Some DOs and DON’Ts for Successful Group Dynamics



Some DOs and DON’Ts for Successful Group Dynamics

Remember your leaders, who spoke the word of God to you.

Consider the outcome of their way of life and imitate their faith. Hebrews 13:7

|DON’Ts |DOs |

|Don’t Pretend to be happy to be there. |Take time to transition before the meeting and get into MOPS mode. |

|Don’t use your DG to Talk Politics – Local, |Nothing splits a group faster than differing opinions on the way our governing bodies work! |

|National, or Church | |

|Don’t be Afraid to ask for help |You are not a trained counselor! If there is something going on with a mom that is a lot to |

| |handle the best thing you can do is pray with them and let the DGL Team Leader, Coordinator, |

| |Mentor or Pastor know and help. |

|Don’t assume all the women who come are just |Do your best to find a common interest among the group (scrapbooking, disorganized kitchen |

|like you. |cabinets, travel) |

|Don’t ever Suppose a mom is married. |Make sure to find out by reading the registration form or by comfortably breaking the ice. One |

| |possibility is to ask people at the table to tell about the people that live in their house. |

|Don’t say Everything you think |Remember that a good leader is a good listener. Give those moms as much time as they need to |

| |share, in an appropriate manner. |

|Don’t Use your MOPS DG E-mail list to send |Remember that just because you think it’s cute/funny/inspiring, doesn’t mean everyone else will. |

|silly Forwards – you’ll lose your audience |Print it off and bring it to a meeting to share, if it’s really that cool. |

|quickly | |

|Don’t encourage False expectations |Encourage the women toward survival, even toward thriving through the challenges they face; but |

| |don’t let them think that MOPS can fix them – or their problems; only Jesus can do that. |

|Don’t Gossip |Inside or outside of the group. Whatever is said in your group needs to be confidential (unless it|

| |needs to be brought to a Leadership team member). DG’s need to be a safe place! Ask permission |

| |before you share anything. |

|DON’Ts |DOs |

|Don’t YOU use MOPS time to Catch up with old |WHAT? OK, this sounds harsh – but let’s see the reality of it. You are given a few hours twice a|

|friends |month to help nurture a specific group of moms in the love of Jesus Christ. If you are visiting |

| |the whole time with a friend you haven’t seen in awhile, you will miss the chance to lead your |

| |table. Make arrangements to chat with your friend next week over coffee. |

|Don’t Minimize Creative Activities time |Women talk when their hands are busy. A good, engaging craft (even one where we have to help each|

| |other) can prompt women to share from their hearts because they don’t have to look you straight in|

| |the eyes. It’s a safer share for them. |

|Don’t allow a Gabber to grab the reigns from |Encourage others’ input. If one mom is talking too mugh, saying something like, “We haven’t heard|

|you |your opinion, Sherri.” If you find it challenging to re-direct like this, especially during |

| |designated discussion time after a speaker (for example), simply start by assigning someone with a|

| |watch to be timekeeper. Most input in a setting like this should be kept to one or two minutes. |

|Don’t assume everyone remembers when the next|Always remind them – at least 2 days before! Nothing is more frustrating than an email sent at |

|meeting Is! |9:15 the night before a meeting to remind a group it’s their turn to bring food the next morning! |

| |However, a late phone call is better than NO call! Designate a time on your calendar to make |

| |phone calls! |

|Don’t miss the chance to meet offsite |Getting together outside of MOPS is very important to building relationships and helping moms feel|

| |connected. |

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