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Online and Traditional DatingBelle Koch10/30/12Dating is a tradition that goes back many years. This tradition was created after arranged marriages stop. Dating allowed people in other words to “try out” men/women to see who they were compatible and happy to spend their life with. As the world grows and changes, so do traditions. This is shown to be true with dating. People these days date in two different ways, the traditional way and online dating. There are many similarities and differences such as safety, emotional connection, meeting a variety of people, experience, and how they are done.For starters when comparing online and traditional dating, they have little in common with each other. With online dating, there is less of a one to one contact with the other person unless they choose to meet. Whereas, with traditional dating, people have more face contact and, they see each other in person often. Also, with this they go on dates, and know prior to the date somewhat what the other person looks like and is interested in. With online dating, the only thing one knows is what the other person may look like or be interested in by what they say on their profile for the website. Everyone has their own thoughts about each way of dating. In the end there is no right or wrong way to date. There is each person’s opinion for what they believe is right. Before the internet, there was only the traditional way of dating for people to use to connect with others. Some may say that online dating is wrong and unsafe. Although this may be true that it isn’t the safest, some people are willing to take the risk to find a significant other. There are so many people in this world, with the use of the internet, people from all over come together and connect with one another. That is where online dating has an advantage. With traditional dating one usually dates people from around the similar area. This could be good or bad. Because they are from the similar area, those two people are more likely to have some in common. Also they are possibly more compatible because of this. But, like an often saying states, “opposites attract.” People are attracted to others who may live in different ways than them. With meeting people from different areas, states, or even countries one gets to learn new things and different styles of living.For some though, change is not their cup of tea. They are more interested in someone who they have similar qualities, goals, and priorities with. Not only can one find people on the internet, which have different qualities to them, they can also find people with many similarities. Knowing this information, people can decide ahead of time if this is the type of person they would be interested in or not. The way people find out this information is by what other people put on a profile.Websites that people use to connect and meet, and/or date people are: Facebook, , e Harmony, Match Maker, and Zoosk. With these websites, one joins it and sets up a profile. Here is where the online dating business gets a little scary. When connecting with these people on the websites, one expects them to be honest about themselves. Although, it is depressing that someone would lie to hurt another this happens all too often. It is hard to judge someone when one has never met on whether they are being honest or not. When choosing to date online one must be careful not to meet someone who wants to hurt them. This is how predators meet people. We see almost too often stories about how two people met online and, decided to meet, but they both didn’t have the same intentions. One of them would either get murdered, go missing, or other worse things.With online dating, there are other flaws that may affect the relationship such as personal contact. Without one on one contact, or face to face contact, there is a loss of connection between the two people. They think they are happy with the person, but they don’t even really know them. People grow a connection of knowing others by having this contact. To help prevent this though, they have created webcams and programs to meet and chat with other people. A popular program is skype, this is where people with webcams can connect with friends, family, and strangers through a video call.Having these internet tools are great and helpful for people who choose the online dating choice, but nothing compares to the face conversation with someone. It may be more awkward if someone is shy, but people get a better connection into who the other person really is. Some people are old fashioned and think that this is the right, and only way to meet and date people, through personal contact.The people that choose traditional dating over online dating sometimes can find themselves struggling to find people they like. That is where this type gets complicated; some can be impatient and often become discouraged because they may think that there is nobody out there for them. It is harder to look for people that have similarities; one must go out often and be willing to meet people. There is more to dating than just going out. When the persons interests and hobbies aren’t plastered on a page for everyone to see, it can become more difficult to connect.Looking at the process of traditional dating versus online dating, online seems to be a quicker, yet less emotionally connected process. When one goes on a date the traditional way, they know minimal or no information about the other they are seeing like stated before. This can cause the process to drag out longer because most people don’t normally open up on the first date and tell their life story and interests. If then, one realizes that they are not interested in the other, things can get complicated and awkward when seeing each other another unplanned time. But, with online dating if things don’t work out as the two thought, they can just choose to quick messaging and talking to each other. There is less of a chance they will meet this person in real life. Also on the internet most people don’t know your address or number so one is less likely to be stalked if the person is a creep.Traditional dating goes way back to hundreds of years ago, where online dating on the other hand, is a more recent discovery that is growing to become more popular among folks. Looking back at the history of our culture, we can see how this tradition has grown and how different things are today compared to what they were like before. “Dating” is a loose term we use for when people go out socially together. They could have been together for awhile, or just started seeing each other. When looking back many years to after arranged marriages, people didn’t really date for long. People usually found someone they liked and then they would get married and have a family. There usually weren’t many different people they would see. In fact, they really didn’t date much. They would maybe spend time together alone, or in a group, and then they would get married. This is what true traditional dating is like. Whereas today; people may go on many dates, with many people, for any period of time. This time period could be years, months, or even weeks. This is the more recent traditional way of dating.As we see the tradition of dating grow, we see how it becomes a more casual thing and not as big of a deal. Men used to dress up and treat the lady with much respect, and the lady would also be dressed up and very proper. They would have flowers, and ask in a romantic way. Slowly they started to get less proper and more formal with dating. Now we are at present day, and men just text girls to go out on a date. But this is not always true with the present, there are still some people who like to be old fashioned and do those things to help win the other person over.So, as readers can see though not only through this essay, but though history, there are different levels, in other words, to traditional dating. There is the formal way, which is more old fashioned and proper. And also there is the casual way, which is more recent, and more laid back way of dating. There are not really any “levels” of dating for people who choose the online choice. Suppose one could say that meeting in person and not meeting could be considered the closest thing to. Another plus for traditional dating is the experience one gains. When a person puts themselves out there not only do they gain experience from the dates they go on, they can also gain emotional experience to become a better and stronger person. By going on dates with others, one gains the experience; they get to try new things. People often do things they never have, or never would if they were by themselves. Even though people may not like putting themselves out in the dating world, and taking the risk of getting hurt. The emotional strength they will gain by going on these dates and meeting these people will help them to become better people.There is no right or wrong way to date; there are both benefits and disadvantages for each way. Each person has their opinion and a way that best suits them and their life style. One must always remember to be safe and enjoy the experience they are creating. ................
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