Happiness in Intimacy

Happiness in Intimacy

Study 1 Happiness and Desire, Construction and Function

Created by Ken Rikard-Bell Based from book "Loving Sex ? Happiness in Mateship" By Dr Richmond Rikard-Bell Website: .au

Welcome to the first of six Studies in the series, Happiness in Intimacy. These studies present a pathway to the realisation of happiness in mateship love. I hope the information will encourage, mystify and release you into discovering the full potential of mateship love.

The data presented in these Studies is drawn from the research findings of the late Dr Richmond Rikard-Bell (MBBS), medical practitioner specialising in human sexuality, and frequent guest lecturer for the Faculty of Medicine at the University of New South Wales, Sydney. His research on human sexuality included over 800 couples and numerous individuals, and was published in his widely-acclaimed book, Loving Sex ? Happiness in Mateship (1991).

Early in his career, Dr Rikard-Bell recognised that the physical and emotional aspects of married life were inextricably interwoven, and worthy of equal attention. His initial focus on helping women with frigidity issues raised questions that could only be answered through a deeper, broader understanding of human sexuality. As part of his research, he travelled to England where he hoped to find the latest information. But he discovered that his own research was already more advanced. This encouraged him to continue his own work and research.

In life, Dr Rikard-Bell was a pioneer, ahead of his time. In death, his work endures, relevant for yet another generation.

Introduction to Study 1

Is our society's current approach to sex making us happy? Could another approach bring us happiness in mateship?

Currently, ? 2 out of 3 relationships break up. ? Over 83.6% of couples live together first. 70% of these relationships break up. ? 1 in 3 marriages end in divorce (2nd marriages 63%; 3rd marriages 74%). ? Over 55% of males and females commit adultery. ? Sexual satisfaction for women is rated at less than 30%. ? Over 90% of people have pre-marital (pre-mateship) sex ? Many males and females have numerous mates before they settle for one. ? Over 50% of our school children will have multiple partners by the time they leave

school. ? Pornography, mainly driven by males, is invading many relationships and having

major impact in the dissatisfaction of intimate living for both men and women. ? Sex buddies- girls are pressured into having sex, without love or commitment,

believing it's the only way to get a man.

These statistics indicate that our approach to sex is not making us happy. Depression and anxiety are at an all-time high, while suicide in teenagers and men in midlife are the highest per capita in the world.

Research by Richmond Rikard-Bell details another approach that can bring happiness in mateship, where a man and woman can be sexually fulfilled with one partner and experience significant happiness.

It's time to:

Study 1 covers the following topics:

Part 1 Happiness and Desire

Part 2 Construction and Function

Echoes from the past Human sexual desire Understanding female sexual desire Sexual control of the human being The human sexual muddle An outline of what should be Stages of female arousal The Marriage Happiness Pattern Utilising the Marriage Happiness

Pattern

Information for pre-adolescent children

Construction and function of the female

The menstrual cycle and conception Construction and function of the male Definition of sexual intercourse

Objectives To increase understanding of human sexuality To increase understanding of male and female sexual desire To understand the Marriage Happiness Pattern as a guide for couples to achieve

happiness To appreciate the wonder of male and female anatomy

The following information is a summary, taken from Dr Richmond Rikard-Bell's book, Loving Sex- Happiness in Mateship. For a fuller explanation, please refer to the original book.

PART 1 HAPPINESS AND DESIRE

CHAPTER ONE

HAPPINESS, SEX AND LOVE

Echoes of the past

Through the ages, each generation has sought happiness, and connected it somehow with relationship building and marriage. But marital happiness has rarely been the norm. In Ancient Greece 450BC, Pericles commented that he feared for the future of young people? like their parents, they had no idea how to achieve happiness (and nor would their children). Clearly, parents cannot pass on a pattern of happiness in marriage if they themselves do not experience it. Is each generation then, each couple, left to sort out happiness for themselves?

Furthermore, people are confused about sexual mores that often conflict. Should we promote sexual prudishness or sexual license? The Victorian era in the 1800's, for example, was a time of prudishness; today we are in a time of extreme sexual license, with the internet complicating family and cultural norms.

How can we slow down the sexual mores pendulum, and realise happiness in marriage? Dr Richmond Rikard-Bell believes there is a way.

"This book would not have been written if it were not possible to slow down the sexual mores pendulum. Over a great many years of medical practice, I have learnt and been taught how men and women can apply resistance for themselves. These methods have been proven with hundreds of couples and individuals, and the resultant joyous happiness in the lives of those concerned has been heart-warming. That this includes the marriages of our six eldest children has been a continual source of joy for my wife and myself. What can be achieved with hundreds can be extended to apply to thousands and indeed millions of men and women. You will also discover in the following pages that the correction of our sexual outlook and behaviour leads onto many other things as well.

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