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PRAISE FOR

Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself

The Top 10 Survival Tips

for Loving Someone with an Addiction

¡°Money is inextricably linked to every aspect of a person¡¯s life. As

financial planners, we have the privilege of getting to know our clients

at a very personal level. It is amazing how many people encounter

addiction either in their workplace or in their families. We keep

Candace¡¯s book in our front lobby and in our lending library. These

copies regularly disappear. And I know why. Candace Plattor has a

gift for summarizing difficult, sometimes complex truths in an easy to

read, palatable format. You can tell she knows what she is talking

about and has the experience to back it. If you or a family member is

curious about whether addiction is an issue, I would highly

recommend picking up this book. Just don¡¯t ask us for it, because it has

probably gone missing!¡±

TRACY THEEMES, MA, CFP, FMA, FCSI

Financial Advisor, Sophia Financial Group,

Raymond James Ltd, sophiafinancial.ca

¡°Hi Candace, I want to tell you how much I¡¯ve enjoyed your book¡ªI

think I should buy a case of them to hand out to all of our family! I

have been at two family workshops, where I have learned a lot as well,

and my daughter has been to treatment for substance abuse. It has

been quite a journey to come to understand what my job is now as a

mother. I just felt so compelled to email you and tell you that you wrote

an awesome book¡ªand I will continue to share what I¡¯m learning

from it with others... thanks again!¡±

~ GM

¡°Candace¡¯s ability to name the presence of addictive behaviours¡ª

regardless of who the addicts are in relationship with¡ªwas

tremendously significant and freeing for me, both on a personal level

and in my professional life as a therapist. She identifies clearly who is

responsible for what, from the perspective of both the addict and the

family member, and takes away the crippling effects of blame. Her

book has helped me tremendously and I recommend it highly to my

clients.¡±

~ HEATHER DICKSON, MA

Therapist in Private Practice

¡°Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself is such a straightforward

approach to dealing with an addiction situation with a loved one or

ourselves. One of Candace¡¯s favorite sayings in the book is that ¡°If

nothing changes, nothing changes¡±. The book is about our desire to

change our lives from where we have drifted into the paralysis of

addictive and/or codependent behaviors, to be able to take active steps

of self-realization and self-care. Candace gives us the 10 most

important survival tips on ¡®how to¡¯ get from here to there in this easy to

read guide. Reading it was an epiphany for me¡ªI understand now that

one can choose to change from ¡®drift¡¯ to ¡®direction¡¯ and survive as a

stronger and more loving person. I give away new copies to friends

and family because my book stays by my bedside to be read and

reread.¡±

~ KATHRYN FRIESEN, MSc

¡°Candace Plattor¡¯s work has effected a powerful positive change in

my life. Loving An Addict, Loving Yourself was my crucial first step in

breaking free from the pain of an addictive relationship. This little blue

book is so wise and wonderful. It was instrumental in creating the

joyful life I¡¯m now living. Thank you Candace!¡±

~ ALEXANDRA

¡°I just finished reading the two forewords and your acknowledgement

in your book and I was deeply moved by all that I read. In fact it even

brought tears to my eyes. Inspirational tears...

I¡¯m so grateful to have you as my therapist at this stage in my life. For

without you, I can¡¯t even begin to imagine what my life would be like

because you have taught me so much about myself and helped me to

start growing up. And I have grown in ways I¡¯ve yearned to grow, and

I couldn¡¯t have done it without you. Thank you for your book, what a

treasure it is!¡±

~ KT

¡°I want you to know that I have read your book and find it really wellorganized, practical and easy to understand for the lay person¡­ from

what I have read so far, you have made an outstanding contribution to

the world of helping with addictions.¡±

~ DC

¡°I wanted to let you know how much I have enjoyed your book. I will

definitely buy another copy to lend to others (or better still, to show

them and then have them make a note to buy their own). My signed

copy will be staying on my shelf.

I found it very easy to read and a sensible approach for so many of us

stuck in our ¡°trying to fix or support¡± role. I believe when someone is

caught in the enabling role of a loved one, they can be helped by a

sensible, clear approach. I like yours.

I also like your quotes. And personal stories....¡±

~ KARLEEN NEVERY, RPC CGA,

Therapist in Private Practice

¡°I read your book Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself: The Top 10

Survival Tips for Loving Someone with an Addiction from start to

finish the very first night I got it. I couldn¡¯t put it down because I kept

wanting to know about the next survival tip! It was a very positive read

and it left me feeling relieved. I still read part of your book each night

to keep my spirit uplifted. I especially like the case studies because

they give me a sense of how to go about working on my relationship in

a healthy way, rather than continuing the patterns I got used to. I

especially like how each case study ends off with a positive outcome

for the loved one of the addicted person. Thank you for your help.¡±

~ MC

¡°As I read this book, I gradually became convinced that the key to my

wellbeing was Self-Care. I am happy to say that as I started to

recognize and take care of my own needs, life with the addict I love

improved. But even if it hadn¡¯t, I would have been happier, healthier,

and more at peace. Candace is a champion for this process, and she is

living proof that it works.

~ SK

I love this book; it¡¯s smart, it¡¯s current and relevant, and it¡¯s chock-full

of practical information. Candace¡¯s wisdom and experience shine

through. I often read passages out to my groups and I recommend it to

loved ones of those struggling with addiction. It definitely filled a gap

in reference material in this field.¡±

~ FIONA JEYACHANDRAN, ALCOHOL & DRUG COUNSELLOR

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