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13 Reasons Why
Discussion guide for parents
13 Reasons Why is a fictional drama
series that tackles tough real-life issues
experienced by teens and young people,
including sexual assault, substance
abuse, bullying, suicide, gun violence
and more.
This Netflix series focuses on high
school student, Clay Jensen and
the aftermath following his friend
Hannah Baker¡¯s death by suicide after
experiencing a series of painful events
involving school friends, leading to a
downward spiral of her mental health
and sense of self. Filmed in a candid
and often explicit manner, the series
takes a look at the issues faced by
young people today.
Important points to remember:
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Some people may be
distressed by some of the
themes in the series, while
others are not. This will depend
on individual life experiences
and current circumstances. It
is important to be respectful of
other people¡¯s experiences.
headspace and Netflix have
collaborated to develop the following
information that may be helpful for
viewers of the show and the wider
community. It can be helpful to use
the show as an opportunity to talk
with your young person about topics
that may otherwise go unspoken.
The information below aims to
assist parents engage in healthy
conversations about some of the
issues addressed in 13 Reasons Why.
It also includes some suggestions for
how to respond to these appropriately
and spur productive discussions
around these themes.
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Remember, this is TV,
dramatized for viewer
engagement, designed
to entertain. This season
endeavors to present
challenging issues in
a meaningful way, to
acknowledge the experiences
young people may go through.
The characters may not be
realistic representations for
every viewer.
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Unfortunately, the themes
explored in this series are far
too common among young
people. You may not be
aware if your young person
or their peers have had
experiences similar to those
of the characters in the series.
Having open conversations
can help to know when further
support is necessary, but there
are also other signs to look out
for (covered below). It can help
to keep this in mind in the days
and weeks during and after
your young person is exposed
to the show (through peers or
by watching).
Tips for discussing the show safely:
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Do some research and get
informed about the show - try to
watch it if you can
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Try to have discussions about
the show when all people are
feeling calm
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Consider if it is age appropriate
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Talk about your reasons
for concern
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Understand their desire to
watch the series. Understanding
their point of view doesn¡¯t
mean agreeing with them
but it may help to keep the
conversation going
1.
If you and your young person decide to watch the
series, it might be useful to consider some of the
following:
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Find out what content is coming
up at
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Take breaks and do soothing
things between episodes (for
example; go for a walk, share a
meal with someone, do some
exercise, spend time
with friends)
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Identify what episodes or themes
are likely to be more difficult.
Then, agree on whether to skip
this part, or write a list of things
that are likely to help. These are
likely to be the same things that
help a person uses to cope in
other stressful situations
Ensure they watch with a support
person or watch it together
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Know where to go for
professional support if this
becomes necessary and support
them to get professional care.
There is a list of professional
support options below
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Model good self care behaviours
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Remember to keep checking in
with them
Questions to help start the conversation:
2.
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Do you think the characters in the
show are behaving in ways that
are similar to people you know?
How so? How are they different?
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What do you think about what
happened in this episode?
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Did parts of the story make you
think about how people who are
struggling do not show the full
picture of what they are dealing
with to others?
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What did you learn about [choose
a specific character] situation
from this episode?
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What would you do if you knew a
friend was considering harming
themselves or others?
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Who would you go to if you were
experiencing any of the situations
these teens went through?
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Does anything you¡¯ve watched
in the series change your
perspective on something you¡¯ve
experienced yourself?
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What part of the show do you
relate to the most?
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Do you know someone who has
been sexually assaulted?
Have you ever felt the way that
Hannah, Clay or any of the other
characters feel?
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Have you experienced anything
like the characters in the show?
Have you ever wanted to tell
someone about bullying or harm
that was happening to someone
you know but worried that it
was tattling?
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Do you think the adults did
anything particularly helpful or
unhelpful? What was helpful
about what they did? Or, what
could they have done differently?
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How do you know when to offer
compassion/support/empathy
and when to set
clear boundaries?
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Do you know anyone that might
be in trouble or need help?
Tough but important topics are raised in 13 Reasons Why. Here are some tips
for talking about these issues:
Suicide
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The show examines how different
people process Hannah¡¯s death.
When talking to young people
about how Hannah¡¯s suicide is
depicted in Season 2 it is
important to reiterate that death
is final. The person who has died
is not able to know what happens
after. Although they can be ¡®held in
heart and mind¡¯ by loved ones, they
are not able to communicate after
their death.
Remember suicide is a complex
issue with many contributing
factors, including individual
personality characteristics,
coping styles, life history
of experiences, current
circumstances, support networks,
and mental health difficulties.
Don¡¯t focus on the method of the
suicide. Avoid talking graphically
or in detail about how a person has
suicided. Detailed descriptions of
the death can be overwhelming
and distressing, and may increase
the risk of imitation by vulnerable
young people. Keep the focus
on how to manage the emotions
brought up by the suicide and
away from details of how someone
has suicided.
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A close and trusting relationship
with adults increases the chance a
young person will seek help during
tough times. Strategies to improve
the relationship between key
adults and young people will help
reduce the risk of suicide.
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Young people experience a lot
of changes between the ages of
12-25, and particularly between
14-18. This includes biological,
social and psychological changes
that significantly impact how they
handle tough times. Young people
may have times when they are
less able to handle difficulty,
and require additional support,
particularly from family and friends.
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It can be hard for young people
to share if they are experiencing
thoughts about suicide. Things to
look out for that indicate you should
be more proactive in providing
support are: increasing isolation,
hopelessness, withdrawal,
avoidance. Self harm, increased life
stressors (e.g. bullying, relationship
breakdown, exam stress), an
increase in unpredictable behaviour
(e.g. outbursts, increased risky
sexual or drug and alcohol
behaviour) may also be signs that a
young person needs support.
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If you are concerned your young
person may be experiencing
suicidal thinking, it is important
to start a conversation.
Some things to consider when
approaching the conversation:
? Be prepared, and do some
research
? Find the right time. This might
be when you¡¯re both feeling calm
and safe.
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been thinking about suicide.
Research shows that doing this
in a safe and respectful way
does not increase the likelihood
that they will carry out suicidal
behaviour. You might choose to
be specific about what you have
seen that gives you concern.
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understand their experience.
Although it may be difficult, it
is important to try to remain
calm and composed if your
young person tells you they are
experiencing suicidal thinking.
This is likely to help them to feel
in control.
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both feel like you are able to keep
safe until seeking professional
support. Keeping safe might
include; making sure they¡¯re
not alone, developing a list of
things that are particularly hard
and staying away from them,
or developing a list of things
that are helpful and trying to
do them. If this feels possible
together, continue to check in
until professional support is
accessed. This should be as
soon as possible. If you do not
feel that you¡¯re able to keep
safe, seek immediate support.
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It is OK to be upset if your
young person discloses suicidal
thinking. It can be really hard to
understand, but it can be useful to
try to use it as an opportunity to
connect with them.
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After someone dies by suicide,
loved ones can feel guilty or look
to find people to blame. Whilst this
can feel like a natural response, it
is inconsistent with the knowledge
that suicide is complex, and there is
no one reason for a suicide.
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Looking at suicide in retrospect
seems more straightforward
than it is. There are times when
some people can show a lot of
the recognised signs, yet remain
safe and connected. Other times
people do not show any outward or
obvious signs, yet they are in such
isolation and distress they suicide,
which results in shock and despair.
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It can be incredibly difficult to
recognize early warning signs,
or to predict when someone is
really struggling. That¡¯s why it¡¯s
important to regularly check in
with people and to develop close
relationships and support networks,
as it can help reduce the risk of
suicidal thinking taking over.
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Grief
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Grief happens after experiencing
loss. There are many types of loss,
such as a loss of a relationship
through break-up, a family unit
through separation, virginity or
sexual freedom; loss of social
standing; loss of a friendship group
through bullying or rumours, or the
loss of a loved one.
The grief that happens after loss
is different for everyone. It can be
different in duration and intensity.
Commonly it is incredibly painful.
There are many ways a person can
experience grief:
? How you feel: shock, disbelief,
numbness, pain, intense
sadness, anger, resentment,
regret, guilt, abandonment,
anxiety or worry
? What you think: Thinking about
all of the details of the loss,
imagining a different future
or past, having flashbacks or
re-experiencing episodes,
thinking that things don¡¯t matter
any more, or you don¡¯t care,
having trouble concentrating or
remembering things.
? What you do: Some people find
themselves doing a lot to keep
busy, while others stop doing a
lot of the things they normally do.
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If you notice the things above
happening for someone you¡¯re
caring for, there are a number of
things you can do to support them:
? Let them know that grieving is
OK, and it¡¯s OK to be sad.
? Try to help them name and
understand the feelings
they¡¯re experiencing.
? Listen to their concerns and try
to understand what it is about
their experience of grief that is
causing them distress.
? Try to keep things as ¡®normal¡¯
as possible in the home. Grief
can bring up feelings of being
unsafe or insecure, so
anything that promotes safety
can help. Sometimes these are
routine activities.
? Support your young person to
maintain their participation in
school or work or study.
? Help them to look after
themselves in key areas, such as:
good sleep habits, eating well,
staying active, staying connected
to family and friends, keeping
up hobbies that are important to
them, reducing alcohol and other
drug use, and working with them
to find new ways to handle
tough times.
? Regularly check in with them.
If it appears they don¡¯t feel
comfortable with you, support
them to talk with someone
you trust.
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If the impact of grief includes the
following, it might be time to
reach out:
? Ongoing major sleep troubles
? Ongoing withdrawal from
school or study, or major
academic troubles.
? Hopelessness about the future
? Relationship troubles or conflict
with friends and family
? Doing things out of character;
such as increased or more
unpredictable use of alcohol and
other drugs, or sexual behaviour.
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Regularly checking in with
your young person can help to
know what they might need to
get through this tough time.
Supporting them to keep up
¡®normal¡¯ living can be important.
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