Grief to Grace - Rachel's Vineyard
Retreat Supplies
Check-in Station Setup
Materials:
__ Master list for room assignments
__ Welcome Info Packets to include:
__ Name tag with name printed in large letters ( plastic covers)
__ Welcome letter
__ Retreat Schedule
__ Retreat Journal
__ Pen
__ Prayer cards or notes of encouragement
__ Info about retreat facility, house rules, kitchen hours, smoking, etc.
__ Room keys
Greeters
Greeters at the entrance door will be:
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Helpers taking people to their rooms and assisting with luggage:
_______________________ _______________________
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If you are not serving dinner, helpers of ice breaker while participants are arriving:
_______________________ _______________________
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Hospitality Station Setup
Supplies:
__ Ice &ice bucket or cooler
__ Cups
__ Soda and juices
__ Snacks ( crackers, cheese, nuts, fruit, muffins, cookies)
__ Chocolate ( Hershey kisses, etc.)
__ Mints
__ Coffee maker ( coffee, cream, sugar, stir straws )
__ Tea
__ Tissues
__ Aspirin, ibuprofen, Tylenol
__ Napkins
Retreat Rooms Setup
__ One bottle of Holy Water to bless rooms
__ Bibles
__ Flowers
Adoration Chapel Setup
Supplies:
__ Monstrance
__ Extension cord
__ Extra bulb
Gathering Room Setup
Materials Checklist and Room Set-Up
__ Assignment Sheet – (see Appendix)
__ Comfortable chairs gathered in a tight circle
__ Low coffee table in center of circle with white cloth to cover table
__ Christ Candle on table or on pedestal next to table
__ Matches / lighter
__ Large Bible (to be placed on center table - the Word of God)
__ Crucifix or cross on table
__ Ipod, CD or cassette player and sound system
(This must be one with excellent sound and good volume)
__ Small flashlight for each reader
__ Extra Batteries for flashlights
__ Boxes of tissues placed between every other chair
__ Rachel’s Vineyard Manuals for each team member
__ TV and VHS/DVD player set-up in corner of the room
__ Lamps with soft lighting
__ (Optional) Prayer shawls or blankets on each chair
__ (Optional) Confidentiality Cue Card – (see Appendix)
Day One Retreat Exercises
Welcome and Introductions
Materials:
__ Optional ice-breaker
The Woman Caught in Adultery
Materials Checklist:
__ Meditative Music
Instrumental Music for Prayer and Meditation by “You are the Presence” album
Song: “Holy Darkness” followed by “You are the Presence.”
__ Large rocks enough for all participants (the size of one or two fists)
__ A large rock to pass around circle
__ “Stoning Ritual” cue card ( see Appendix )
__ Darken the room – Do not light the Christ Candle
__ (optional) one small crucifix for each participant to exchange for rock later on in the retreat
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The Blind Man
Materials Checklist:
__ A small taper or “vigil” candle for each person in the room with drip guard
__ Flashlights for readers
__ “Blind Man” dialogue cue cards: (see Appendix)
Helper: “(Name,) Take courage, he is calling you
Participant: “Jesus, Son of David, have pity on me”
Priest: “What do you want me to do for you?
__ Meditative music – (see Appendix for music suggestions.)
__ Optional: End of Living Scripture Meditation Song “My Child, My Chosen” or “In the Light” or “Let the Healing Begin” by Michael John Poirier
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Movie Presentation
Materials Checklist:
__ Large screen television.
__ DVD player or VHS player
__ Video Options:
__“Harvest of Hope” (available in DVD only)
__“Dear Children” (available in DVD or VHS)
__“Beyond Regret” (available in DVD or VHS)
__ Handouts:
__‘Beloved’ (see Appendix)
__‘Gospel of Life Paragraph 99’ (see Appendix)
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Cup of Bitterness
Materials Checklist:
__ A small (one quart) glass pitcher
__ A large glass goblet
__ A bottle of red grape juice
__ small plastic cups (ordering info below)
__ platter to carry cups on
__ A standing crucifix, approx 12” tall, to be placed on table.
__ Optional placemat to protect white tablecloth ( example shown)
Blessing for Healing
Day 2 Retreat Exercises
Morning Prayer
Materials Checklist:
__ Sample Morning Prayer ( see Appendix )
__ Optional Liturgy of the Hours from Magnificat
Group Sharing: The Story of Your Life
Materials Checklist:
__ Boxes of tissues
__ Comfortable chairs in circle as small as possible
__ Retreat Journal: Questions for Reflection (Copy in the Appendix)
The Story of Lazarus
Materials Checklist:
__ Gregorian Chant or other sacred hymns in Latin
Suggested Music: Canticles of Ecstasy (music of Hildegard von Bingen) sung by Sequentia (women’s ensemble for medieval music), 1994 BMG Music (Classics). Both running time and sound (echoing Martha-Mary mourning prayers) are ideal!
__ A basket filled with rolls of gauze or strips of cloth or ace bandages
__ Cinnamon sticks and dried rose petals in and around basket
__ Vial of scented oil
__ 2 cue cards for priest (see Appendix)
__ 3 cue cards for team members, one optional (see Appendix)
__ Optional 5-part scripted version of “Scripture Reading” (see Appendix)
__ Optional: White sheet or cheap white fabric (approx 66” x 96”) for each participant
__ Optional: incense
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Group Work on Anger & Buried Emotions
Materials Checklist:
__ Retreat Journal
__ Pens for each person
__ Decorative pillow to use for the “Pillow Toss Activity”
(the kind of pillow that goes on an armchair or couch)
__ Crayons or colored pencils
Touching the Cloak of Christ
Materials Checklist:
__ Cloth to symbolize the cloak of Christ (A simple Jewish weave or soft muslin
fabric). It will be most effective if the cloth resembles the type of cloth worn during the time of Jesus.
__ Play soft meditative music.
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The Woman at the Well
Materials Checklist:
__ Soft instrumental music
__ One very large crystal punch bowl filled 2/3 with water
__ Fresh or silk greenery and flowers
__ One glass pitcher filled with water
__ Participant: Woman at the Well cue card – see Appendix
__ Optional scripted version of Scripture Reading in 3 parts – see Appendix
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Pouring Our Hearts Out to the Lord
Materials Checklist:
__ Leave the punch bowl on the table from “The Woman at the Well” exercise
__ “Whispers of Love” cards (in Appendix)
__ 50 – 60 floating tea lights.
__ Large Christ candle.
__ Optional: Taper to make it easier to light the floating candles from the Christ candle, placed in a container of sand
__ Soft, very gentle music
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Meeting Our Children with Christ
Materials Checklist:
__ Flashlights for readers
__ Soft meditative music
__ A small bouquet of wild flowers for each participant
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Bereavement Dolls for Memorial Service
Materials Checklist:
__ Small empty holy water bottles
__ Bereavement dolls in basket
__ Memorial Service information cards (in Appendix)
__ Adoration sign-up sheet (in Appendix)
__ “Saturday Night Packet” to include (see ‘Handouts’ in Appendix):
-Monica’s Letter / Michael’s Letter
-Explanation of Eucharistic Adoration
-Examination of Conscience
__ Calligraphy Pen or access to computer printer to put names on Certificates of Life
__ Memorial Service Program covers: (Pretty paper with names of babies)
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Letters to our Children
Materials Checklist:
__ Retreat Journal (Received in Welcome Packet)
__ Rocking chair with life-size baby doll (optional)
__ Pens
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Adoration of the Blessed Sacrament
Materials Checklist:
__ Monstrance
__ Extra light bulb
__ Extension cords
__ Cloak of Christ
__ Pillows
__ Rocking Chair
Sacrament of Reconciliation
Tasks:
__ Assign rooms for confession
__ Post priest(s)’ name outside door
Review Checklist
Things team helpers must do on Saturday night:
1) Collect the memorial service information cards from each person. Double check accuracy and readability for helper responsible for printing.
2) Use calligraphy/elegant computer printer font to put the names onto the Certificates of Life which will be presented on Sunday during the Memorial Service.
3) Use calligraphy/fancy computer printer font to put the names of each child being honored onto the cover of the Memorial Service booklet. (This cover is in the Appendix and must be copied onto colored stationary: suggested “pretty paper” includes paper with clouds, rainbows, or angels, etc.)
4) Check in with the individuals on the retreat. See that no one is having trouble with writing a letter to their babies. If they are, allow them to express their fears or anxieties. Invite them to take their time. They may need to “sleep on it” and work on the letter in the morning. Give gentle encouragement, but do not pressure.
5) Make sure Eucharistic Adoration sign-up sheet is filled and posted. You can put it on the door of the chapel so that individuals will know who is supposed to go in after they have completed their hour. Instruct them to wake up that person when it is their turn.
6) Prepare the room for Sunday morning; clean up tissues, bowl, candles etc. Gather retreat materials that will be needed on Sunday.
7) Fill Holy Water Bottles from Jacob’s Well.
Important: Any left-over holy water needs to be disposed of properly – Do not dump down the drain – please water the plants outside.
Day 3 Retreat Exercises
Preparing for the Next Steps
Materials Checklist:
_ Contact Sheet: If members of the retreat would like to share their name and address with other participants they can sign the contact sheet. These should be photocopied and distributed before the retreat ends so that everyone will get a copy before leaving. This can be a nice way to keep contact with others, offer peer support, and maintain the friendships which will inevitably form on the retreat. (See Appendix)
Affirmations: “Clothing Ourselves with Christ”
Materials Checklist:
__ Small basket
__ Write down the name of each participant, including entire team, on small pieces
of paper and place these in the basket. The names will be used for the
affirmation exercise.
__ Optional: Post-it Notes and Pens
Cup of Grace
Materials Checklist:
__ Large glass goblet
__ A small (one quart) glass pitcher
__ Bottle of white grape juice
__ Small cups for participants to drink from the Cup of Grace
__ Platter to carry cups on
__ A standing crucifix, approx 12” tall, to be placed on table.
__ Optional placemat to protect white tablecloth (example shown)
Breath of Heaven
Materials Checklist:
___ “Breath of Heaven:”
a) Sung by Amy Grant. It can be found on her “Christmas Album”
b) Sung by Tatiana: “Emmanuel The story of Christmas” Album
___ Pass out Holy Water bottles from last night’s exercise
Moving Forward
Materials Checklist:
__ “Sunday Morning Packet” to include the following (see “Handouts” in Appendix)
__ Evaluation forms
__ Volunteer Forms
__ Photocopy of Contact information sheet
__ Any forms regarding local follow-up meetings, referrals for counseling
__ Vine & Branches newsletter sign-up sheets
__ Companions on the Journey information sheet
__ Sign-up Sheet for Oaktrees (12 month support email newsletter)
__ Silent No More Handouts
__ List of Recovery Resources – See Appendix Support Groups
__ Helpful Books and Bible studies – See Appendix
__ Rosaries, booklets, or other gifts
Memorial Service
Materials Checklist:
__ Remind all participants to bring their bereavement dolls to the Memorial Service. They each received these dolls on Saturday night.
__ Memorial Service program. The names of all children being honored should be written on the front of your program (sample program in Appendix).
__ Make sure that the Leader of the Service also has a copy of this list, as she will announce the names at the beginning of the service.
__ Certificates of Life. These should be filled out ahead of time for each person. They will be handed out at the end of the Memorial Service. Make sure to use the correct Certificate of Life according to the relationship of participant and child.
__ Coffee table which is low to the ground with white cover on it. This will be placed in front of the altar. This is the table that the cradle will go on as well as all the candles. Make sure it is big enough to hold cradle and candles.
__ Votive candles and glass holders. One candle will be lit for each child aborted or miscarried. Because of multiple pregnancy losses you should have at least 50-60 candles. These should be set up around the cradle. We recommend glass holders because of fire hazard. The heat generated from many candles can melt them down and be dangerous.
__ A decorated wooden cradle or Baby Basket
__ White pillow and small white decorative blanket. Use whatever materials you can find to decorate the cradle ( lace covers or silk material) The cradle is also a symbol of a coffin so keep this in mind as you decorate.
__ Wood cross. A large wooden cross or crucifix should be placed directly behind the cradle.
__ Alleluia banner to be draped over cross. This can be made out of a 5 inch wide white ribbon. You can glue or paint gold letters on the fabric “ALLELUIA.”
__ Place all ritual symbols from the retreat on the altar behind the memorial table. (The rock, the cloak of Christ, the cup, etc.)
__ Matches or taper lighter
__ Silk or real flowers to put around cradle. White Easter lilies are especially significant.
__ Cross pins with rose on them
__ Live long-stem rose to be given out to each participant
__ Vase or flower basket to hold roses before you have given them out
__ Angel doll ornaments (to be given at end of Memorial Service)
__ Cards “Solace and Love” to be distributed during Memorial Service
__ Plenty of tissues available throughout the chapel
__ Music CD , tape, or IPOD player
__ Selections for background music to be played during Memorial Service
The songs you use can be any selection of your choice. The music must be soft background music and appropriate for grieving. Do not use anything that would be loud or intrusive.
Recommendations:
1) “Chanticleer” By Giovanni Pierluigi Da Palestrina by Warner Music.
This is a collection of beautiful 15th-century chant music
NOTE: “Chanticleer” is the name of the men’s a cappella chorale group.
They have many CD’s in this genre.
2) Suggestion: A song to begin memorial service and another to close.
This can be played on a tape or sung live. It can be an original, composed by one of your retreat participants, or previously selected and rehearsed. Choose something comforting and gentle, such as a lullaby or a funeral song such as:
a) “In Paradisium”
b) “May the Choir of Angels Come to Greet you.”
c) Opening Song Option: If “Kathryn, John and Mary” was used Saturday night, it may be introduced again Sunday as opening song for Memorial Service, with a brief explanation to guests that the song is already familiar to participants and conveys the summary of the entire weekend to this point.
d) “Once in a Daydream” by Michael John Poirier
Mass of Entrustment
Materials Checklist:
__ Have Mass booklets prepared with music selections so congregation can sing or Hymnals
__ Music ministers to sing and play guitar, piano or organ
__ Vestments for priest and prepare altar
__ Altar cloth
__ Mass kit: Communion hosts, wine, etc.
__ Select readers
__ Assign people to bring up the gifts
__ Mass Kit: Communion Hosts, Cruet of Wine, Cruet of Water, Paten, Palls, Chalice, Corporal, Purificators, Lavabo Towel, Lavabo Bowl, Candles, Altar Cloth
__ Optional: Aspergillum if using sprinkling rite
Anointing of the Holy Spirit and Sending Forth
Materials:
___ If “Option #3” is used, provide Holy Cards of different saints appropriately
chosen for their virtues, OR, of the same saint for all retreatants.
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Play meditative music to enhance this exercise
Music suggestion:
1) “Holy Darkness” followed by “You are the Presence” by Instrumental Music for Prayer and Meditation, “You are the Presence” album
2) “Scribbling in the Sand” by Michael Cant (after meditation)
3) “Ocean of Mercy” by Michael John Poirier (after meditation)
Have enough large rocks available for each participant - arrange rocks on or around the table
Darken the room during Living Scripture and Scripture Experience
Have small flashlights available for reading
(Optional) One small crucifix for each person. When they give up the rocks later in the retreat, you can invite them to replace the rock for a cross.
Setting the Stage: Play meditative music to enhance this exercise
Music suggestion:
“Let the Healing Begin” or “My Child, My Chosen” or “In the Light”
by Michael John Poirier (after meditation)
Place all the candles underneath the white cloth on the table so they are hidden
Make the room completely dark
Start the exercise by lighting the Christ Candle
Have small flashlights available for reading
3 “dialogue” cue cards: Assign Parts: 1 priest and 2 helpers – Use cue cards to prompt dialogue. Use cue cards to help participants.
Assign several helpers to light the small taper candles from the large “Light of Christ” candle and be ready to pass them out after each person has responded.
( Recommend team participation in this exercise
-Darken the room during the video
-While program is playing, have team members distribute handouts on the beds of each participant or outside their door. The hand-outs given on Friday night are
1) The “Gospel of Life” – Pope’s words to women who have had abortions
2) “Beloved” letter from Jesus
Both can be copied onto pretty paper from the Appendix.
Soft instrumental music (Chant or somber music can be played quietly during the beginning of the exercise). Song Suggestions while cup is being passed Dan Schutte’s “How Long O Lord?” or John Michael Talbot’s “Healer of My Soul” from God of Life album. “Lead Us to the River of Mercy” by Michael John Poirier
“Healing” by John Michael Talbot or “Holy Darkness” by Dan Shutte
Suggestion: Measure the juice into the cup then pour into the pitcher to prevent overfilling the cup
Small red plastic cups can be ordered at:
Use “Blessing”/ “Prayer” cue cards to avoid necessity of carrying manual, or need for “Blesser” to be prompted.
It is very important for the priest, facilitator and helpers to understand and rehearse their roles for this exercise to be effective.
Play music to enhance this exercise. An appropriately somber mood can be created with Gregorian Chant or other sacred hymns in Latin.
Try to make the room as dark as possible.
Use cue cards for priest and helpers for ease of movement among participants during the binding, blessing and raising rituals.
Make sure all participants are comfortable.
The bandages represent the binding of Lazarus. Cinnamon sticks and rose petals in the basket represent the ancient incense and precious spices used to fumigate the scent of death.
Have available unscented gauze bandages in a separate basket for use on the eyes or mouth.
Optional: Have 2 basket of bindings available: 1 scented and 1 unscented (for those with allergies) To scent bindings: Place bindings in a plastic bag, put scented oil on a paper towel
If you can obtain some church incense, this will also help bring this Scripture scene to life.
Refer to intake form if participant is allergic to incense.
Optional: One single white sheet for each participant. (Sheets are already prepared on the chairs when participants enter.) Cover each chair with a sheet. Please do not use the floor.
Optional: Use the 5 part scripted version of the “Scripture Reading” in the Appendix. Print on stock paper on both sides. Each participating team member should have in hand the entire Scriptural text, with his/her specific parts highlighted in a bright color. Proclaim in parts with 5 team members each taking a role: 1) Narrator
2) Jesus 3) Disciple 4) Martha 5) Mary.
Be sure to practice the proclamation of this “Scripture Reading”
in parts when you practice the Lazarus exercise.
(this helps keep this exercise quiet from multiple page turning)
This exercise is for retreatants only – not team members.
You can hang the cloth around the monstrance and do this exercise in the chapel or place the piece of cloth on the altar. If you do not wish to use the chapel, place the cloth in the center of your circle.
“Heal Me” by Michael John Poirier (Album: Healing After the Choice)
Play meditative music to enhance this exercise. Either nature tapes with water running in the background can be effective, or instrumental music
1) “Come to the Water” by David Phillips
2) “My Soul is Thirsting” by L’Arche Noah Sealth (album: Light to the Darkness)
3) “There is a River” by Michael John Poirier (album: Healing After the Choice)
“My Soul is Thirsting (Psalm 63) or Psalm 42
Arrange the large punch bowl on a coffee table in the middle of the circle. Place fresh greenery and flowers around the bowl. This bowl will symbolize the well of Jacob, where Christ met with the Samaritan woman.
Have participant cue card on table next to bowl to help participants remember what to say as they pour water into the bowl.
Optional: Use the 3 part scripted version of the “Scripture Reading” in the Appendix. Print on stock paper on both sides. Each participating team member should have in hand the entire Scriptural text, with his/her specific parts highlighted in a bright color. Proclaim in parts with 3 team members each taking a role: 1) Narrator
2) Jesus 3) Woman.
Be sure to practice the proclamation of this “Scripture Reading”
Be sure to hand out “Whispers of Love” according to relationship to aborted/lost child. (Mothers, Fathers, Grandparents, etc..)
Note: Singer Donna Lee has recorded a beautiful sung version of “Whispers from Heaven”. You can order the CD at
You can play the song as the participants are reading the poem, or right after.
Make sure you have one candle for each child which has been aborted or miscarried. We include miscarried babies as well as aborted children because they are invited to honor all losses of the womb. After abortion, there can be a 200% increase in miscarriages. These candles will be lit and placed into the living water of Christ as the mothers and fathers name their children. You may need 50 – 60 because many women have had multiple pregnancy losses. Place all the candles on the table surrounding the punch bowl so that they are easy to pick up during the ritual.
Make sure Christ candle is lit and near the bowl. They will light each tea candle by using the flame from the “Light of Christ.”
ALTERNATIVE SONG: “Kathryn, John and Mary” by Michael John Poirier
• Room must be dark for Living Scripture – the only light should be the Christ candle. Reader uses flashlight.
• Team members will place a bouquet of flowers on the lap of each participant at
“The little one hands you the flowers as a remembrance of the love you share together. Make sure your helpers know their cue.
Then, so that participants may hear the important words of forgiveness from their children, you may use the song “Forgiven” by Michael John Poirier at the end of the Living Scripture “Meeting our Children with Christ”.
• One helper brings basket of Bereavement Dolls around, and participant takes one for each child lost by abortion or miscarriage.
• Second helper follows and distributes “Saturday Night Packet.” See Handouts in Appendix
• During Saturday night clean-up, team members fill holy water bottles from “Jacob’s Well” and place underneath the table to be distributed Sunday morning during “Breath of Heaven” exercise. Important Note: This is holy water and needs to be disposed of properly – Do not dump down the drain – please water the plants outside.
Optional: Some teams set up an intimate corner with a rocking chair with a life-size, weighted baby doll that can help participants more concretely envision the reality of their child. Some participants will go “rock” after confession or before Adoration, for example. This option can be particularly helpful for participants who perhaps have never given birth to other children. A team member or outside support person can bring the rocker and doll any time before Saturday evening. Cover chair with a large sheet or blanket until this option is announced Saturday evening just before confession time.
If you are using the Madonna Monstrance make sure you have adequate extension cords so you can place it where you want in the Chapel, taking into consideration that outlets may be limited. (Information about ordering a Madonna Monstrance can be found in the Appendix)
If non-Catholics would like to participate in keeping vigil, you might bring the Cloak of Christ into the Chapel for a more familiar symbol.
Optional: Some retreat teams put a nice big sturdy rocking chair and or pillows in the chapel.
Suggestion: During the Scripture Experience, in small groups, do affirmations one at a time. In large groups we suggest that you allow participants to seek one another out.
Option 1: With small retreats, each participant can be “affirmed” by all the other participants, instead of just by one person.
Suggestion 1) Have a central chair that each participant will sit in during his/her affirmations, and drape a colorful cloak /shawl around the persons shoulders while he or she is receiving affirmations.
Suggestion 2) Have a post-it note pad for each participant invite them to write down one Christ like quality they have witnessed and announce it as they post the quality on the person symbolically. (Clothing them with Christ)
Play an energetic and upbeat musical selection while the cup is being passed.
Small clear cups can be ordered at:
Job Assignments:
1) Person to hand out programs
2) Someone assigned to door to greet relatives and friends
3) Leader welcoming address
4) Four Support team members to stand at altar when it is time to place the bereavement dolls in the cradle. (Help light candles, pray with mourner, hand out cross pin and long-stem rose)
5) Distributor of Certificates of Life
6) Witness of Certificates of Life
7) Hand out angel ornaments
8) Lead closing prayer
9) Make sure you have enough tissues for everyone
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