THE ART & SCIENCE OF COUPLES THERAPY
[Pages:15]THE ART & SCIENCE OF COUPLES THERAPY
WITH DR. WILLIAM BUMBERRY
GOTTMAN METHOD FOCUS
n FOCUS ON EMOTION n CONFLICT MANAGEMENT VS. RESOLUTION n NOT ALL CONFLICTS ARE THE SAME ........
EXISTENTIAL ISSUES n BUILD BASIC FRIENDSHIP SKILLS n CREATE SHARED MEANING
GOTTMAN'S CORE RESEARCH
? PREDICTING DIVORCE IN SEVEN SEPARATE LONGITUDINAL STUDIES ACROSS THE LIFE COURSE
? LONGEST FOLLOW-UP NOW AT 18 YEARS ... SOON TO DO FOLLOW-UP WITH COUPLES NEARING 80 YEARS OLD
? ALSO CAN PREDICT RELATIONSHIP SATISFACTION
? STUDIED "MASTERS" & "DISASTERS"
3
THE LOVE LAB
n COUPLE LIVED THERE 24 HOURS WITH CAMERAS ON FROM 9 AM TO 9 PM
n OBSERVED CONVERSATIONS ABOUT AREAS OF CONFLICT, ENJOYABLE TOPICS AND DISCUSSING EVENTS OF THE DAY
n MEASURED PHYSIOLOGY ... HEART FUNCTION, RESPIRATION, URINARY STRESS HORMONES, BLOOD SAMPLES RE IMMUNE FUNCTION AND GROSS MOTOR MOVEMENT VIA JIGGLE-OMETER
n HAD COUPLES WATCH THEIR VIDEOS AND SAY HOW THEY FELT AND GUESS HOW PARTNER FELT
WHAT IS DYSFUNCTIONAL
MORE NEGATIVITY THAN POSITIVITY NSO HARSH STARTUP ESCALATING NEGATIVITY MALE ESCALATION & DISENGAGEMENT NOT HONORING DREAMS NOT ACCEPTING INFLUENCE
WHAT IS DYSFUNCTIONAL
FOUR HORSEMEN FAILURE OF REPAIR FLOODING/DPA FAILURE TO SOOTHE MISMATCH IN CONFLICT STYLES META EMOTIONS MISMATCH
MORE NEGATIVITY THAN POSITIVITY
7 Longitudinal Studies Across the Lifespan The Ratio of Positive to Negative Moments
+51 2-3 1 0.8 1
Prediction Happy and Stable Stable not Happy
Divorcing
NEGATIVE SENTIMENT OVERRIDE
CLOUD COVER MOVES IN NOTHING WORKS POSITIVE FEELS NEUTRAL NEUTRAL FEELS NEGATIVE NOTHING POSITIVE GROWS
HARSH START
STARTS WITH AN EDGE, TRIGGERS DEFENSIVENESS
THE FIRST THREE MINUTES MATTER WOMEN INITIATE 80% OF "TALKS"
ESCALATING NEGATIVITY
MATCHING NEGATIVITY IS OK....AN EYE FOR AN EYE
ESCALATING NEGATIVITY DESTROYS MALE ESCALATION IN RESPONSE TO
FEMALE LOW LEVEL NEGATIVITY
DEMAND/WITHDRAW PATTERN
MALE DISENGAGEMENT LEADS TO MUTUAL DISENGAGEMENT
PURSUER / DISTANCER DANCE......BOTH BECOME DISTANCERS
FAILURE TO HONOR DREAMS
NOT OPEN TO HEARING PARTNERS CORE NEEDS, WISHES, WANTS, DESIRES
NOT WILLING TO WORK WITH PARTNER TO FULFILL THESE NEEDS, WISHES, WANTS, DESIRES
FAILURE TO ACCEPT INFLUENCE
WOMEN SEEM TO DO IT TWO TYPES OF MEN...
BAT IT BACK TAKE IT IN
4 HORSEMEN OF THE APOCALYPSE
Criticism Defensiveness Contempt Stonewalling
FAILURE OF REPAIR
ALL MARRIAGES DO CONFLICT AND ALWAYS WILL, THEREFORE.....
REPAIR IS AN ESSENTIAL, NOT AN OPTIONAL ABILITY
ATMOSPHERIC CONDITIONS MATTER... NSO OR PSO
THE READINESS TO RECEIVE IT IS CRITICAL
PHYSIOLOGY
WE ALL HAVE TWO MARRIAGES ... ONE WHEN PULSE BELOW 95, ANOTHER WHEN ABOVE 95
FLOODING DIFFUSE PHYSIOLOGICAL
AROUSAL ( DPA ) INABILITY TO SOOTHE..... SELF
AND OTHER
DISTANCE-ISOLATION CASCADE
FLOODING PROBLEMS SEEN AS SEVERE DECIDE TO WORK IT OUT ALONE LIVE PARALLEL LIVES LONELINESS TAKES OVER
MISMATCHES IN NATURAL STYLE OF INFLUENCE
MISMATCHES IN STYLES..... UNACKNOWLEDGED, UNADDRESSED, UNACCEPTED
CONFLICT-AVOIDANT VALIDATING VOLITILE / BICKERING / PASSIONATE
NATURAL STYLE OF INFLUENCE
? AVOIDERS ARE A MISMATCH WITH ANY OTHER PREFERENCE
? AVOIDER/VALIDATOR IS MOST COMMON ? VOLATILES FEEL OTHERS DON'T CARE ? AVOIDERS OFTEN REPORT HIGH MARITAL
SATISFACTION. DON'T ARGUE AND SUPPRESS NEGATIVE AFFECT ? THEN THEY HAVE UGLY ARGUMENT WITH NO IDEA HOW TO PERSUADE OR COMPROMISE ? THESE BECOME PERPETUAL ISSUES
META-EMOTIONS DISCREPANCIES
? THESE OCCUR WHEN PARTNERS HAVE DIFFERENT PHILOSOPHIES ABOUT EMOTIONAL EXPRESSION
? DISMISSING VS. COACHING IS COMMON ? DISCREPANCY CAN BE SPECIFIC TO
PARTICULAR EMOTIONS, ESPECIALLY ANGER AND SADNESS ? THESE ARE PERPETUAL PROBLEMS
WHAT IS FUNCTIONAL
MORE POSITIVITY THAN NEGATIVITY POSITIVE SENTIMENT OVERRIDE SOFT STARTUP DEESCALATE NEGATIVITY MALE INTEREST & ENGAGEMENT/
WIFE SOFT START HONORING DREAMS ACCEPTING INFLUENCE
WHAT IS FUNCTIONAL
ELIMINATE THE FOUR HORSEMEN EFFECTIVE REPAIR/ PSO PREEMPT FLOODING SOOTHE SELF & PARTNER ACCEPTANCE OF MISMATCHED STYLES ACCEPTANCE OF META EMOTIONS
DIFFERENCES
Gottman Sound Marital House
Love Maps Fondness & Admiration Turning Towards vs. Away Positive Sentiment Override Regulation of Conflict Supporting Dreams Creating Shared Meaning
Building Friendship
Love Maps Fondness & Admiration Turning Towards vs.
Away/Against
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