in this state notice what you become aware of in the room. How aware of me are you as you walk around in neutral? Then notice how you feel in relationship to the other people in the room.”
After you have given the participant at least 2-3 minutes to walk in this state, ask them to join you in the center of the room and share what they noticed. At this time you may add your own experience of this state and other common feedback from other participants that have gone through this exercise. (Remember to ask them to be curious about where their attention is going and what they are feeling.)
“Next, walk with the masculine essence. Close your eyes and bring to mind a color that represents the masculine essence to you. Then, bring to mind a garment that feels very masculine to you. If you were to put it on, you would feel very masculine. Imagine now putting that garment on, and as you do you feel all neutral energy and feminine energy draining out through your toes and fingertips. Now bring to your ear a sound that feels very masculine to you. Keep allowing all the neutral energy and feminine energy to drain out through your toes, and being filled with 100% masculine energy. Notice what you feel—physically, emotionally and energetically. After a few minutes of walking in this state notice what you become aware of in the room. Then notice how you feel in relationship to the other people in the room.”
After you have given the participant at least 2-3 minutes to walk in this state, ask them to join you in the center of the room and share what they noticed. As before you may add your own experience of this state and share some common feedback from other participants that have previously gone through this exercise.
“Next, walk with the feminine essence. Close your eyes and bring to mind a color that represents the feminine essence to you. Then, bring to mind a garment that feels very feminine to you. If you were to put it on, you would feel very feminine. Imagine now putting that garment on, and as you do you feel all neutral energy and all masculine energy draining out through your toes and fingertips. Now bring to your ear a sound that feels very feminine to you. Keep allowing all the neutral energy and masculine energy to drain out through your toes, and being filled with 100% feminine energy. Notice what you feel—physically, emotionally and energetically. After a few minutes of walking in this state notice what you become aware of in the room. Then notice how you feel in relationship to the other people in the room.”
Immediately after you have given the participant at least 2-3 minutes to walk in this state, ask them to join you in the center of the room and share what they noticed. Add your own experience of this state and other feedback from other participants that have previously gone through this exercise.
You can complete this practice with asking the following questions and igniting a discussion about the practice.
• What did you feel? What did you like? What did you experience?
• Which are you mostly in during a normal day?
• Which mode feels more enjoyable?
• What are the differences in where your attention goes in the room
during each mode?
• This week, pay attention to the way you walk most of the time.
It’s hard to miss the fact that women and men walk differently. Women naturally swing their hips more and don’t walk as fast as men. There is a flow and grace to a feminine woman’s walk, and a directive, strident nature to a man’s.
When a woman walks with her feminine essence, her center of gravity and attention is lower in her body. It’s in her hips and belly, and the energy moves down her legs. She walks at her own pace while enjoying the sensuality in her body. When a woman walks with her feminine essence she is more aware of what is going on behind her as well as in front of her. When a woman walks with her masculine essence she is more aware of what is directly in front of her and her awareness of her over-all environment is reduced.
It’s true that some work places are more challenging to be in our feminine, but note: To walk with your feminine essence does not only mean that you have to walk slow, swing your hips from side to side in a sensual way, and not care about getting where you are going on time. That’s an elementary version of what the feminine essence is. The feminine essence also has a strong, authoritative nature to it—it will protect, it cares deeply, and it will not allow anything to go wrong on “her watch.” I can walk fast and be “on a mission” and still be connected to my legs, hips, belly, and surrounding environment. So if you find yourself in a place where the soft, sensuous feminine is not appropriate, think strong, grounded feminine that doesn’t need to push things out of her way, but creates waves as she purposefully moves through the room with ease.
Some women choose to work with me because they think they are in their masculine energy most of the time, and need to shift from masculine to feminine. What we discover together is that they are most often in a neutral state. It’s the shift from neutral to feminine that they need to explore the most. Which one is it for you?
Helpful Tips for you and your students:
Remember to invite them to be curious about:
What they feel during the practice,
Where their attention is going,
What is their unique experience of each essence (which can look and feel different on different days.)
If you notice that they are not entrained to the field that you want them entrained to, add your body in and do the practice with them.
When it goes well, there is a lot more enjoyment statements of ease, sensual, connection when in the Feminine.
Troubleshooting:
Before you start the process assure them that we are not defining “the feminine” as only soft, flowing, emotional, passive, etc. These are the yin qualities of life. Women have both yin and yang qualities. To say women should only embody yin aspects of life is doing women a huge disservice. Assure them that in this work, we are not defining what feminine and masculine is – but, we are suggesting that there are some physical and energetic movements and suggestions that ignite more feminine energy and masculine energy and asexual energy. It’s those movements and that sexual essence in our body that we want to explore to see what it does to our magnetic presence.
Keep asking your participants to be curious about where their attention is going and what they are feeling.
Don't worry about having to have the perfect answer to their questions. You aren't there to know everything single thing about the masculine and feminine. If you really don't know, your perfect answer is, "Great question, I’m gonna stay curious about that!" If you do know, say, "I don't know for sure, but in my experience...."
If they say something like, "I feel strong in the neutral," ask, "In what way?" Listen carefully and keep asking them questions -- Because sometimes they feel strong in their habit of putting on armor in the masculine, or hiding in their neutral. Maybe they feel strong in their habits of control and protection. Ask the questions that evoke the answer that you are wanting them to get. Often, they don't think safety and security lives in the feminine, so they disengage from it.
Some people have judgments of the feminine-- that it’s not useful, productive, or that it's manipulative, weak, flighty, or superficial, for example. Some feel guilty about being in the feminine. Notice what comes up and ask questions about it.
In chapter 3 of my book, Powerful and Feminine, it covers the judgements of the feminine and why we disassociate from it.
Don’t worry if there is a woman in the corner of the room glaring at you and not getting it. Part of her process is not getting it. It’s ok. You stay present when you just let her be where she is.
Tips for use:
Use it when you notice your joy level going down, or that you are walking in a way that feels uncomfortable to you.
What types of situations can you think of that would be good to practice this one?
* This practice was inspired by and adapted from Shianna Walker’s Art of Being a Woman class.
Notes:
Watery Flow
The body feels first and then the mind follows it with a thought. How locked up your body is can be a good reflection of how locked up your mind is. Create spaciousness and flow in the body and this will create spaciousness and flow in the mind. This practice will invite you to unlock your body with free movement, rather than move in a way you always move. Pause to check in to see if you are moving in a habitual pattern and listen for the impulse beneath that.
Put some music on.
"I invite you to move to the music in the flow with bigger movements. Notice where you hold tension, or feel closure, guardedness, or unneeded protection in your body. Move in ways you've never moved before. We all have habitual ways of moving through life and in dance. Don't get stuck moving in habitual ways. Shake it up!
Make sure it's a movement you've never done before. If it's a socially "normal" movement you're doing, you can be sure it’s a habit. Break out of it.
This movement helps you to unlock self-consciousness and to be more present.
As the music continues, isolate parts of your body, and move those parts in different ways. There needs to be room for divine light to come into the body. There needs to be free movement so you are ready to follow the inspiration that comes in."
Guided Meditation
Invite the participants to lie down on their backs with their eyes closed. Below are the words I use to slowly take them through this practice.
“Take some deep breaths as you come inside your body. We are going to now take an inventory of your body to see where there is flow and where there may be constriction or a block. Start with your feet. Notice your feet, ankles, calves, whether there is spaciousness and flow…or not.
Now, move your attention up to your knees…your thighs, your pelvis, your lower back. Notice where the spaciousness and flow is and where it might be blocked.
Now, move your attention to your solar plexus, your heart, your upper back, and your shoulders. Where is there spaciousness and flow, and where is there not? Notice your arms, your hands, and now your neck, jaw, face muscles, and head. Where is there flow? Where is the flow blocked? Now bring your attention to the part of the body that has the most constriction, where there is no flow. Flow your loving attention to this place for a few moments. If this part of the body had a color to it, what color would it be? If this part was feeling an emotion, what emotion would it be? Allow yourself to feel this emotion for a moment.
If this part of the body wanted to make a sound, what sound would it be? On the count of three I am going to make a loud sound and this is your invitation to make the sound this part is making. Flow can be restored when you place our loving attention on a part of our body and give it a voice. One… Two… Three... For another minute, simply be with this part, with no judgment, no need to work out why it was not flowing, just send loving compassionate energy and attention there. Slowly open your eyes.”
Tips for use: This is a great practice to use when you can feel you are stuck in a habit or rut in your life. Another time would be when you can feel your body and mind locked up. Also, notice when you're getting uncomfortable with some changes you are trying to make and going into resistance--try this practice out and see what shifts. What situations in your life can you think of that you could use this practice?
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The Womb Space
We have a physical body, our bones, muscles, blood, etc., and an energetic body, the life force or chi that runs through and around our body. One of the most important energetic centers of the body in all healing, martial arts, and yogic traditions suspends in the Womb Space (in lower abdomen for men). Most martial artists, Zen practitioners, and yogis call it the “Dantien.” In Chinese Qigong it is known as the “Lower Dantien,” in Korean yoga it is called the “Dahn-jon,” and in Japan, the “Hara.” This energetic power center is located in the center core of the body approximately 3 inches below the navel and inside the body. One of the Dantien’s functions is to ground and receive Yin energy from the earth. It acts as a storage place for heat and energy, and is the center for physical strength and stamina. What is most fascinating is that this area has its own consciousness beyond the physical that leads us directly to our authentic power.
The Dantien is considered to be the “house” of physical communication, sensory awareness, and feelings. When something is going on in our environment or in another person we have the ability to feel that in our own body. When I am listening to my surroundings not just from my logical brain, but from my Womb Space, I can get accurate information from what I feel in my body. This is why we often say “I have a gut feeling about this.” These feelings are subtle, but the more you pay attention to your Womb Space the clearer this communication will become.
Womb Space Practice: If I were to say that the feminine energy started in a particular place, I would say it is the Womb Space. This is where the movement in the Feminine Presence Meditation™ that we practice begins and is sourced from.
"I invite you to stand up and flow all of your attention to your pelvic bowl and particularly into the center of your pelvic bowl—your Womb Space (Dantien). Imagine a light suspending in the center point of your Womb Space. Take some time to feel this space within you, as best as you can.
Flow energy from your Womb Space down both your legs and into the ground 10 feet deep. This will ground you."
Head Bubble/Womb Space practice:
Invite the group to talk in pairs about how their day or week has been so far, in two different modes.
Speakers, notice how you feel when talking from this space. Listeners, notice how you feel in your own body and in relationship to your partner when they speak from each space.
First mode: The Head Bubble. “Put your attention on your thoughts up outside of your head while you are not connected to your Womb Space. Flow all of your attention outside of your body.”
A helpful joke is to say, “The easiest way to get into your ‘head bubble’ is to worry about something. So, go ahead and worry about something.”
Speak from there for a minute.
(Switch partners and have their partner speak from Head Bubble. Prompt them to notice how they feel in themselves and in relationship to their partners when they talk or listen from this space.)
Second mode: The Womb Space. Now come down into your body and put your attention on your Womb Space and speak connected to your power center. Speak from there for a minute on the same topic.
(Switch partners and have their partner speak from Wombspace. Prompt them to notice how they feel in themselves and in relationship to their partners when they talk or listen from this space)
Third part: “Give each other feedback on what you saw and how you felt, both in yourself and about the other person, when you were in the two different modes. Did anything change from one mode to the next?”
Have one partner share for a minute and then switch partners for sharing.
After the partner sharing is over, if you have time, you can open it up for a group discussion for a few minutes by asking questions like:
"What did you notice? How did you feel about your partner when they were talking from Head Bubble, and then in Womb Space? Did any of the content change, though the topic was the same? What was your biggest take away from this practice?”
We sense so much through our Womb Space. We get information from there.
Suggest to women who have already done the witnessed meditation:
“When you witness another woman’s meditation, be in the Womb Space just as much as you are when you are in front of the group.”
Additional practice:
Lead the women into their Womb Space with the prompts above.
Test each participant to see whether they stay strong when you try to gently push them over. In comparison, ask them to not focus on their body at all, but something they are worried about. Then test them by gently pushing on them. This shows that when our attention is flowing to our Womb Space, we are physically and energetically stronger.
Troubleshooting and Tips:
Some women get anxious when they are in their Womb Space and find they don’t have many words, it worries them about their communication ability from this space.
You can say to them, "We are not practiced in feeling comfortable in this place, so we need to practice with people we trust so our communication becomes more vulnerable and real – you can’t hide so easily in this safe group and by practicing over time, you will find more people outside of this group compelled to connect with you.” “And -- let’s pull this apart. Did you like your partner more when she spoke from her Womb Space? Did you remember more of what she said? How did you feel in relationship to her?”
Another note – At Introductions, always do a demo of Head Bubble/Womb Space – get good at knowing when you are home (and showing it) and then up to the head space and back down so people can really see the difference.
Tips for use:
This practice is helpful to every situation imaginable.
Use when speaking to someone you care about, when the stakes are high and you want to mean what you say and have it be heard, when you want to access your inner wisdom and authenticity, etc. In other words, all the time! :-)
What situations in your life do you feel you could really use this practice?
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Teacher Resources
Getting Started – Promotion, Sales, and Marketing
Sales Conversations
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To build trust and connection, dialogue is essential.
Your sales will directly reflect your ability to have a genuine conversation.
Questions are your prime way of sparking dialogue.
Always take preparation time before any sales conversation to craft your questions for that specific person.
Questions to ask YOURSELF before every sales conversation :
• What is my intention for the call? What do I want the customer to do?
• General Questions to ask THE CUSTOMER during a sales conversation
• What drew you to have this conversation with me? What is going well?
What is not going so well?
Specific Questions to ask THE CUSTOMER during a sales conversation:
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You must hear and understand the subtleties of what drives each of your customers to invest. It’s different for all of them. What are some subtler reasons that attract your customers?
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Rachael Jayne’s 10 Step Sales Process
This is a summary taken from the in-depth sales training that is done in Business Leadership Mastery™ that helps people reach 50-80% conversions through sales conversations.
A sales conversation is a lot more like coaching than selling. Creating rapport and good listening is more important than slick sales techniques.
STEP 1 - Resonance:
You are looking for a great fit, rather than selling someone on something. In the beginning of the conversation you position yourself as their supporter and an expert in your field, not a sales person.
For example: “This call is about looking at the big picture of what you want. I want to get an overall picture of what you are struggling with and what you really want. If there are some steps, a practice, or a resource I have that would help, I will absolutely share that with you. First and foremost I am looking to see if we are a fit, not to sell you something.”
STEP 2 - Coaching Questions:
Ask them to share what their struggles and challenges are. Ask them how “their issues” are affecting their career, income, health, relationships, etc. Focus mostly on finding what their “pain points” are. You need to get them to share what is real for them now, not just where they want to be in the future.
A great first question is, “Why did you take the time to talk with me today?” or, “What drew you to find out more about what I offer?”
Other questions could include:
“What exactly is not working for you right now?”
“What have you tried in the past that didn’t work?”
“What is that costing you in your relationships/health/business/life?”
“What is stopping you from doing what you really want to do?”
“Why have you not yet stepped forward into this vision?”
“What are the goals you want to achieve?
“What is your level of commitment to making this change?”
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STEP 3 - Mirroring:
Feedback to them what you have heard them share. Clarify if you have understood them correctly by sharing the “pain points” you heard them say. Focus on what is not working or what is stopping them from moving forward. Keep mirroring the exact words they use.
You will spend approximately half of the sales conversation on Coaching Questions and Mirroring, because you must demonstrate through their sharing that there is a gap between where they are and where you can take them with your product or service.
STEP 4 - Overall Transformation:
Share the possibilities you see for them. Share what it feels like to move into the place they want to move to. Share the benefits of them working toward their goals. Use specific and tangible language. Do not use jargon or “woo-woo” language. Don’t tell them the process or program that you want to take them through yet. This is your opportunity to inspire them with your voice, your energy, and your FEMININE PRESENCE!
STEP 5 - Transition Statement:
Share that you have a resource for them that would help them get to where they want to go. Use a transition statement that cue’s both of you that you are now going to offer something. This transition statement should roll off the tongue, so practice it!
For example: “From everything that you have shared with me – the challenges, and what you really want to move into in your life, I have some ideas about some possible next steps, and believe I have a resource that could help you achieve what you want. Is it okay if I share these with you?
If they say no, this part of the conversation is over. If they say yes, you move forward to describing your offer.
Ideas for your transition statement?
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STEP 6 - Describe the Offer:
Share what you see their next steps are and the resource that you have in mind. Share the benefits of the program first, then the features. Do not share the price yet. At the end of your sharing ask them “What questions do you have?” This will start them asking you questions. This leads you into the next step of sales conversation. Many times the first question will be, “How much does this cost?” You can then outline the investment and your payment plans.
STEP 7 - Empower:
At this point they probably want to work with you, but they have doubts, questions and objections. This is where you answer their objections and “challenge them into their potential” versus believe their objections are really going to stop them from making this work.
The most common objections are “I don’t have the money,” I don’t have the time,” and “I don’t know if this will work for me.”
“I don’t have the money.”
Review what it is costing them if they don’t make a change. Review the pain points. Pull apart the issue of the money and whether they really want to do the program (find out if money is the real objection).
For example, “Yes, I understand it’s quite an investment. What I have found to be true is that when someone really wants to do something they find the money somehow. So if it’s okay with you, I want to first make sure this is something that you really want to do and if it is we can talk about ways to possibly make the money part work for you. If the money wasn’t an issue would this be something you’d really like to do?”
STEP 8 – Ask for the Sale (The Close)
Have a statement that you have rehearsed that sounds fluid. For example: “I am excited to get started with you. The first step is to get you registered and set you up with your first class. I need to get some details from you and a credit card for your deposit. Can we do that now?”
Get their email, phone, credit card details. If they stall on the deposit, you go back to Step 7 and answer their objections and concerns. Sometimes, that’s what it takes.
STEP 9 – Follow Up
The sale is usually finalized in a follow up call. If they need to check their bank balance, or check with their spouse, or really need time to sit with it, make a time to follow up on the phone within 3-4 days.
TIP: Most people will say I need to think about it. Don’t leave that in their hands. You can say something like, “Can you walk me through what you need to think about? I don’t want to add to your stress with this decision, so let’s see if we can hash this out now?” I know how hard this is for many of us, but it can be the most important part of the conversation. It will work if you firmly believe in what you are offering and how much they will benefit. It will not work (for you or them) if you focus on it from a negative perspective (this sounds too “salesy,” I don’t want to pressure them, it’s up to them, etc.)
Keep following up politely with them until they give you a clear decision. If they say they would like to do it, but at a later date, ask them if they would like you to follow up with them in 6 months.
STEP 10 – Release Attachment
A great outcome is a clear decision. Your success does not rely on them saying yes. It’s about you guiding them with great care, great listening, and empowering them to come to a clear yes or no.
Leading with a Remarkable Marketing Message
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Your Marketing Message:
1) A powerful marketing message paints the picture of the overall transformation your community urgently wants.
2) It empathizes with the pain and struggle that your community is facing by using the exact words they use. It gives them hope that they can be part of a new generation of people that is positively affecting the world.
3) It is the key to your brand and creates resonance with your perfect audience. This is more than your 1-minute spiel.
What is the pain your Ideal Clients Say they are trying to get rid of?
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PAIN is always a greater motivator than pleasure – but most ‘spiritual’ people are focused on the potential of the person and where they can take them to, versus want to have them focus on where they are stuck in their life, so they avoid mentioning the pain.
In marketing, you don’t want to be too quick to reframe the client’s challenge and give them hope. You want to make sure they feel their pain enough to really want to make a change.
What problem(s) do you solve that they would pay you for?
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Outline Your Marketing Message:
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AFP Matrix of Communication
All of these sections are to support you in powerful marketing language you can use in writing sales page copy, emails, sales conversations and within your speeches and demos.
Modality and Pain List
Your modalities are things you are certified in, or processes or body of works that you refer to or use.
Your Pain List are the pain’s that your ideal client is facing.
Modality examples
Art of Feminine Presence
Yoga
Nia or other forms of movement classes
Qi Gong or Tai Chi
Meditation or Breath Work
NLP
Astrology
Body Work or Healing Modality
Desire Map or Heart Circles
Enneagram
Shadow Work
What are some examples of other modalities you use?
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Pain
Single for a long time and don’t want to be (lonely)
Low income
Not enough money to show for how hard they’re working
Feeling invisible- in career or relationships
Not listened to or respected
Conflict in relationships
Lost the passion in their intimate relationship
Constantly comparing themselves to other women
Do not have quality, supportive friends in their life
Feeling a lot of fear and anxiety
Scared of “stepping up” to live a greater life
Not feeling attractive or noticed
Lack of confidence
What other “pain” do you see your ideal woman in?
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Problems and Solutions List
Your problems list are the problems that your ideal client is facing.
Your Solutions List is how you are going to solve these problems for them.
Problem: Not in a relationship but wants to be. Not attracting the “right” type of partner.
Solutions: Embody more feminine energy, dating advice, learn how to create polarity, how to turn on your radiance and attractiveness, how to communicate with the opposite sex.
Problem: They are in business for themselves and clients/customers are not signing with them.
Solutions: Learn to create trust and rapport with ideal clients quickly, be able to own and state your value clearly, understand and implement marketing and sales fundamentals, shadow work on “pushy” and “needy.”
Problem: They want to be a leader in some way but people aren’t inspired to follow them (Not making as big of an impact that they want to make).
Solutions: Develop more personal presence and vocal power, learn how to speak on stage and capture people emotionally, share your vulnerability, become a better story-teller.
Problem: Feeling stuck in fear so they are not moving forward with what they want to do.
Solutions: Stop resisting their fear, stronger embodiment practice, learn how to transform nerves into personal power, stop projecting or rationalizing fear, voice dialogue practice.
Problem: They are not living their potential and they know it.
Solutions: Master motivation the feminine way, get clear on the vision, having a support system of positive people around you to affirm you can do it, truth-telling, belief work.
Problem: Feeling Overwhelmed, Tired, or Stressed.
Solutions: Learn how to contain your energy, learn how to receive more, implement better systems for priorities and time management, time alone, time in meditation, stronger embodiment practice.
What other combinations relate to your ideal woman?
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Urgent Wants and Needs List
Your urgent wants are the urgent wants of your client
Your needs list is what you know they need to get what they want
Urgent Wants -- Needs
An intimate relationship -- Feminine Energy
More Money -- Communicating Clearly
Less Stress -- Self-care
More sex/intimacy -- Create polarity
Lose Weight -- Drink more water
Less Pain in the body -- Inner work
More Clients -- Personal Presence
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Things that could be either urgent wants or needs, depending on the person include:
More Confidence, Reduce Overwhelm, Feel Happier
The 3 Brand Promises:
Conversational statements that describe the urgent wants and power of what they will get when they work with you
Here are the 3 Brand Promises that Rachael Jayne uses because her ideal woman is a business owner who wants to make a larger impact and increase her income doing what she loves. Don’t copy these word for word, make them your own, otherwise they won’t sound authentically you.
#1: You will become a more magnetic woman. I don’t mean “Magnetic” for the sake of just being magnetic and attracting attention. It’s about stopping the struggle of feeling like you have to push to be seen and noticed, and turn that “push” into attracting – more support, more clients, etc.
#2: You will change your relationship with your fear and self-consciousness so it doesn’t stop you moving forward. You will be able to hold an authentic confidence and reduce your self-consciousness, no matter what the situation.
#3: Your income will increase. Why can I say that? Because a woman who has a magnetic presence and who can hold an authentic confidence no matter what, is seen as more valuable and more credible. It’s that woman who gets the raise, or can ask for higher fees. This is the way it is whether she is more valuable or not. If you are in business for yourself or want to be, that means you’ll attract more clients at a higher price. If you are working for someone else that means maximizing your opportunity for a pay increase or more opportunities for growth in the company.
Statements to acknowledge who this work is for
If you fall into any of these categories, I urge you to make time for this work.
• Are you a women who wants to be respected and noticed and in a bigger way?
• Are you single and want to attract the rare breed of a conscious and sexy mate?
• Are you partnered and want to sustain or re-ignite the passion
• Are you afraid of putting yourself “out there" even though you want to live larger?
• Are you wanting to increase your income through your business or career?
• Do people drain your energy?
Statements to acknowledge who this is not for
• Women who don’t want to go deep and do their inner work
• Women who don’t want to take responsibility for their lives, instead want to stay in the “drama”
• Women who are happy with the status quo and don’t want to change
5 benefit bullet points of your work
A one-sentence description when you need it.
i.e. What you say when someone asks, “What do you do?”
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I teach/share/support you to ______________________________________________
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✓ A short story sharing a transformational result/s
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“The New Generation” statement:
I work with a new generation of women who want to be an inspiring example of a leader who is powerful AND feminine.”
“I work with a new generation of women understand that the feminine principle is just as important as the masculine in business, relationships, and life and they want to inspire change as they lead with their feminine”
Other Ideas:
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Statements to acknowledge skepticism and answer top 5 objections:
I don’t have time:
I don’t have the money:
I don’t like groups, do you do this privately?:
I’ve done this work before:
I don’t know if this will really help me:
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Statement of Difference: How are you Different
“There are lots of women’s groups and workshops gathering to support women in talking about how important the feminine principle and talking about women’s issues, and gathering to do goddess work, working with the archetypes of the feminine. That’s great, but this is not that. In AFP you’ll learn specific, tangible practices that will help you be seen, be heard and inspire change. It will increase your magnetic feminine presence so you can more easily attract the attention you want. It’s to help you (insert another urgent want).
Other Ideas:
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Your Matrix of Communication
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Modality and Pain List
Your modalities are things you are certified in, or processes or body of works that you refer to or use. Your Pain List are the pains that your ideal client is facing.
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Problems and Solutions List
Your problems list are the problems that your ideal client is facing.
Your Solutions List is how you are going to solve these problems for them.
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Urgent Wants and Needs List
Your urgent wants are the urgent wants of your client.
Your needs list is what you know they need in order to get what they want.
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The 3 Brand Promises:
Conversational statements that describe the urgent wants and power of what they will get when they work with you.
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Statements to acknowledge who this is for:
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Statements to acknowledge who this is not for:
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5 Benefit bullet points of your work:
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Statements to acknowledge skepticism and answer top 5 objections
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AFP Website
To have your own page on the the Art of Feminine Presence™ website, please send in the following:
• Name
• Photo
• Short Biography
• Dates and Times of your classes (This is optional)
• Location of your classes
• Email and/or phone number
We will then give you a link you can use to send people directly to your page.
The main page on the Art of Feminine Presence™ site that describes these classes is:
Below are 2 emails that you can use as guides for your own emails to interested groups or people.
Sample Marketing E-mail #1
(Intention: To get them talking to you on the phone about it).
Dear friends,
This work is amazing!
I saw changes in how people responded to me immediately.
This last year I’ve had the honor of training with Rachael Jayne
Groover, the author of Powerful and Feminine and creator of The Art of
Feminine Presence™.
It’s all about embodying a physical and energetic presence that attracts the attention you want, personally and professionally. When you learn these practices you look and feel more confident, healthy, and radiant when you walk into a room. It’s about being seen and heard in a larger way, but at the same time learning to be more comfortable with receiving positive attention.
There have been so many changes in me and my life since starting this work.
I am now a certified teacher, and I would love you to join me and the other conscious, caring women in this community that will be participating in my upcoming classes.
Given that you are (insert pain or urgent wants) I thought this would be perfect timing for you.
For more information you can go to (insert your page on The Art of Feminine Presence™ site) or email me at (insert your email) if you have any questions.
I would love to catch up over the phone in the next week or two, are you available?
(Your signature)
Sample Marketing E-mail #2
Hi ******,
As you may know, I teach a series of practices that will help you develop your personal presence and feminine energy, so you can walk into any room and attract the attention you want.
If you fall into any of these categories, I urge you to make time to do a class/event coming up. It’s perfect for women who:
• Want to be respected and noticed and in a bigger way
• Want to attract the rare breed of a conscious and sexy mate
• Are afraid of putting themselves “out there" even though they want to live larger
• Are wanting to increase their income through their business or career
• Want to stop people from draining their energy
I'm teaching The Art of Feminine Presence™ classes in Northern Colorado (ongoing) and in Melbourne Australia on April 18, 25 and May
2. Please pass on this email to anyone you know who lives in either area. We are looking for women who want to be seen and heard for who they are, without trying too hard or pushing to make things happen. Does anyone come to mind?
Much love and gratitude,
Rachael Jayne Groover
P.S. Here's a link to a video series on one of the fundamental practices I teach in my Art of Feminine Presence™ classes. They are shot by the creator of this work, Rachael Jayne Groover.
Email Marketing
If you have not already started building your own email list of people interested in your work, START NOW! These days your email list for your business is everything. You must be able to stay in contact with people once they have shown interest. Once someone is on your list, you should aim to connect with them via email at least once a month. Best practices these days are sending an email once per week or twice a month if you are sending valuable free tips and content. Less if you are just sending sales emails out.
The email marketing systems the Groovers have used are Infusionsoft and Aweber. We recommend Aweber and I-contact.
Flyer
There is an AFP flyer that we currently use for weekly classes and 1-day workshops. The marketing copy on this flyer is great to use in your email marketing as well. To gain a copy to use this as a template for your flyer email support@ and we’ll send you the document. Then you will send this to our graphics person Teresa at: teresaO@, or you can use your own graphics person.
Referral Strategy
Most of your participants will come from word of mouth. This is the best marketing as it is easy, inexpensive, and effective. To always have a steady flow of referrals, you must train those who love you and think you are AWESOME, how to refer you to others that might benefit from this work. Most of them would love to shout your praises but don’t remember to or don’t know how. To train them you need to tell them that your business is based on referrals, ask them if they know anyone that would benefit from this work on a regular basis, and describe how you want the referral, i.e. do you want them to give the referral your number to call you or do you want the referral’s number so you can call them? Getting the referral’s number tends to be far more effective, but the person doing the referring may be more reluctant to give it.
At the end of most series of classes I say the following to the group:
“Can you think of anyone who is like you, committed to their spiritual growth, and who would benefit from being in a group like this? I am looking for one or two more women to join us and I don’t want it to be just anyone. If anyone comes to mind would you feel ok sending them an email telling them about your experience here and asking them if they want to know more about the classes? If they do would you mind sending them an email introducing me and the link to the Thank you so much. I appreciate this lot.”
I send an email to my existing participants after they have completed the first series that basically says the same thing. I then send a similar email periodically after that to keep reminding them to be on the lookout for other women who would love this work.
Describing the Classes
This work is not easy to describe. Below are some of the phrases I say when people ask me “What do you do?” When you are asked the question, “What do you do?”, don’t answer with only a title (massage therapist, chiropractor, coach, author) or description of what you do, but focus on the problem you solve and what your client wants.
When you’re in a situation where you've got time with them (like at a party) and a big part of the way the dialogue going the way you want, you should say something that is intriguing so they want to hear more. It’s about intrigue and conversation. You aren’t trying to make a sale right then; you need to dialogue with them..
Feel free to use any of these in your unique way of describing this process:
• “I teach women how to develop their personal presence so they can walk into any room and attract the attention they want.”
• “I teach women how to develop the magnetic power of their feminine essence.”
• "Well, what I do is not quite the normal job description. I do trainings on feminine presence, and it’s a little challenging to explain."
This is a great way to open up a curious space vs spraying your marketing message all over them.
If someone is intrigued and asks something like, “how do you do that?” or “tell me more” I will then say something like this: “I teach classes and workshops for women who are committed to their personal growth and want to increase their feminine energy and personal presence. Many women in the pursuit of equality and power have taken on more of a masculine role without realizing the effects on their health, their joy, and their ability to attract and sustain a passionate love relationship. I’ve combined my experience as a singer and teacher of stage presence with my current work on the feminine essence so I can teach women how to be seen and heard in the way they most want.”
After you say what you do, asking questions is a great way to keep the dialogue going. A question could be, "Do you feel like you are one of those women who are really confident all the time when you walk into a room, or are you one of those women who feel invisible?"
You can try out your "What do you do" conversation on the Teachers Facebook page to get feedback.
Don’t tell anyone about the witnessed meditation portion of it. It makes people fearful when taken out of context. Don’t tell people how the class is formatted— just tell them what they will get out of it. Make the process a surprise. I never tell anyone the process and no one ever asks me.
You can share, “that there is a one very ‘potent practice’ in this work that is the most important of all the practices, but that cannot be talked about. It needs to be experienced. It is only done in small, cohesive groups of women where there is a feeling of safety and trust.”
One of our teachers, Ashara Gorbet, uses the mysterious quality with great effect and now other teachers are doing the same.
How to Find the Perfect Women for
Your Classes
Networking Groups
90% of the participants that started the classes with me came from local networking groups. Do some research on what in-person networking groups are in your area? Tip: Google social networking or business networking and the name of your city. If this is something that you are charging for and is part of your business you may want to check out business networking groups to talk about your classes. Sometimes these groups charge an entry fee or membership fees, many don’t. Asking people you already know can be a great way to find out about networking groups. This is effective because some are much better than others.
is exploding right now as a social networking site for groups that get together in person in a local area. Check it out at Set up your own group for $15 a month. People who are searching such terms as women’s social groups, women’s empowerment, women’s networking, spiritual groups, etc., will find you and your listing. It’s a great way for people to find you. You will build an email database through this service, and then you can remind them about upcoming circles. You may want to use this site to join other groups that would be a good source of meeting women.
Speaking Engagements
If you are strong speaking in front of a room the likelihood of people wanting to join your classes will rise dramatically. Look for places that you can deliver a free 20-40 minute presentation on The Art of Feminine Presence™. Include a couple of easy processes that they can experience.
Toastmasters is an organization where you can practice your public speaking and get feedback for very little expense. Check out . Be aware that some of these clubs will be a “fit” for you, and some probably won’t be.
Other Ways to Find the Perfect Women for
Your Classes
1. Intention and Visualization
Get Clear on Your Ideal Client
How many women do you want in your group? What type of women? It’s important to focus on who you want for your circle. Don’t fall into the trap of thinking this is for any woman. Even though you are offering this important opportunity to the women in your community, it is first and foremost your circle. What type of women do you most want in your circle? Ponder that for a moment.
Spend some time each day, or each week visualizing your group meeting and feeling how empowering it is to lead in a flourishing circle.
2. Invite Your Perfect Women
Create a list of women you know that fit into the “perfect woman” category. Invite each of them personally. Don’t send a group email. Send a personal one. Better yet, call them and share why you would love for them to consider being in your circle. Send a flyer or invite in the mail with a personal note. Don’t rely on posting flyers around town. That usually is a waste of time, but not always. Get the flyers in the hands of those you want in the circle.
3. Tell Networkers
Have you ever heard the saying that goes something like this, “It’s not who you know, but who you know that knows someone you need to know.” There are some people who are very connected to the communities you want to reach. Who are those people that come in contact with women who would be a good fit for your circle? Tell them about it. They may not be interested themselves, but may come up with great ideas for people that could be.
Who are the natural networkers in your local community?
4. Ask Your Higher Power
Go within and ask to receive higher guidance on this question. “What else can I do to find the perfect women for my circle?” Ask your intuition, your spirit guides, “the Universe,” or God, depending on your personal faith. This power is there for you to tap into at any time. The clearer the question, the easier it is to get an answer.
5. Online Communities
Do some research to see what free online communities reach your local area. You can post an ad for your circle on these for FREE! Some of the ones I use are , , and privately owned local social media sites. If you have chosen not to charge for an introductory evening, the options to post your circle on local community websites and online classifieds are greatly increased.
6. Testimonials
Collect written, audio, or video testimonials from your existing participants. Add them to your emails and flyers.
Here is a sample e-mail you can use to ask for testimonials. Add in your own info and feel free to edit:
Hello Sisters,
May I ask you some questions about your experience with your Art of Feminine Presence™? Your testimonials will really help other women.
If you'll send me your answers *within* the email below, I'll edit them into a testimonial format and send it back to you for your approval before I use it. Thank you so much!
As you know, the most credible testimonials are the ones that contain a full name, and even better, a picture...but if you want to remain anonymous, I can put your initials and town.
Here are some questions to reflect upon:
* What has changed in your life as a result of doing this work?
* What did you enjoy most?
* How do you feel this work is different from other "women's groups" that are out there?
* What made you decide to work with me?
* What problem were you facing that the Art of Feminine Presence™ work helped to solve?
* What has been your biggest take away from doing this work?
* How much has this work increased your personal presence, groundedness, and magnetism?
* How much has this work increased your radiance, pleasure in your life, confidence, awareness of your connection to your feminine power, or boundaries in your life?
* What three adjectives best describe my teaching style or approach?
* What type of person or situation do you think this work might be particularly good for?
* Were you pleasantly surprised by any part of the class? If so, what?
* What is the most important thing women should know about this work?
* Anything else you'd like to say?
Thank you for your time and energy on this. Your support really helps me reach the kind of women we want with us, and it helps them feel safe and motivated enough to join us!
In Sisterhood, Sally
7. Create a Video or Send an AFP Video
Once Groover Seminars, Inc. started using videos it saw a dramatic increase to the number of participants in all its programs. Create a short video(less than 5 minutes are most effective) so people can feel you and your presence.
You can send anyone a link to Groover Seminars video page which shares some of the basic practices of The Art of Feminine Presence™ so they can get a taste.
Keeping Your Women
The more you can keep the same women in a group together the deeper you can go with the work. Therefore, keeping your women engaged and wanting to do the next round of classes should always be a strong intention. It makes your role as teacher much easier when you don’t always have to find new women to participate. Here are some tips to keep your women coming back:
1) Have them connect with the other women in the group just as much as they connect with you.
2) Often mention the accumulative effect of doing this over months and years.
3) Give them a free class if they re-register for the next series one week before the next series starts.
Sample E-mails
Sample “Welcome to class” e-mail
Below is a sample email that I send to a new participant as soon as they have shared they want to do the class.
Hi (first name),
I am excited to have the chance to work with you soon. This work is so powerful in increasing your feminine energy and level of presence so you can be seen and heard in the way that you desire. Here are the details for the Art of Feminine Presence™ classes starting on (fill in date).
When: (fill in time) Classes start on (fill in date) for 5 weeks. Please arrive a few minutes early, as we start on time.
Where: (fill in venue name and address)
What to wear: Something that makes you feel feminine and sensual -- maybe a silky shawl, a long flowing skirt, a pretty top, etc. Something that is easy to move in.
What to bring: An open mind, an open heart, a journal, and a water bottle.
Tuition: (fill in tuition amount) for 5 classes. *You can either mail a check to my home address or (insert other payment methods you have). (I need to receive payment up front to hold your place. I keep the numbers in the group small.)
Shared Agreements email
As a participant in the Art of Feminine Presence™ I agree:
• To confidentiality. I will not repeat anything that another participant shares in class, without that participant’s explicit permission.
• To use “I” statements. I will share from my own experience and not assume others feel or think the same way I do.
• To share authentically how I am feeling at all times.
• To be present to every other woman in the class as much as possible. I understand my presence supports their growth and healing, as theirs does mine.
• To be present at every class possible, and on time. I understand resistance will arise from doing this practice and I will turn up to class even when I don’t want to.
• To give the teacher 24 hours’ notice if I cannot make it to a class, otherwise I will forfeit my tuition for that class.
• To commit to participate fully even when I feel self-conscious.
• To not engage in small talk once the class begins.
• To only share positive and supportive comments to the other women. I will not engage in trying to “fix” someone else or give advice.
• To not wear jeans or shoes to class. I will wear something easy to move in that makes me feel comfortable and feminine.
• To not consume alcohol or any other recreational drugs before class.
• To be open to light touch by the teacher if that will help me deepen the process.
• I agree to not share the mechanics of the Feminine Presence Meditation with others who haven’t personally experienced it guided by the hands of a Licensed Art of Feminine Presence™ Teacher. This foundational practice does not translate well when taken out of context. Part of the transformative power of it is experiencing it firsthand, with no preconceived notions. Feel free to share, though, the power, potency, and the positive changes in your life as a result of practicing it.
Let me know if you have any questions about the class. I look forward to having you join us.
Much love,
(fill in your signature)
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Sample “End-of-series” E-mail
Below is the email I send to new participants when the first series of classes is nearly complete—before the final class. Feel free to use this as a template and exchange your name, dates, and tuition fees.
Hi (names of women),
This Wednesday is our final class of the 5-week series. I would love for you all to continue, and I understand if you feel like 5 classes is enough for now. You may continue into the next 5 or stop here. What matters is what you feel will support you most right now. If you are considering continuing, here is how it works:
Each class is $35, so if know you cannot make a class in the next series you will only pre-pay $140, or if you can’t make 2 classes, you will only pre-pay $105. It’s totally fine at any time to miss a class, so you don’t have to feel you always have to be there, I simply ask for 24 hours’ notice.
I’d love to have you continue the classes as there are many more practices on cultivating feminine presence to come and enjoy. I have seen huge shifts in women who have continued this practice over months and years. I myself I have been doing the witnessed meditation process for more than 6 years now, and feel very blessed by it. I have 2 new ladies joining us in the next round to add to the delicious experience. (Obviously, only use this if it’s true) If you are on the fence about continuing, let’s talk. Let me know your concerns.
What a sweet space we’ve created together. Thank you for that. It has touched my heart.
Much love,
Rachael Jayne Groover
Payments/Finances
Tuition
Each teacher will set their own tuition fees. We propose the tuition price to be set between $150 and $250 for the 5 week series. We propose a 1-day workshop to be priced around $97 - $250, unless you are opening the 1-day event to more than 20 people and you are using it to sell a higher-priced offering. Then it could be as low as $47 with a bring a friend option. We recommend you charge at least $397 for a ½ day Private Session.
Budget
The things to consider in your budget include:
• The rental of venue **
• Music (i-Tunes or Amazon mp3’s are great resources)
• Candles and Decorations for the class space
• Travel expenses.
** I currently have a room in my home that is set up for a small class of 8. If you do not have room in your home you have two options that I have seen work well.
1) Ask someone who is interested in the class to hold it at their home or space in exchange for the class, or part of the class.
2) You can rent a small space in your local area. The cost of rooms here in Fort Collins that would be appropriate range from $15 – 35 per hour. You could set your prices a little higher to cover this cost.
You do not need a big space to run a great class. You can be creative with most of the practices and alter them to fit the space you need. For example you don’t have to have everyone lying down, they can sit.
Options to Receive Payment
• Cash
• Check
• PayPal (You can invoice people through PayPal)
• Square
• Merchant Account (most people do not have this and do not need this).
It is necessary to receive the payment for the 5 week series before it starts. On the final class of the series is when participants ideally pay for the next series. That is the best way to present it—some may pay after the final class.
Cancellation Policy
There is no refund of tuition once someone has paid. They are, however, able to make up the classes that they did not participate in at any time, as long as they gave the teacher 24 hour notice.
Fees to Groover Seminars, Inc.
All of the tuition that you make from classes, coaching, and workshops stay in your pocket. The only ongoing fees to Groover Seminars, Inc. will be the fees for the teacher’s license. There will be a licensing fee of $295 per year (paid before you start announcing that you are a certified Art of Feminine Presence™ teacher and giving classes), or $30 per month. If you pay the $295 up front and receive the discount, that payment is non-refundable. The money received from licensing fees will go directly back into marketing this work for your benefit.
Teacher’s License
To teach this work, in either the form of the 5-week series of classes, coaching, and short workshops, you must complete the Teacher Training Level 1 and sign a licensing agreement with Groover Seminars, Inc. If you want to use many of the practices in your own work with another title, you must still complete a licensing agreement. There will be a licensing fee of $295 per year (paid before you start giving classes), or $30 per month. If you pay the $295 up front and receive the discount, that payment is non-refundable. The money received from licensing fees will go directly back into marketing this work for your benefit. As part of this licensing package you will receive:
• Monthly group coaching calls on the business, marketing, and teaching of this work.
• Your own page on our website promoting you and your classes.
• Generous commissions for anyone you refer to Groover Seminar, Inc. programs.
• The right to use the Art of Feminine Presence™ logo for this work.
• The right to return to any teacher training program that you have already attended for 1/2 price… plus much more.
Groover Seminars, Inc. has the right to refuse a license to someone based on their participation throughout the training. Participation in Teacher Training Level 1 again may be encouraged in that case. The student needs to be able to demonstrate a high level of body awareness and energetic awareness to be a strong teacher in this practice. Groover Seminars, Inc. has the right to revoke any license if the teacher does not comply with the license agreement.
Class & Presentation Structures
Sample for an Introduction to Art of Feminine Presence™
7:00pm - Welcome Guests
7:10 – Opening
7:20 – Head Bubble / Womb Space practice
7:40 – Walking the Feminine practice
8:10 – Energetic Presence practice
8:30 - Additional Explanation
8:45 - Coach someone at the front of the room
9:00 – Transition to the Offer
9:10 – The “Offer”
9:25 – The Close of your Offer
A 2 – 2 1/2 hour Introduction is a great way to give women an experience of this work so they are highly motivated to work with you. You can charge $25 per woman, or -- if she brings a “cherished girlfriend,” they both can attend for free. That gives a good incentive for women to invite someone. You can allow them bring as many cherished friends as they want for free.
7:00 - Welcome Guests Have them sign in with their name and email if they are not already on the email list. You can have a supportive friend be there to help out too.
7:10 – Opening (Create your own in your own words from our guidelines below)
- Share your personal story that includes a challenge you faced prior to practicing AFP, and with the help of AFP, you have turned it around and are achieving results.
- Interweave the “pain points” and “urgent wants” of your ideal client so the audience knows they are going to get a lot out of the Introductory event.
- Share your 3 brand promises so they know the benefits of being present and what’s in it for them.
(See helpful hints at the bottom of this document and the Sales and Marketing section.)
Early on in the presentation, you need to get them to feel the tension of how they are not experiencing the life or career, and/or relationship they want. Speak about the issues, pain, and challenges women face during this opening, and paint the picture of the results AFP can give them.
For example: A woman’s personal presence and magnetism grow when she connects with her feminine essence. In pursuit of equality and power, however, many women have taken on a more masculine role. In their desire to be strong and independent, many women have shut themselves off from their softness, their sensuality, and the feminine energy that not only makes their lives more pleasurable and fulfilling, it gives them a radiant power—and is what men desire most. They have unwittingly closed down the ability to attract the healthy attention they want -- from men and women -- without even realizing they have done it. Tonight, I am going to help you answer the question why some women walk into a room with a magnetic presence and are noticed by many, while others are not. I’ll reveal some of the keys that can turn on this mysterious force -- in any woman.
I teach the Art of Feminine Presence™ because women’s hearts are aching:
for love, attention, appreciation, and physical touch.
* We yearn for a passionate love relationship that will deeply satisfy us, but many women are losing faith that an extraordinary relationship is possible. Or, after being married for a while they notice the passion is dwindling.
* We want to feel our attractive power so we can be in the flow of life, rather than always having to push to make things happen.
* We want to experience our tender, succulent, sensual side, but most women don’t know how to reclaim her delicious self. To embody this internal power and pleasure, a woman needs to find her feminine.
When a woman turns on her feminine essence, her whole life is transformed. She becomes attractive, receptive, and open. When she walks into a room, everyone present basks in the glow of her feminine radiance. She does not need to project a powerful persona to attract the respect and attention she wants. She is luminous, grounded, and juicy!
I’m excited to show you how to turn it on, and turn it up! Not simply because it is the most attractive force within you, but because it feeds you, feels SOOOO good, and is a gift that no one can take away from you.
Are you ready? (Have some fun and curiosity in your voice.)
Teach them 3 practices, (2 if you have under 2 hours so you have enough time for your pitch). Always teach Womb Space/Head Bubble practice first. It gives the most in-the-body experience, plus -- they get valuable feedback.
7:20 – Womb Space/Head Bubble practice
7:40 – Walking the Neutral, Masculine and Feminine practice
8:10 – Energetic Presence practice
8:30 - Additional Explanation: Explain the importance of witnessing, being seen, and appreciation of each other many of the practices we do. Appreciation, being seen, and being witnessed is the FOOD of the feminine.
- Tell a short story about how receiving attention and appreciation has helped you become more of the woman you want to be and express.
- Have them stay in the same pairs as the Womb Space exercise and take turns sharing appreciations.
8:45 - Coach someone at the front of the room so the audience gets the change. They will also get to see your coaching skills in action — and this builds trust. You can ask for a brave volunteer, or it could be someone who wasn’t “getting it” during one of the practices. Ask the audience if they notice the difference when you coach her into the practice.
You can ask her some questions about what challenges she’s been facing, and how it’s affected her life. This lets the pain of what’s authentically underneath the exterior to be shown. You can ask her if she’d be willing to practice this new tool in that area of her life. * Note: Be sure and state the truth if she’s still not quite there. You could say, “Beautiful. We’re not quite there yet, but can you notice a difference? Keep working on this practice, it’s a powerful one for you. Please give her a hand for being so brave and doing so well.”
9:00 – Transition time. Prompt: “Have you found these practices helpful?”
(Wait a couple seconds for response.)
“Close your eyes and take a moment to think about what would have been different if you’d had these practices a year ago? (PAUSE) Would you have shot that video? Approached that person? Felt more confident to ask for what you wanted? Made that sale?”
“Now look forward to a year from now. What would be different if you practiced this work consistently and increased your presence a lot? (PAUSE) How would this affect your sales, your communication, your confidence, your relationships? (PAUSE)”
“Open your eyes”...
“This work requires practice. For those of you that see the benefit of mastering presence, I have put together a (insert name of offer). I’d like to take a few minutes to talk about the opportunity of you joining me and other women in this. Would that be okay?”
9:10 -- Your offer gives them more ways to get results. Breathe. This offer is a service for them.
The Offer Includes::
- Pain and problems that this offer solves
- Tangible Results they can suspect
- Revisit the 3 brand promises
- Your event date and times
- Price Comparison: First share the regular investment and then their special
price for that night tonight. Share any other comparison on value that you have.
- Hand out Order Forms
- The discount is only valid for that day, and share why you are offering this incentive.
• For example: “I’m giving you this incentive to invest in yourself tonight because I know when you walk out that door, you’ll forget about what happened tonight when all of life, family, work -- begins pulling at you from a hundred directions again. Women forget about themselves and then kick themselves later for not taking action when they actually really wanted to. I’ve done it myself many times and don’t want that to happen to you”.
• (Don’t take questions during this time, it flattens the energy.)
• Take a breath…..
• Describe the kind of woman you are looking to work with a few qualities. “I’m looking to work with women that have been doing their personal and spiritual growth work for quite a while and are ready and motivated to make changes in their own lives and in the lives of those they care about—personally and professionally.” (Example, you can use your own qualities you are looking for) Or, "This is for you if you are a coach or healer who is not charging what you are worth, and you know you have a valuable service to offer that helps the people you care about." (Use your ideal client description)
Say your last sentence… Then, begin the rally energy….
9:25 – The Close of your Offer.
“You’re the next generation of women making massive positive change in this world that desperately needs it. Let’s be a part of this together; so if you want to (insert urgent wants) join me in this work. Complete the form and then come and see me at the back of the room. If you have any questions I’ll be at the back of the room. Thank you all so much for coming tonight and going so deep and doing such a great job!”
(Big smile and you can even begin to clap for them, as they did a great job!)
Stand for a moment and receive applause if they give it.
Say, “Thank you.” “Come meet me at the back of the room and let’s continue the journey together.
The close usually only takes 1-2 minutes.
9:27-9:30 – Finish at least 10 minutes early so you have time to get them to register before they have to rush off.
More tips:
• See the Sales and Marketing section in this manual under Teacher Resources.
• You can also have a signup/interest form around for your class, workshop, private coaching, free strategy session, etc.
• Embody the work first and foremost—they are entraining to you and noticing your presence.
• Get good at being the example at the front of the room of shrinking and going out—to show them what it looks like.
• It’s important to practice your offer and get feeling pretty solid on it.
• Practice you’re opening few sentences, transitions, and close also.
• It’s ok to read from the practices directly from the manual.
• One of the most powerful things you can do during this precious time with them is to feel your love for the audience and for the work.
• Get clear on who you want to work with and what problems you want to solve for them.
• Use their language and always be listening for what kind of words they use in describing what their challenges have been and what they urgently want.
The 5-Week Series
The classes are offered in a series of 5 weeks. This is the minimum commitment for any woman to participate. This facilitates a high repeat rate, with very few “no shows,” as well as giving the participant a deeper experience of the work. It serves to create safety and connection between the women in the class. What they are asked to do in class can bring up a lot of self-consciousness, so it is best to participate with others they feel comfortable with. Do not offer these classes on a one-time basis as it takes a few classes for most women to get the depth and power of this work. .You do not want people leaving after one class, thinking “I didn’t feel the power of the practice that it seems others were,” or worse “I don’t get it.”
A common question is “What if I’m traveling and won’t always be around to run weekly classes?” You can structure the weekly classes any way you want. You can do a series of 5 classes in July and then travel and do another series in September. It is up to you. You will also be able to do short workshops and private coaching. Some of you may elect to do that rather than weekly classes. One of the most important things is to keep your own commitments to the schedule barring an emergency. Info on giving workshops and private coaching is included in this manual.
Class Sample Time Frame
The class is most suited for between 2 and 2 ½ hours. There is a general time allotted to each component of the class. Some weeks I spend 5-10 minutes longer on the practice and less on the appreciation time, or more time in check in and less time in the witnessed process. Below is the time frame for a class that starts at 6:30pm and finishes at 9pm. Always keep it fluid, but encourage the participants to arrive at least 5¬10 minutes early so we can start on time.
6:30 Tune In
6:33 Check In
7:00 The Practice
7:30 Short Break
7:35 Feminine Presence Meditation Warm Up (between 7-10 minutes)
7:45 Feminine Presence Meditations Witnessed (no less than 5 minutes, no more than 7)
8:35 Appreciations
9:00 Close
Size of Class
You can take a maximum of 8 women in a 5-week class series. The intimate nature of the group is where much of the power comes from.
You can use an altered format so the groups can contain up to 11 women without losing intimacy, though, when you have gotten good at containing and holding a room. You can get creative on this. We suggest this possibility: Break them into two groups. Tune-ins, check-ins, and warm up meditation can be done as a whole group. The practice portion, depending on the practice, can be done as one group or split. Do the meditation and appreciation portion in two groups. Have them stay in the same group the entire 5 week series, so that they bond to each other and have that consistency. You can alternate between the two groups and check in with each. This also keeps the time from going too long with so many sharings. Sit in a place where you have a view of both groups meditating. Have at least one class series in the traditional way with fewer students before you venture into this format.
* See “Workshops” section below for sizes on workshops.
A Good Structure for Your First 5 Classes:
Class 1: Womb Space
Class 2: Energetic Presence (Light Globe) or Walking the
Neutral/Masculine/Feminine
Class 3: Radiant Glow
Class 4: Heart-Yoni Split
Class 5: GOOD OPTIONS:
← Feeding your longing to be seen
← Stop Projecting
← Bathing in Gratitude
← Receptive Body
← Unguarded Protection
Workshops
Workshops are a great way to give women with busy schedules a solid experience of this work. You can use the workshops as a funnel to flow them into your 5-week series.
For workshops, if you are doing the witnessed meditation, you can have eleven participants maximum if you are on your own. If you have a support person that has done the work before you can go up to 20.
If you have someone to help you and you aren’t doing witnessed meditation, you can take as many as you like.
Outline for Half-Day Art of Feminine Presence™ Workshop
8:30- Registration begins
9:00- Tune in and Check in
9:40- Shared Agreements
9:45- Opening talk
10:00– Womb Space practice
10:20- Walking the Neutral, Masculine and Feminine
10:50- Break
11:10- Energetic Presence practice
11:35- Three Feminine Activation Points practice
12:00- Coach someone at the front of the room -
12:30- Your Offer
12:45– Final Comments and Close early so people can register for your offer
1:00- End time
8:30am- Registration begins. Welcome participants. Have them sign in with their name and email if they are not already on the email list. Sign Consent and Release form. (Shared agreements is on this form now)
9:00- Tune in and Check in. Describe first what this process is and the three questions and then hold silence. Since it’s their first time together, they add in the additional info of: Their name and city, what drew them to this workshop and what they want to most get out of the day.
9:40- Shared Agreements. Go over some of the most important agreements, even though they signed them at registration, and ask the room if they agree to these. Look around, and wait for the head nods.
9:45- Opening talk. (Sets the context of the day) Create this in your own words. (See Promotional section of your manual for support)
The Opening talk includes:
* Pain points, Problems, and Urgent Wants. (From Matrix of Communication)
* Paint the picture of the results Art of Feminine Presence™ can offer them.
* Share your personal story.
* 3 brand promises
At some point, talk about the importance of witnessing and why we do so much of it. Talk about “staying home,” no matter what is happening.
Educate them as to what they can do and practice on their own, and what parts they should not attempt to do on their own and need to work with someone on.
For example, anyone can practice being in their womb space with others when you talk - anywhere you go. But you need to get honest feedback from others about your presence, where you apologize in your body, and when you energetically open to people to easily drain you. That can't be done from just reading a book.
A woman’s personal presence and magnetism grow when she connects with her feminine essence. In pursuit of equality and power, however, many women have taken on a more masculine role.
In their desire to be strong and independent, many women have shut themselves off from their softness, their sensuality, and the feminine energy that not only makes their lives more pleasurable and fulfilling, it gives them a radiant power—and is what a masculine partner desires most.
They have unwittingly closed down the ability to attract the healthy attention they want — from men and women — without even realizing they have done it.
Today I am going to help you answer the question why some women walk into a room with a magnetic presence and are noticed by many, while others are not.
You’ll discover tools today that can turn on this mysterious force whenever you want — even when the stakes are high.
I teach the Art of Feminine Presence because women’s hearts are aching: for love, attention, appreciation, and physical touch.
* We yearn for a passionate love relationship that will deeply satisfy us, but many women are losing faith that an extraordinary relationship is possible, or after being married for a while, they notice the passion is dwindling.
* We want to feel our attractive power so that we can be in the flow of life, rather than always having to push to make things happen.
* We want to experience our tender, succulent, sensual side, but most women don’t know how to reclaim her delicious self. To embody this internal power and pleasure, a woman needs to connect to her unique feminine essence.
The Feminine Essence is a power that lives inside every woman. It’s energetic, and gives her an effortless magnetic presence so she can attract her ideal client, charge what she’s worth, and attract the quality of love her heart desires.
When a woman turns on her feminine essence, her whole life is transformed. She becomes attractive, receptive, and open. When she walks into a room, everyone present basks in the glow of her feminine radiance. She does not need to project a powerful persona to attract the respect and attention she wants. She is luminous, grounded, and juicy!
I’m excited to show you how to turn it on, and turn it up! Not simply because it is the most attractive force within you, but because it feeds you, feels SOOOO good, and is a gift that no one can take away from you.
Are you ready? (Use fun and curiosity in your voice)
10:00– Womb Space
10:20- Walking the Neutral, Masculine and Feminine
10:50- Break
11:10 pm– Energetic Presence
11:35– Three Feminine Activation Points Pick a volunteer who is comfortable in front of groups, but not a performer. You can choose 2 volunteers so the audience can see more than one way the feminine essence shows up.
12:00 pm– Coach someone at the front of the room You can ask for a brave volunteer, choose someone, or it could be someone who wasn’t “getting it” during a practice. Ask the audience if they notice the difference when you coach her into the practice. You can also ask her some questions about what challenges she’s been facing, and how it’s affecting her life. This lets the pain of what’s authentically underneath the exterior to be shown.
12:30– Your offer
12:45– Final Comments and Close early so people can register for your offer
1:00– End time
Ask them to come see you for more info or to register for whatever you offered.
Outline for One-Day Art of Feminine Presence™ Workshop
9:30- Registration begins
10:00- Tune in and Check in
10:40- Shared Agreements
10:45- Opening talk
11:00– Head Bubble/Womb Space practice
11:20- Walking the Neutral, Masculine and Feminine practice
11:50- Break
12:05- Energetic Presence practice
12:25- Three Feminine Activation Points practice
12:50- Lunch Break
2:20- Very short tune in
2: 25- Stop Projecting practice
3:00- Unguarded Protection practice
3: 30– “A-has” and Q and A
3:45- Testimonials
4:00– Your offer
4:20– Break
4:40– Feminine Presence Meditation™
4:50– Witnessed Meditations
5:30– Appreciations.
6:00– Close with Re-pitch of your Offer
9:30am- Registration begins. Welcome participants. Have them sign in with their name and email if they are not already on the email list. Sign Consent and Release(Shared agreements is on this form now) form.
10:00- Tune in and Check in. Describe first what this process is and the three questions, and then hold silence. Since it’s their first time together, they add in what they are most wanting to get out of the day.
10:40- Shared Agreements. Go over some of the most important shared agreements, even though they signed them at registration, and ask the room if they agree to these. Look around, and wait for the head nods.
10:45- Opening talk.
(Sets the context of the day) Create this in your own words. (See Promotional section of your manual for support)
The Opening talk includes:
* Pain points, Problems, and Urgent Wants. (From Matrix of Communication)
* Paint the picture of the results Art of Feminine Presence™ can offer them.
* Share your personal story.
* 3 brand promises
At some point, talk about the importance of witnessing and why we do so much of it. Talk about “staying home”, no matter what is happening.
Educate them as to what they can do and practice on their own, and what parts they should not attempt to do on their own and need to work with someone on.
For example, anyone can practice being in their womb space with others when you talk - anywhere you go. But you need to get honest feedback from others about your presence, where you apologize in your body, and when you energetically open to people to easily drain you. That can't be done from just reading a book.
A woman’s personal presence and magnetism grow when she connects with her feminine essence. In pursuit of equality and power however, many women have taken on a more masculine role.
In their desire to be strong and independent, many women have shut themselves off from their softness, their sensuality, and the feminine energy that not only makes their lives more pleasurable and fulfilling, it gives them a radiant power—and is what a masculine partner desires most.
They have unwittingly closed down the ability to attract the healthy attention they want — from men and women — without even realizing they have done it.
Today I am going to help you answer the question why some women walk into a room with a magnetic presence and are noticed by many, while others are not.
You’ll discover tools today that can turn on this mysterious force whenever you want — even when the stakes are high.
I teach the Art of Feminine Presence™ because women’s hearts are aching: for love, attention, appreciation, and physical touch.
← We yearn for a passionate love relationship that will deeply satisfy us, but many women are losing faith that an extraordinary relationship is possible, or after being married for a while, they notice the passion is dwindling.
← We want to feel our attractive power so that we can be in the flow of life, rather than always having to push to make things happen.
← We want to experience our tender, succulent, sensual side, but most women don’t know how to reclaim her delicious self. To embody this internal power and pleasure, a woman needs to connect to her unique feminine essence.
The Feminine Essence is a power that lives inside every woman. It’s energetic, and gives her an effortless magnetic presence so she can attract her ideal client, charge what she’s worth, and attract the quality of love her heart desires.
When a woman turns on her feminine essence, her whole life is transformed. She becomes attractive, receptive, and open. When she walks into a room, everyone present basks in the glow of her feminine radiance. She does not need to project a powerful persona to attract the respect and attention she wants. She is luminous, grounded, and juicy!
I’m excited to show you how to turn it on, and turn it up! Not simply because it is the most attractive force within you, but because it feeds you, feels SOOOO good, and is a gift that no one can take away from you.
Are you ready? (Use fun and curiosity in your voice)
11:00– Womb Space practice
11:20- Walking the Neutral, Masculine and Feminine practice
11:50- Break
12:05 pm– Energetic Presence practice Expand and contract radiance. The switch is to feel your radiance. Mention important places in their lives they could use this one, and ask them to think of any others. Ask questions about what they noticed afterward in the entire group.
12:25– Three Feminine Activation Points practice Pick someone that is pretty comfortable in front of groups, but not a performer, and that you get a “hit” to choose. You can get a couple women up so the audience can see more than one beautiful way the feminine essence shows up.
12:50– LUNCH BREAK. (90 minutes is great, or take one hour to one hour and fifteen minutes if you’re running over.)
2:20– Very short check in on what they noticed over lunch. How did others react to them? How did they feel in themselves? Where could they use this in other places in their lives?
2:25– Stop Projecting. Remind them not to share what their chosen projected quality is until afterward (and only if they want).
3:00– Unguarded Protection. What does it feel like to keep your heart open while holding your strong boundaries?
3:30– “A– ha’s” and Q and A
3:45- Testimonials- Use live testimonials if you can. Ask past clients to come in and share what has changed for them, since starting the work. Video testimonials and written testimonials are good to if you cannot get someone in person.
4:00– Your offer. If you are offering an ongoing program or class (they will want that), then right before the mid-afternoon break should be the place you always do your offer.
4:20– Break. Invite them to come see you about your offer and to register.
If you are doing a Witnessed Meditation, a few minutes before break ends, set up your space for Witnessed Meditations. If there are more than 5 women, do some in pairs. If there are more than 10 in the group, break them off into two groups, but you need to be witnessing both groups—So create a place to sit where you can see both groups.
4:40– Feminine Presence Meditation™. Warm Up: Do the warm up for 7-8 minutes. This way you can make any adjustments you need to make in the women before they go into the witnessed.
Afterward the warm up, move directly into witnessed. Tell them to follow womb space into the spot to sit in the room that calls to them (except yours of course).
4:50– Witnessed Meditations. Line out in a natural and matter-of-fact way that you now be doing the Feminine Presence Meditation witnessed, and then you’ll follow that with appreciations--so notice the woman and for example what she is being, her beauty, her qualities, etc., during the meditation.
5:30– Appreciations. In a couple sentences, explain how you'll do appreciations. You pick who to appreciate first, then go around the circle.
6:00– Close with a Re-pitch of your Offer
**For a Two-Day Workshop,
you would use the same format as the One-Day outline, and do your offer on the second day before the lunch break.
Facilitation Information
Facilitation Tips
Managing your own beliefs, biases, and judgments as a coach is critical in allowing magical moments and deep awareness to arise for the client.
Some of these needs include:
1) The need to fix the problem.
2) The need to be of service and value given they are paying you.
3) The need to be liked by the participant.
4) The need to not have too much silence in the process.
5) The need to progress a student along quickly.
6) The need to look like you know what you are doing (competent).
7) The need to not have them feel bad or uncomfortable.
What other needs sometimes arise in the space of facilitation or coaching?
____________________________________________________________________
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To be in alignment with the law of attraction it is important to continue seeing the participant as whole, complete, and resourceful. Having anyone see us in our power helps us step into BEING in our power.
The emotional/vibrational scale
The judgments we have about what is needed in the coaching process take us away from our joy of coaching. When we are not in a joyful, unconditionally loving, peaceful state, we are coaching at a lower energetic level. Lower energetic emotions include confusion, frustration, irritation, and boredom. When we are in the higher energetic levels we are more likely to be “tapped into” infinite wisdom. Higher energetic emotions include passion, peace, enthusiasm, and compassion. It’s not only your job to help your client move up the emotional scale, but to manage your own thoughts and emotions as you move up to “better feeling states.”
Awareness is Key!
This is why being a coach could be the deepest spiritual practice that anyone could do. It calls for great awareness about how you are BEING in the process. The more aware you are of your patterns, issues, judgments, the more likely you can put them aside while you are coaching. Keep doing your Shadow Work and understand your Enneagram type.
Why and when to use "Shared Agreements"
Read these aloud when it’s a brand new class or if you feel the group is getting a little off track with some of these agreements. It’s always nice to have a reminder of these every now and then. Include these in their welcome email. If someone has trouble keeping these agreements, talk to them on their own about this and not in front of the group. If the group has trouble with one or two of them, talk about that agreement at the beginning of the class. And, for an awareness practice, ask them to notice if they do not keep the agreement anywhere. Be careful not to make anyone wrong, it’s simply an awareness practice.
Using inclusive language and explanation of Yin and Yang energies
It's a good idea to mention that in nearly every relationship, no matter what the genders, one partner tends to carry more Yang energy and one carries more Yin energy. So LGBT, straight, whichever way you swing, these practices apply and can increase the polarity, the connection and the enjoyment of the relationship. There is a whole section about Yin and Yang energies starting on page 23 of the book, Powerful and Feminine.
As a teacher, you can use inclusive language like, "the Masculine partner,” or "the Feminine partner,” instead of, or interchangeably with, “man” or “woman.” Know who you are working with and what their desired goals are from working with you so that you can be of better service to them.
If someone is expressing a lot of emotion
If someone is expressing a lot of emotion-- let them have that. Don’t go over and touch them or comfort them or put a tissue box in their hand (unless they ask). Doing those things can often break their presence to their emotion in that moment. You can comfort them and check in with them during the break. You will want to share this with your students also.
Holding a Great Space for your Classes --
even when your own life isn't perfect
Thoughts about holding space: Your life doesn't have to be perfect (and often, it won't be) for you to be a great teacher or hold great space in your class. But what you do want to do is have about 10 minutes of dropping into your Womb Space before each class.
They are entraining to you -- so you want to be in your body and in Womb Space first and foremost. Part of what they are paying for is the entrainment.
No matter what's going on in your life, being Home in Womb Space will bring though exactly what needs to happen.
If you get triggered during a class, come back to Womb Space. If someone else gets triggered during class, stay in Womb Space.
Entrainment is the key in all this. Some will think they are there, and won't be. Some will be there and think they are not, and some may still struggle to get it all.
This process all goes easier when you are Home.
Notes:
|Your AFP Box: Basics to take to your events |
|Here is a checklist of the basics to keep in a sturdy box |
|to take to your Intros, Workshops, and Classes. |
|Name tags |Your Level I and/or Level II Manuals |
|Votives/flameless candles |Music: iPod, MP3 player, speaker w/ port, CDs, Boom box(w/cord or batteries) |
|Backjacks or cushions to sit on |Method of electronic payment (Square, PayPal slider, etc.) or old fashioned receipt book |
|Handouts |Treats like chocolates, strawberries or snacks |
|Registration forms |Signage and Marketing materials |
|Clipboards |Shared agreements/consent form |
|Box of tissues |Centerpiece arrangement, like a Goddess statue, flowers, a crystal, etc. |
|Cash to make change |A shawl for your shoulders or whatever you need to feel really comfortable |
|Email sign up list |Yoga mats, pillows, and/or throws for certain meditations where your participants lay down |
|Pens and paper |Powerful and Feminine books, Feminine Presence CDs, or your product to sell |
Music Suggestions
Al Gromer
The Ritual
Tantra Drums
Jesse Cook
Closer to Madness
Incantation
World’s Away
Road to Istanbul
Vertigo
Dewachen
Calling the Lama from Afar
Samadhi Pada
Loreena McKennit
Marco Polo
Barcelona Tribe
Tracks from Sensual Sensual album
Hanuman
Baba Blues
Mothership
Meera’s Camel
Prem Joshua
Lahore Connection
Secret Place
Sky Kisses Earth
Funky Guru
Dead Can Dance
The snake and the moon
Nierika
Indus
Buddha Bar
Many tracks from various albums
Rasa
Most tracks from the Devotion and Union albums
Sara Reives
Dam Bo
Desert Dwellers
Snake Charmer – Nomad’s Dub
Temple Dragons – Circuit Glitch mix, desert dwellers
One God Dub
Go Ray and Duke
Goddess Invocation
Gotan Project
Vuelvo al sur
Lis Addision
Sensory Skin
Massive Attack
Teardrop
Tycho
A walk
Simrit Kaur
Ardas Bahee
Gypsy Soul (Beneath the Covers)
Sailing
Don’t Give Up
Superstition
Peruquois & Praful
Sun of Inspiration
Handouts for Your Students
Here are the “Shared Agreements” that I ask us to hold. These make the experience safe and more enjoyable for everyone. As a participant in The Art of Feminine Presence™ I agree:
• To confidentiality. I will not repeat anything that another participant shares in class, without that participant’s explicit permission.
• To use “I” statements. I will share from my own experience and not assume others feel or think the same way I do.
• To share authentically how I am feeling at all times.
• To be present to every other woman in the class as much as possible. I understand my presence supports their growth and healing, as theirs does mine.
• To be present at every class possible, and on time. I understand resistance will arise from doing this practice and I will turn up to class even when I don’t want to.
• To give the teacher 24 hours’ notice if I cannot make it to a class, otherwise I will forfeit my tuition for that class.
• To commit to participate fully even when I feel self-conscious.
• To not engage in small talk once the class begins.
• To only share positive and supportive comments to the other women. I will not engage in trying to “fix” someone else or give advice.
• To not wear jeans or shoes to class. I will wear something easy to move in that makes me feel comfortable and feminine.
• To not consume alcohol or any other recreational drugs before class.
• To be open to light touch by the teacher if that will help me deepen the process.
• I agree to not share the mechanics of the Feminine Presence Meditation with others who haven’t personally experienced it guided by the hands of a Licensed Art of Feminine Presence™ Teacher. This foundational practice does not translate well when taken out of context. Part of the transformative power of it is experiencing it firsthand, with no preconceived notions. Feel free to share, though, the power, potency, and the positive changes in your life as a result of practicing it.
Consent and Release Form
Would you please sign this form to participate in The Art of Feminine Presence™
intensive and take responsibility for taking care of yourself?
As a participant in The Art of Feminine Presence™ I agree:
• To confidentiality. I will not repeat anything that another participant shares in class, without that participant’s explicit permission.
• To use “I” statements. I will share from my own experience and not assume others feel or think the same way I do.
• To share authentically how I am feeling at all times.
• To be present to every other woman in the class as much as possible. I understand my presence supports their growth and healing, as theirs does mine.
• To be present at every class possible, and on time. I understand resistance will arise from doing this practice and I will turn up to class even when I don’t want to.
• To give the teacher 24 hours’ notice if I cannot make it to a class, otherwise I will forfeit my tuition for that class.
• To commit to participate fully even when I feel self-conscious.
• To not engage in small talk once the class begins.
• To only share positive and supportive comments to the other women. I will not engage in trying to “fix” someone else or give advice.
• To not wear jeans or shoes to class as this restricts physical and energetic movement. I will wear something easy to move in that makes me feel comfortable and feminine.
• To not consume alcohol or any other recreational drugs before class.
• To be open to light touch by the teacher if that will help me deepen the process.
• I agree to not share the mechanics of the Feminine Presence Meditation with others who haven’t personally experienced it guided by the hands of a Licensed Art of Feminine Presence™ Teacher. This foundational practice does not translate well when taken out of context. Part of the transformative power of it is experiencing it firsthand, with no preconceived notions. Feel free to share, though, the power, potency, and the positive changes in your life as a result of practicing it.
I agree to these shared agreements. Initial ______
2.) I, __________________________________ (print), voluntarily consent to participate in The Art of Feminine Presence™ intensive. I understand these classes are educational and not psychotherapy or a substitute for psychotherapy.
3.) I give _____________________ permission to use any photos of me from this class. This is optional — you do not have to ask, and they do not have to agree, and they can still participate. The other agreements, however, are not optional.
4.) I understand that the workshop may involve physical, mental, intellectual, and emotional activity, including exercises that may tax my physical, intellectual, mental, and emotional capacity. I understand and acknowledge that my participation in the classes and in every separate part of it is purely voluntary and that at all times I will be free to choose NOT to participate in any part or all of the classes. I acknowledge my responsibility for exercising my own judgment and initiative in choosing what parts of the workshop I will participate in. I acknowledge that my choices and my actions may pose a risk of injury to myself or others. By this consent I knowingly and voluntarily assume the risk of injury either to myself or caused to others by me in the training.
I release Groover Seminars, Inc., its staff, and Licensed Teachers from any and all liability for injuries to myself. I agree to hold harmless Groover Seminars, Inc., its staff, and Licensed Teachers from any and all liability for injuries to myself and for any injury to others caused by me. _____
(Initial)
Signature: _________________________________________Date: __________________
Feminine Presence Meditation™
This meditative movement practice is based on Rachael Jayne's 5-year study of The Tantric Dance of the Sacred Feminine with various teachers, as well as her own authentic movement and dance practice.
The primary focuses in this meditation are:
* To move feminine energy through your body.
The meditation is slow, sensual, and devotional. The slow movement is mainly in the hips and pelvis as this is where the feminine energy most loves to move. The upper body is soft and straight. The neck is long and straight at the back with the chin slightly tucked under so you feel you are looking down towards your heart. Once the energy builds in the lower torso, you can begin to move it up your spine to the heart center and eventually to the center of your head.
* To follow the pleasure and joy inside your body.
How much pleasure can you move and contain in your body before dissipating it? The movements are not big, jerky, or fast as that can release the energy that is moving inside the body. Containing energy actually brightens the Light inside of you and increases your glow. Learning to sustain more joy in the body allows you to sustain more joy in your life.
* To heal the split between the energy of your heart and your sexuality.
Feel your heart and womb communicate with each other. Each woman pays strong attention to the three main points of energy in their vertical core of energy. These are the center point of your pelvis, the center point of your heart space, and the center point of your head. Healing the split between our heart and sexuality increases when we can move as we stay connected to both pelvis and heart and feel the energy that is running between the two centers.
* To stay in your center – no matter what!
Remaining in your “Womb Space”, the center of your body, creates so much inner power, outer magnetism, and great connection with others. This meditation asks us to stay connected to that center by feeling and sensing its power at all times.
* To let go. Trust and follow the energy that wants to move you. Let go of self-consciousness. Dancing brings up self-consciousness for everyone. It can look two different ways. The inner voices of these 2 ways speak like this: 1) “I don’t want people to look at me. I might look silly or uncoordinated.” In this space we can close down our authentic free movement because we don’t want others’ judgment and 2) “I hope people are looking at me. My movements probably look really good right now.” In this space we can close down from authentic free movement because we want others’ judgment that we look cool. One may feel more confident, but both are self-consciousness. When we stay present to our body, and come back inside it when we start to feel self-consciousness, it quiets our mind so we can follow what movement wants to happen—in the meditation and in life.
Additional note:
Most of the time you may be asked to start your meditation standing up, but occasionally you may be invited to start lying down, sitting, or any way that calls to you. If you experience back or body pain, it's important to mention this to your instructor and/or get help to make adjustments (such as sitting) that you need to avoid pain.
Why We Do the Witnessed
Feminine Presence Meditation™
Can you stay present even when the stakes are high?
As we open ourselves to living beyond our old pain & fears and into more of our meaningful work and prosperity, our dreams, vital health, & joyful love, we move out of our comfort zones of habitual patterns of behavior. When the stakes are high, staying Present (and out of 'performer' or 'hiding' mode), can become more difficult.
Some examples of high stakes: (Feel what happens in your body as you picture these.)
• A sexy potential partner with a strong, healthy, masculine presence and admiring eyes is looking directly at you and walking your way.
• One of your heroes (Oprah, Marianne Williamson, Tony Robbins, Suzi Orman, Cher) that could have a huge impact in your life is introducing themselves to you.
• You are on stage speaking to 500 of your ideal clients and presenting your offer.
• You're at an interview for your absolute dream job that is 10X the pay you've ever received.
• You are at a large family reunion that includes a relative that was unkind to you in the past and there is still some charge on this situation.
• Your longtime partner is majorly triggered and projecting their stuff onto you.
• You are making love with your new amazing partner for the first time (in broad daylight).
What is your own example? What do you notice happening in your body and energy in these situations? Presence is the secret key for people successful at what they desire. "Fake it 'til you make it" doesn't work anymore because others can sense it, and it's a turn off.
This is why we practice the witnessed meditation! If we can commit to practice mastering in a safe & contained group-- staying IN, while we are being SEEN---we will get amazing at being in our authentic power when a lot of meaningful or potentially triggering attention is on us. We can't get this from a book or from practicing on our own. We need others to witness us and give us safe, authentic feedback.
We can be seen & heard, in the way we want, and we won't miss opportunities or repel people away. Doors will open that we didn't even know existed!
If we are going to stop playing small, we have got to get really good at this.
Additional Information on Appreciations
Giving Appreciations: The appreciations shared by the other women towards the each other can encompass all of the above, and include:
• The aspect/s of the feminine they saw in the woman.
• A positive quality they saw in the woman.
• How they felt the energy moving inside of them; where it flowed and where it felt blocked.
• What they felt emotionally as they witnessed the meditation.
• What they saw in their “mind’s eye.”
• What they were reminded of: possibly a life lesson or piece of wisdom for themselves.
• Colors they saw.
• A message they received for themselves, or a transmission of energy they felt blessed by.
• What part of the meditation they most appreciated and why.
We need to make time and space for the powerful act of appreciating others, and giving them time to let it sink in.
Trust what you see and feel and appreciate. Everyone “appreciates” differently. There is no wrong way to say something positive to a woman. We only have to watch giving a back-handed compliment, "feedback", or a running commentary of the meditation and not actually giving an appreciation.
Start your appreciation with the word “You”, and make it an acknowledgement of something you saw her do, such as, "You were so grounded in your lower body, and your tilting and tucking was so graceful and flowing.
The appreciations are not to be critical in any way. Try not to compare the meditations from week to week, either for yourself or for others. For example instead of saying, “I haven’t seen you be so open before, this was so much more open and receptive,” you can say, “I felt you were even more open, I so appreciated your receptivity.”
You may feel uncomfortable during this—for both the receiver and the givers. Women connecting in this way authentically have been taken out of much of society as competition set in long ago, and this is how we heal that and nourish each other.
Examples of appreciations: "You are so courageous; it's in your energy. You are so grounded and “in the room." You emit this radiance, this glow about you that is so beautiful. You are able to move your body in such subtle ways that are so magnetic and elegant. Your sensuality is so lovely and inspiring -- you make me feel safe to express my own." Notice there is an acknowledgment aspect to this -- that is something they are. Use the present tense, not the past tense. It feels better when someone says “you are radiant” than “you were radiant.”
Receiving Appreciation: Sit in silence, and let the appreciation sink in. This means not saying thank you, giving a Namaste bow, a big smile, or anything that physically or energetically deflects the appreciation. Notice how you can let it settle fully into your body and where you are deflecting or feeling resistant to letting it in.
Recommended Reading List
Powerful and Feminine - Rachael Jayne Groover
This book includes some of the 44 Art of Feminine Practices, as well as other exercises to increase your feminine power and personal presence. It offers a clear definition of what the feminine essence is, and how it can be expressed differently in every woman.
Intimate Communion – David Deida
This contains the best explanation I have read on the masculine and feminine sexual essences. It discusses how to create more sexual polarity in relationships.
The Enlightenment Process – Judith Blackstone
This is a guide to embodied spiritual awakening. It explains how we uncover our authentic Self and embodiment at the same time as we arrive at our spiritual oneness with other people, the world, and the cosmos. Great meditation practices are spread throughout this small book.
A Woman’s Worth – Marianne Williamson
This is a short, poetic, and thought-provoking read and the potential power of women who connect to their feminine side.
Integral Life Practice – Ken Wilber, T. Patten, Adam Leonard, Marco Morelli
This describes how an Integral model of spirituality will raise a person’s consciousness faster than focusing on one area of development. For example, have your physical body practice, as well as your energetic body practice, as well deal with your Shadow and your ethical decisions. It gives many practical exercises and is a blueprint for physical health, emotional balance, mental clarity, and spiritual awakening.
Wild Feminine – Tami Lynn Kent
This book goes into great detail about the energy of the pelvic bowl and how we must connect to the lower half of our body to truly come into our feminine power.
Wild Attraction – Paul and Patty Richards
This gives a great description of the feminine and masculine essences, as well as an in depth exploration into unseen energy that can wreak havoc in our relationships, or make them strong and committed.
The Power of Now – Eckhart Tolle
This is the best explanation I have read on the inner energetic body and how it is one of the quickest ways to become present and free from suffering. It’s a guide to spiritual awakening.
Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow – Marnia Robinson
This is about moving from habit to harmony in sexual relationships. It discusses how our biological programming to mate, have babies, and move on to the next partner can cause much pain in relationships. It prescribes an excellent way to bypass this problem so you can have long, committed, monogamous sexual relationships.
Dear Lover – David Deida
From a conscious man’s perspective, this describes how men want women to share their feminine gifts in an intimate sexual relationship.
The Way of the Superior Man – David Deida
This book is intended for men who want to live more in their masculine. It’s also an interesting read for women who want to understand the masculine essence and what it needs to grow. If you do read it, just remember the language is intended for men.
Heart Circle Manual – Tej Steiner
This explains the power of the two central questions we use in all Groover Seminars, Inc. classes and programs; “How am I feeling?” and “What do I want?” It’s the best circle model I have found to use if you have a women’s group or want to start one.
Dark Side of the Light Chasers – Debbie Ford
This is one of the most simple, and practical reads on the “Shadow” dynamic. Our “Shadows” are the parts of us that we have rejected and disowned which we in turn project onto others and that keep us held back. The way to a functional, healthy life is to integrate all aspects of us.
Ask and it is Given – Esther and Jerry Hicks
This is one of the best books on the Law of Attraction. Almost half the book is practical, daily exercises you can do to bring in more abundance into your life.
Inspiration
When a woman is in her center, she is like wild mare taking flight freely through the open plain, her mane whipping in the wind. The strength of her powerfully sculptured legs merges with the earth, majestically creating its own drumbeat in tribute to Source. She is pure and primal expression of creative power.
What is possible for her becomes totally transformed when her beloved is riding her, the masculine strength who knows and honors her power. It is through his surrender to her that he is able to become one with her. His masterful leadership and understanding of her raw power, her desires and her vision guides and directs the powerful energies in a manner that manifests the greatest good for the unified collaboration. He harnesses the energy into a purposeful end for both.
He does not fear or compete with her magnificent power. Through surrender and union, he experiences his True Nature beyond the world of form and this unleashes his own spiritual power. He is free! She gratefully surrenders to his leadership, for it grounds her, stabilizes her energy, and allows for its manifestation on the physical plane. Both are empowered by the union. Still each of them stands sovereign in his and her own power. Out of the balanced unity is created a third force, a natural flow of synergistic energy between them that combines their individual wholeness into an infinitely expanded wholeness together. All of creation joins in the celebration of this Divine Union.
~ Lakota Sioux, Henry Houston
"...Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we're liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others..."
~ Marianne Williamson, A RETURN TO LOVE, 1992(Paperback; pp 190-191)
A goddess is a woman who emerges from deep within herself. She is a woman who has honestly explored her darkness and learned to celebrate her light. She is a woman who is able to fall in love with the magnificent possibilities within her. She is a woman who knows of the magic and mysterious places inside her, the sacred places that can nurture her soul and make her whole. She is a woman who radiates light. She is magnetic. She walks into a room and male and female alike feel her presence. She has power and softness at the same time. She has powerful sexual energy that's not dependent on physical looks. She has a body that she adores and it shows by the way she comfortably lives and moves in it. She cherishes beauty, light, and love. She is a mother to all children. She flows with life in effortless grace. She can heal with a look or a touch of the hand. She is fiercely sensual and fearlessly erotic and engages in sex as her way to share with another in touching the Divine. She is compassion and wisdom. She is a seeker of Truth and cares deeply about something bigger than herself. She is a woman who knows that her purpose in life is to reach higher and rule with love. She is a woman in love with love. She knows that joy is her destiny and by embracing it and sharing it with others, wounds are healed. She is a woman who has come to know that her partner is as tender, lost, and frightened as she has been at times. She has come to understand the scars of the boy in him and knows that together, love can be the relief, the healing of their wounds. She is a woman who can accept herself as she is. She can accept another as they are. She is able to forgive her mistakes and not feel threatened by another's even when attacked. She is a woman who can ask for help when she needs it or give help when asked. She respects boundaries, hers and another's. She can see God in another's eyes. She can see God in her own. She can see God in every life situation. She is a woman who takes responsibility for everything she creates in her life. She is a woman who is totally supportive and giving. She is a Goddess.
~ Author Unknown
So here I am. Tonight I am standing on the edge. At my toes, a great gorge seems to drop down to an alarming depth. What happens when one falls? What comes with defeat? What shadows lurk beneath?
Victory is the easy part of this road, success, a cool summer breeze-¬all I do is but loosen my shirt. Defeat, troubles, pain and struggles-¬this is where great men and women are made. This is where virtue shines it’s brightest. This is where copper scratches, tin bends, and steel endures. The good times are a dime a dozen. Who cannot sip wine, eat a fine steak, or smoke a cigar? Rather, who can keep their head when all are losing theirs?
Who can deal with Triumph and Disaster and treat both imposters just the same? Failure, defeat, and disaster are perhaps the finest moments we have to prove just who we really are.
~ Author Unknown
I want to beg you
as much as I can
to be patient toward
all that is unsolved
in your heart
and to try to love
the questions themselves.
Do not seek the answers
which cannot be given you
because you would not
be able to live them
and the point is
to live everything.
Live the questions now.
Perhaps you will then
gradually
without noticing it
live along some distant day
into the answer.
~ Rainer-Maria Rilke
Feelings
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Extra Income Opportunities
Commission and discounts on all AFP products and training
Licensed teachers of The Art of Feminine Presence™ will earn the highest commissions on all AFP products, programs, and teacher trainings. We want to make it worth a teacher’s while to recommend our resources. Here is a list outlining the commission for each product and training:
For referring someone and closing them without the help of Groover Seminars staff or sales team:
Teacher Training 1 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $350 commission
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$80 for anyone you refer to an AFP weekend intensive
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You must use affiliate links to track these referrals, so if you are interested in sending invites and promotional emails to friends and clients, get the affiliate links from support@, or call 970-377-2562.
Offer Private VIP Coaching:
Suggested format. 10 Steps to rock it!
1) You will want to have a conversation with your client, and listen intuitively for what is going on. Ask her questions about what's working, what's not working, and what it is she is wanting. You can then gauge what practices to her guide her through--but stay open intuitively during the entire coaching session for which ones will be best for her.
2) You will always guide her through the first few foundational practices at the start, & then go on your intuition for the rest.
3) Womb Space/Head Bubble being the first, and then Walking the Neutral/Masculine/Feminine, Energetic Presence & Radiant Glow, 3 Feminine Activation Points, etc., are great foundational practices to start with. If you need a couple of more foundational ones, Vertical Core, Heart/Yoni Split, are great also.
4) You can do the Feminine Meditation Warm Up to activate her hips and womb, and it could be homework for her also. A first session would probably not be the time to do a Witnessed Meditation, unless she is feeling absolutely comfortable, open, and safe with you, and really embracing the practices.
5) You can price your private coaching according to your higher end hourly rates, with a minimum on how many hours you will work. Most women choose a two or three hour minimum, and some make a half or full day VIP coaching price. You can also make a package of several sessions.
6) Know that you do not have to pack each practice back to back quickly. You can take them slowly and deeply, prompting her for feedback after each. You can take short breaks when needed for a snack, drink, and moving around outside for a bit. A friendly lunch together, or in private for reflection and integration is nice for a full day event.
7) Make sure to state your different packages and prices upfront, and how and when you accept payment, in a matter-of-fact way for everyone's sake. You can offer her a package suggestion, based on what you are hearing in your consultation with her.
8) You can have a shared agreement that would be appropriate for a private coaching, and a release form, on a clip board for her to sign, with a cup of tea waiting.
9) Don't forget to embody what you want her to entrain to. Your embodied Presence conveys more information, but with less words, than you may know. It is the most powerful gift you can give her. You may very well be the first safe woman she's ever experienced who is fully in her feminine essence and giving her such lengthy undivided attention. It will be a very healing and inspiring experience for her. Just love her!
10) Have fun! :-) You will be fabulous!!!
PS Remember, it's ok to read from the manual. xo
Tips for Marketing a class out of town
It's important to have a "champion" there in that town--someone who loves you and the work and has a passion to help you get it out to their circle of women and to the area. You want this person to be plugged into the social network there with the kind of people you want to work with. You need at least one solid person, so reach out to them and see if they want to help you get the word out. Unless they say, "hell yeah," we do not recommend going to the trouble.
If you can, getting there a week ahead of time is best. You can do your Intro at the beginning of the week and do your workshop at the end of the week.
If you have the ability, you can go there well before then and do an Intro or two.
What to upsell them:
Sell private coaching with you during your pitch at the workshop. Sell a package of 3 or 4 sessions, and you can even choose a problem you are solving for them in those coaching sessions.
You could also upsell them into a 2-day event in the near future, or a package of 2-3 private coaching sessions plus the 2-day event.
We do not recommend doing a 5-week series for the out of towners over Skype. It’s nearly impossible for them to get the 'wow' factor. They get so much from the teacher's in-person transmission, and it doesn't translate great over Skype.
You can give a "freebie" away to get them on your mailing list and keep them connected. A freebie could be a mini eBook you write about feminine presence, relationships, stage presence, etc.
How to set up a one day with
multiple team teachers
One of our teachers, Amara Hamilton, had brought up on a teacher’s call that the Canadian teachers are doing a team teaching full day workshop.
Each teacher teaches at least one practice. You can follow this outline: Introduction, two practices, break, two practices, summary of morning, lunch, “ahas,”q & a, a practice, hot seat (coaching at front of room), testimonials, the offer, break, two practices, re-pitch, rally, and Closing Circle.
If you have a teacher who is not offering classes, offer her the opportunity to do the pitch. If all teachers are teaching classes, then have the one who is very comfortable delivering a pitch.
During the offer, pass out a sheet with all the teachers' short bios including photos, a separate sheet that lists all the classes available to choose from and a registration form.
The pitch is right before the afternoon break. People will then have time to ask questions during the break. There is a short re-pitch at the end of the day before the closing circle. Do not take questions directly after the pitch from the stage---it kills the energy. Tell them to go to the back of the room with any questions, rally them, and thank them. Then say, "I'll see you at the back of the room!" (big smile) Then head back there.
Be sure and finish 10-15 min early at the end of the day so they can stick around. Be there to talk to them and answer their questions and *objections.* You can even offer tea/coffee so they stick around.
Give them a discount for signing up right then, them them why, and that you want them to meet their teacher tonight, so they can tell them what they most want to get out of the class.
:-) Amara and the Canadian ladies are creating a new paradigm of collaboration by having several teachers put on the Intro and combine efforts on getting women there!
Working with Teenagers
When marketing for a class for teens, you will need to appeal to parents and teens both. There are practices that we recommend, and there are things not to do as well. Please refer to the, “Working with teens” doc on the AFP Teachers Facebook group under "files" tab for more info. Below are some bullet points.
❖ Keep explanations succinct and simple, and down to Earth.
❖ Don’t pressure them to share if they don’t want to
❖ Keep the classes on the small side
❖ 2 - 3 hours long max - unless you are doing an excursion or retreat with other activities included to break it up
❖ Be compassionate and listen, and don’t pretend you understand their unique circumstances they are going through at this time(advice from a teenager herself)
❖ Make the venue neutral --They don't want to feel as though they have to “fit in” to be there
❖ Speak about the info as tools for them to choose from, rather than something we are telling them to do.
❖ There may be resistance or silence -- or, lots of talking
❖ You may have to work to overcome the fear by showing up consistently and authentically so they can trust you
❖ Keep the explanation applicable to their practical life
❖ Less talking, more practices
❖ Keep it fun and light
❖ No witnessed meditation and be careful in speaking of anything sexual
❖ Focus on how they can protect themselves, be more discerning on who or what situation is good/not good for them, follow a higher guidance system, to make good choices in their lives, be heard and respected, be less drained by others' energy, tap into their creativity more, etc.
❖ Create a feeling of emotional and physical safety-- especially with younger girls
❖ Communicate to parents what we are teaching and going to be doing with them, and the results
❖ Keep the girls of the same age group; a 14 year old is very different from an 18 year old in terms of maturity, what they're going through, etc.
❖ Remember to really bring up confidentiality and respect for each other in to the group so they feel safe to open up and ask questions that maybe embarrassing for them
❖ Have a way for them to submit questions anonymously that could be potentially embarrassing for them.
Exercises that work
❖ Power center/Womb Space and Head Bubble practice - this is a vital one
❖ Energetic Presence (Light Globe)
❖ Unguarded protection is really important, and they get it.
❖ Stop projecting exercise
❖ Walking Neutral/Masculine/Feminine
❖ Less is More---just do the walking and talking portion of it, not the tilting and tucking portion
❖ Avoid anything too sexual --as them being in their sexual center at this time in their life is usually not a problem. They need to balance it out
❖ Teach them to appreciate each other from the heart /womb space is huge and will be healing for them.
❖ You can say Power Center instead of Womb Space if you are working in an institution that that may frown upon that wording -- or if you feel the teens would embrace, "Power Center" more.
Why we do not have teens do the witnessed meditation
1) We feel that teens are not developed enough mentally and emotionally in maturity yet for the witnessed meditation.
2) The meditation brings through sexual energy, and for adults and minors to be witnessing each other in sexual energy could be risky for everyone involved.
3) If a teen gave feedback on another girl's meditation that was not positive, it could really affect her. This is of course a risk with adults too, but we feel that teens are especially susceptible to being affected by negative feedback, but also to the lack of awareness of the ramifications of their sometimes very spontaneous communications.
Working with Men
You can use the Art of Feminine Presence™ practices with men. You just adapt the language a bit. Additionally, we have found that men are very receptive to these practices. He can use them to amplify his masculine essence, or his feminine essence, depending on what he's wanting.
Note: It's good to explain that in nearly every relationship, no matter what the gender, one partner carries more masculine (yang) and one more feminine (yin). So gay or straight, these practices apply and can increase the polarity, the connection, and enjoyment of the relationship. Know who you are working with, and what their desired goals are from working with you.
• Most men with a masculine essence like things to be explained succinctly.
• They like to know these "tools" are useful in everyday life, and will give them results. They like to know what the goal is.
• You would charge the same price you charge for women in a similar workshop and Half-day workshops are great.
• Instead of saying, "Womb Space," you could say "Power Center".
• The 3 Masculine Activation Points are:
• 1) Power center (Dantien--2" below navel & back in body for a man)
• 2) Symmetry in the body w/ awareness in the shoulders & across the chest
• 3) Open the heart to the people in front of you, feeling a ray of energy coming from your chest & shoulders that protects the whole room
For a workshop you could do: Power Center/Head Bubble, 3 Masculine Activation Points, Energetic Presence, Vertical Core, Walking with the Neutral/Feminine/Masculine. If you have more time you could do: Unguarded Protection, Light Shadow, and Stop Projecting.
With the Power Center, some men say they feel it, some men say they don't at first -- just like women. It's about how much awareness a person has in that part of their body. Just like a woman, we would tell them to keep practicing. Most men love to hear that it is the center of their physical endurance and stamina, and a storehouse for their power -- the exact words we have in the manual on this topic.
The following words can be used for marketing or "results" during your Opening Talk: It increases their perceived value so they can charge what they are worth; their integrity, strength, and wisdom translate more to others; women feel more relaxed, appreciative and trusting with them; and they have access to more of their physical stamina and endurance.
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Acknowledgments
During my 5 years of practicing “Tantric Dance of the Sacred Feminine,” I was blessed by 4 amazing teachers and mentors; Loraia Ward, Denise Byron, Kay Lynn Sherman, and Shianna Walker. The Feminine Presence Meditation was inspired by and adapted from this powerful subtle body dance practice.
David Deida is the teacher that has offered me the most understanding about the Feminine Essence. In my opinion, he is the leader in this field and has inspired many people to learn about both the feminine and the masculine sexual essences, how they relate to each other, and how embodying these primary sexual essences can aid our spiritual development.
Tej Steiner, creator of Heart Circles, has been a powerful mentor of mine to help me to get in touch with how I am feeling, and what I am truly wanting. He is a master group facilitator and spiritual coach, who has influenced me in more ways than I can put into words here.
I was blessed to participate in Shianna Walker’s Art of Being a Woman classes, and gained even more awareness on feminine energy and how to increase your personal presence.
Much of this work has been influenced by my yoga and Qigong teachers, especially Master Young Hee (Dahn Yoga), who persevered to help me understand the power of the Dantien, and inhabiting your body. The body really is the doorway to our spiritual connection and manifesting power.
My husband, Datta Groover, who is my co-teacher, business partner, and best friend, influences my work every day. As our relationship grows, I continue to learn more about the masculine and feminine essences and how they relate to each other.
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