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Prompt #1:??Values Worksheet:? What were your top 5 values?? What kinds of defining characteristics did you associate with your values as you crossed them off the list one at a time until you had only one value listed?? What did you learn about your values hierarchy through this activity? My top five values are: honesty, personal development, physical challenge, quality relationships, and stability. As I crossed off each of the four values, dwindling down to one, I compared them to each other. For me, the four I crossed off: honesty, physical challenge, quality relationships, and stability all roll up into the one value I kept – personal development. I did not necessarily think about characteristics as I crossed them off, more just that these are all encompassed in living up to my fullest potential, and being the best version of myself. I thought about this week’s textbook reading, and connecting life goals to my personal vision (Harrington, 2007). Sure, I want to have all of those values I crossed off, but my life goals really focus on being the best person I can. ?The two (goals and vision) need to run parallel to each other, and I thought about that as I completed this exercise (Harrington, 2007).?Prompt #2:? Take a moment to revisit your?Identities Table?(you completed this as part of last module’s discussion topic – Prompt #4).? Take a look at each of your “areas of identity” and reflect on your responses there – in light of your core values.? What are your core values in each of those “areas of identity?”? Highlight several key “areas of identity” that guide you in life and think about whether the values you ascribed to these areas are values that you truly live by or simply talk about.? Discuss any “values gaps”.? Professionally, my areas of identity were: investor relations manager, employee, manager, and culture committee lead/company advocate. During the values checklist exercise, one of my top ten values was growth. For me, this fits with investor relations manager. In this role, I am constantly learning new things, and exploring other options. This is ultimate growth. One of my top five values was stability. For me, this fits with employee. I am a loyal, dedicated employee. I have been employed at the same company for eight years. Throughout this time, there have been ups and downs, but because I am loyal, I stay and ride the tide. Another one of my values was public service. This can go hand in hand with management, and doing a service to others by helping them grow. Personally, my areas of identity were: mother, wife, community volunteer, and student. Community was a top ten value for me. Being involved, and making a difference in my community is very important to me.? One way I do this is through volunteering, and making a difference. Quality relationships was a top five value for me. With this, I care about my marriage, and strengthen the bond we have. My top value was personal development, and that value fits well with bring a student. I did not have to return to school. I have a successful career, and no one told me I needed to. Additionally, I do not really have the time to return to school. However, because I truly want to be the best version of myself, here I am! The only value gap I see is with being a mother. I have the quality relationship with my husband, but I need to remember that my children need that as well. Being a working, student mother is hard, and time consuming. I need to work on growing and fostering that relationship with my children while they are still younger. I need to reevaluate matching my commitments to my convictions, do a resource check, and change course (Houlder & Sull, 2003). I do not want to look back on these years and wish I would have handled them differently with my children.?Prompt #3:??Dreams and Desires Worksheet:??What underlying meaning did you discover through exploring your dreams and desires in this manner?? Can you see a connection between what you desire and your inner sense of purpose?? Explain. I learned that is the little things in life I desire. I am not asking to be a millionaire, or the best mom in the world, I dream of my kids having success, by being who they want to be, and being positive contributors to our crazy world. My dreams of wanting to travel the world may be farfetched, but I have made a substantial dent with traveling to most of the U.S. My dream of leaving a footprint on the world is something I have always reached for. I want to do good in the world, and have an impact. My inner sense of purpose is directly linked with this, to be a role model, inspire others, and contribute to someone else’s success. I do know that before I can help and inspire others, I need to achieve my own goals, and understand and feed my own passion, and this is something I am consciously working on (Harrington, 2007).?Prompt #4:??Lemming Debrief:? Think about the structures in your life – select two or three and discuss how each of these structures influence your life, the way you view the world, the way you relate to others, and your ability to be effective. Born with one arm. This is a physiological structure, and could be perceived as a limitation. This influence my life daily. Professionally, it catches people off guard. They do not expect the person they are talking to, or meeting with to only have one arm. When I show up in a suit and reach out to shake hands with my left hand, this often throws people a curve ball. It challenges me to be the best, and do what those think I cannot. It challenges me to step outside the box and inspire others. It also changes my view on the world differently. I think about people, and the physical challenges they face different. I have empathy, but also get frustrated when people look for pity, or use their disability as an excuse. The only way this has changed my ability to be effective is I think I would have choose a different career right out of college. I really wanted to be a surgeon, and at that time I thought that was impossible. Looking back at that time, I could have done it, and I should have. However, I did not, and that is okay too, because it has made me be who I am today. I have since found a new meaning in today’s familiar territory (Boyatzis, McKee, & Goleman, 2002). In today’s world, having one arm has not impacted my effectiveness. The other structure in my life is being a mother. This influences my daily life in a huge way. It impacts me financially, socially, physically, emotionally, and in any other way you can possible think of. No one can prepare you for being a parent, and how much it changes your life, mostly for the good. ;)? Being a mother certainly has changed the way I view the world, good and bad. We live in a scary world, and much of my worries/views are due to me being a mother. I do relate to others differently, but I also think this is part of growing up. My conversations used to be focused on drama, and girl talk. Now, they are full of sports, kids, and exhaustion! ?I would say that being a mother alters my ability to be effective. Sure, I am a decent student, but if I did not have children to worry about, and had more time, I could probably do better. The same can be said for being an employee, and manager. However, being a mother has made me more effective at life. I am a stronger multi-tasker, my patience level has increased, and I have become more diverse in learning about sports, clubs, Star Wars, and princesses. Ultimately, it has not impacted my life in a positive or negative manner, just different!?Prompt #5:? Make some connections between the Lemming Dilemma and the HBR article?“Do your commitments match your convictions?”???In particular, comment on “inertia” with respect to the structures in your life.? Elaborate on the positive and negative aspects of inertia with respect to living a values-centered life. When I was born and growing up, I had to face a lot of challenges and opportunities with only having one arm. Sure, I could have said “I can’t” and gave up, but I did not. I could have accepted the fact that people (including my parents) did not know how/if I were going to be able to do certain things. But, I didn’t. I proved everyone wrong, and took a great leap forward (Houlder & Sull, 2003). My value of personal development and being the best version of myself is what kept me going, it was my force. The positive in this is that I have literally conquered everything in life. I am fierce, and find a way. The negative is that this has made me an incredibly stubborn person, who likes change, and to be challenged. I get bored, am feisty, and speak my mind. The negative with inertia is that if you do not make a change, and no one does, there is a missed opportunity. If I did not take matters into my own hand, and say “I am going to figure out how to white water raft,” I would have never discovered this addicting, pleasing, satisfying habit of mine. I am so much like Emmy in the Lemming Dilemma, and still to this day take matters into my own hand, and find new adventures (Hutchens).?Prompt #6:? Imagine that your life exists exactly the way that you want it to be, right at this moment –?regardless of what you believe is actually possible.? What do you see?? Where are you?? Who are you with?? What do you do with your time?? Be specific.??Also, what underlying personal meaning, values, personal characteristics, desires are represented and/or satisfied in that life??I did it; I paired my interests and passions (Harrington, 2007). Because of this, I became the first highly successful surgeon with a limb disorder. I conquered many challenges, but in doing so became the face of Hanger prosthetics, the company that helped me create a tool where I can precisely perform a wide variety of surgeries. I went to school in Grand Rapids, MI where I still reside with my beautiful family. I am happily married to my husband, Matt, and we have two amazing children. I am well off financially, but you would not know it by meeting me, or coming to my house. I live in a middle-upper class neighborhood, and my kids attend public schools.? I do splurge on a house cleaner and a professional cook. With our families food restrictions, preparing meals and cleaning the house is very time consuming and takes away from valuable family time. I have normal office hours, and am on-call every other weekend. In my free time I relax with my children, go out on my boat, do yoga, go to the gym, volunteer for several local non-profits, and am still an advocate for Hanger prosthetics. My core values are personal development, community, building long lasting relationships, and stability. I enjoy helping others day to day, and being able to make a physical impact on their lives. I have worked hard to be the best version of myself, and am proud of how far I have come. I pushed myself in med school when I wanted to give up, because I knew that it would be worth it in the end. ?My commitments match my conviction, I do what I can to help others, while providing a good life for myself and my family (Houlder & Sull, 2003).?Boyatzis, R., McKee, A., & Goleman, D. (2002). Reawakening your passion for work.?Harvard Business Review. Retrieved from:?, B. & Hall, D. (2007). Career Management & Work-Life Integration. Thousand Oaks, CA: Sage.Houlder, D. & Sull, D. (2003). Do your commitments match your convictions?.?Harvard Business Review. Retrieved from:? ................
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