HOW do I talk about these things with my teen?
HOW do I talk about these things with my teen?
Lay the groundwork for good conversations... Feeling Safe o Teens are looking for any threat (tone, words, etc.) o Remember that you can also perceive a threat to your selfworth, authority, and/or your values Care for Each Other; LUV Listen o Listen with energy, focus, and curiosity o Listen ?Let them talk. If you are talking more than 20% of the time, you are not listening. o Understand ? Repeat back what they said in your own words. o Validate ? Validate the feelings even if you disagree; show empathy. Silence has value. So does pausing and breathing.
Practice. Practice. Practice...
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Sample Conversations*
Setting Expectations/The First Conversation
1. Facts are the starting point (I've been reading/hearing about . . . .) 2. Their impression of the facts (What are you seeing/hearing?) 3. Their thoughts (What do you think about that?) 4. Your expectations (I want to share with you my thoughts/expectations about this . . .) 5. Agreed upon action (Let's make clear how were going to handle this as a family . . .)
When You Know or Suspect Something
1. Facts are the starting point (I found/saw/heard. . . .) 2. Their impression (Help me understand what's going on.) 3. Your impression (This scares me. I'm worried.) 4. Repeat, keeping it safe (What do you think should happen? How can I help you? Do you want
this? . . . This = to be using, the potential consequences, this identity, strain on relationships, feeling, etc.) 5. Agreed upon action (Where are we going from here?)
After the Fact
1. Facts are the starting point (I'm glad you got home safely last night) 2. Their impression (Help me understand what happened.) 3. Your impression (I'm worried about the behavior.) 4. Repeat, keeping it safe (What do you think should happen now?) 5. Agreed upon action (So we, agree, the consequences are . . . X)
Coaching Tough Conversations
1. Facts are the starting point (Kids around you may be using.) 2. Their impression (What situations might you need to get out of?) 3. Your impression (I want to ensure that you have the skills you need to make the right
decisions/stay safe/get out of tricky situations.) 4. Repeat, keeping it safe (What would you do if . . . you're at a party where other kids are
using/someone offers you X/your driver has been drinking?) 5. Agreed upon action (Let's do role plays periodically so you can practice the skills to stay safe.)
Peer-to-Peer ? Adult | Youth
1. Facts are the starting point (I've been reading/hearing about . . . .) 2. Their thoughts (What have you seen/heard?) 3. Your impression of the facts (That's scary. I'm concerned. I was surprised.) 4. Repeat, keeping it safe (We may have different perspectives, what does that mean for our kids
and hanging out together?) 5. Agreed upon action (If my kid is using, I want to know . . . )
*scripts developed in partnership with Core Skills LLC
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