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Don’s 11th Step process, based on BB p.86-88

On Awakening – Morning Quiet Time (C.6, Into Action, S.11, p.86, par.2)

1. OPENING PRAYER: ‘Good morning, God. Thank you for the gift of another day. Help me use it wisely. Grant me the discipline to be productive and useful and the power to remain abstinent from toxic food, toxic thinking, and toxic behavior. Direct my thinking today, God. Keep it free of self pity, dishonest or self seeking motives. [C.6, S.11, p.86, par.2, lines 3-5] Keep me free of selfishness, dishonesty, resentment and fear and all of fear’s stepchildren – controlling, perfectionism, procrastination, false pride, worry and anxiety.'

2. Plan my day. 1) plan of eating 2) prioritized activity/action plan 3) attitude plan.

3. INDECISION ON PLAN? Ask God for guidance, then relax, take it easy, listen. [C.6, S.11,p. 86, par.3] ‘God, what would you have me do about ____? Show me your will for me on this issue. How may I best serve you? Thy will be done.’ Listen.

God’s will – Don’s criteria: That which will likely bring self respect, leave me feeling peaceful rather than conflicted, is loving toward others, and is consistent with the principles of the steps and traditions.

4. Read my daily mediation books and write on applications to me.

5. Gratitude list

6. Prayers: Serenity, 3rd, 7th, 11th, Resentment prayer, Fear prayer, personal prayers.

7. Emptying-out meditation

8. Recite my personal articles of faith

9. Affirmations

10. Concluding prayer.

As we go through the day (C.6, S.11, p.87-88)

Pause, when agitated or doubtful about what to do:

‘I accept, God that I am not in charge, that I am not running the show. What would you have me do in this situation, God? What do I do with my agitation, God? How may I serve you? Thy will be done, not mine.' Listen. [C.6, S.11, pp.87-88,]

“We constantly remind ourselves we are no longer running the show, humbly saying to ourselves many times each day “Thy will be done.” We are then in much less danger of excitement, fear, anger, worry, self-pity, or foolish decisions. We become much more efficient. We do not tire so easily, for we are not burning up energy foolishly as we did when we were trying to arrange life to suit ourselves.” [C.6, S.11, p. 88, par.1] “It works – it really does.” (C.6, S.11, p.88)

When we retire at night (C.6, Into Action, S.11, p.86. par.1)

Constructively (gently & kindly) review my day, being careful not to drift into worry, remorse, or morbid reflection because that would reduce my usefulness to others. [Here, Step 10 is incorporated in Step 11.]

1. Was I selfish, dishonest, resentful or afraid? Don’t forget step children of fear.

2. Do I owe an apology?

3. Have I kept something to myself which should be discussed with another person at once?

4. Was I kind and loving toward all?

5. What could I have done better?

6. Was I thinking of myself most of the time?

7. Was I thinking of what I could do for others?

8. Pray, ‘God, forgive me for today’s mistakes. Show me what corrective measures I should take. Thy will be done, not mine.’

Don's 11th Step Process - Supplement

Truths

● I accept that I have the disease of COE and am addicted to certain foods and eating behaviors. I cannot, and never will be able to deal with food the way normal eaters do. I need a structured plan of eating and a way of thinking and living that keep me in fit spiritual condition. (p.85)

● I get power to remain abstinent - free from the compulsion -by staying aligned with the design for living outlined in the steps, traditions, tools and slogans.

● God, the spirit of the universe, has many manifestations, one of which is the quiet inner voice or force for good deep within. Therefore I am in God and God is in me. He resides somewhere in the spiritual space between my intuition and my conscience. In meditation I tap into that spiritual space from which I gain strength and guidance.

● God doesn't make everything happen that happens, but he's always there to help me through it.

● Life is unfair and insecure. Accept it, deal with it. I am responsible for how I feel and my actions. Do my part, then LGLG. Accept and deal, rather than whine and eat.

● Live my life based on the model of "How can I be of service to God and others."

● Surrender by saying to myself many times each day: "Thy will be done." (S.10, p.86)

● Base my day and life on unselfish love and service. Love as manifested in patience, tolerance, kindness, compassion, love, acceptance, understanding, a calm mind and steady heart. Service as manifested in sharing my experience, strength, and hope with still suffering COE's and doing whatever I can to keep OA healthy.

Prayers

● Here is my day, God. Guide my thinking, words and actions.

● God, grant me the discipline to be productive and useful today and the power to abstain from toxic foods, toxic thinking and toxic behavior.

● God, take away the clutter and clamor in my mind and life and help me do what needs to be done. Today is a precious gift. Help me not waste it. Help me make this day count.

● God, help me deal with every situation today with a calm mind and steady heart.

● God, help me to live the principles today of ODAAT, FTF, EZDI mindset, LLL, LGLG, HIII

● 7th: faith-fear; surrender-control; acceptance-anger/resentment; forgiveness-animosity; tolerance-intolerance; positive can do attitude-negative attitude; gratitude-self pity; solution focused-problem focused;, kind-unkind.

● 11th: God, help me seek to comfort, understand and love rather than to be comforted, understood and loved.

● Fear: ‘Remove my fear, God, and direct my attention to what you would have me be.’68

● Resentment: God, help me remember that ___ is a sick person - physically, emotionally and spiritually - and that I need to show ___ the same patience, tolerance, kindness, love and pity I would cheerfully grant a sick friend. Show me how I can be helpful to ___. Keep me from being angry. Thy will be done.’ 67

● Concluding: Here is my day, God. Direct my thinking and actions, motivate me to work and be productive in your service, transform me from self centered to God centered, heal the emotional wounds of now and the past.

Guide me step by step, minute by minute, through the day. Keep me free from the bondage of my ego and false pride. Give me the strength to follow the plan you and I made for this day. Help me to practice patience, tolerance, kindness and love toward all (S.9, p.83) and to base my life on the principles of the Steps, Traditions, Tools and Slogans. Help me seek to comfort, understand and love rather than to be comforted, understood and loved. Give me the strength and wisdom to be of service to you and to others. Keep me coming back to your well during the day, God, for a drink of your love, your strength, your guidance and your peace.

Affirmations (OA's JFT's)

● God will give me the strength to deal with whatever life brings - including disability.

● I have nothing to fear today or any day as long as I let god take charge of me and all the circumstances in my life.

● I love myself unconditionally as God loves me unconditionally. As a child of God I have value and purpose or I would not have been given the gift of life. I seek that purpose and the power to carry it out.

● There is no problem I cannot take to God, and none for which he does not have a solution.

● I do not waste who I am by living in a dream of who I wish I was.

● I leave tomorrow to God but do today what I think God would have me do to prepare for tomorrow.

● I leave the judging of others to God and keep my eyes on my own path.

● God is always with me, whether I'm aware of it or not. The light of God's unconditional love and power is always

on in the background of my life, just like a nightlight always on in the darkness of my brain.

● I am enough, I have enough, I do enough.

● The light of God's love surrounds me, fills me, blesses me, heals me, inspires me, calms me. Wherever I am, God is. God is in me and I am in God.

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