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How to Keep Him Interested

Getting a man interested in you is only the first step to having an amazing relationship with him. Once you have his interest, you need to keep it.

There are some very specific things that you need to do in order to keep a man's interest. The first one is...

Keep Your Power

One of the biggest reasons that most women lose control over their relationships is because they give all their power away. If you want him to stay interested in you, you need to keep your power.

There are two specific ways to do this:

1. Setting and Keeping Boundaries

Boundaries are essential to living an extraordinary life. If you want happy and healthy relationships, you absolutely must set boundaries.

Without boundaries, a man won't respect you. You'll become a doormat that he walks all over... not because he wants to but because you allow him to.

Boundaries help define who you are and the limits to what you're willing to accept in your life and relationships.

For instance, one boundary that you might set for yourself is that you're only willing to become sexual with a man who wants the same type of relationship you want.

Without this boundary, you may find yourself getting into situations where you're attempting to control a man or force him to have the relationship you want. But if he doesn't already want that, you may get stuck in a situation where you're deeply in love with a man who doesn't want a long-term relationship with you.

I get emails from women all the time who are in this exact situation. And 9 out of 10 times, they end up heartbroken, angry at men, and frustrated at themselves.

Save yourself the time and energy of wasting years in a relationship that's going nowhere by setting some healthy boundaries.

When you set boundaries, you're focusing on what you can control. And the more you focus on the things you can control, the more control you'll have over your life and your relationships.

When you set boundaries, you can relax into your life a lot more. You're creating a limit which tells other people who you are and what standards to which you hold yourself and the people in your life.

Boundaries show others how much you like, appreciate, and respect yourself. Without boundaries, you allow others to do what they want with, to, and around you.

Let me give you two fundamental questions that will help you set some boundaries.

The first one is this:

What are you currently allowing in your relationships because you haven't taken the time to set and maintain a healthy boundary there?

Many times, people get taken advantage of because they allow others to take advantage of them. They don't want to take the time and energy to figure something out so they give up all control and power to others then complain that they don't have what they want.

Where are you doing this in your relationships right now?

Here's the second question:

What are you focusing your energy and attention on that you have no control over?

If you focus on things that you have no control over, you end up having less control over your life. A lot of women will focus on men and what men are doing and how bad men are, in general.

This type of an attitude completely robs them of their personal power and their ability to effectively create and sustain changes in their lives.

It's the same for attempting to make men do something. While you certainly have power and influence over how the world responds to you to some degree, the truth is that you only have a certain amount of influence that you can hold over anything.

You can never make everyone do everything that you want them to do. And the more you focus on others and controlling things that are really outside of your control, the more you'll lose control over everything around you.

Instead, focus on yourself. Focus on what you want. Focus on being the most amazing woman that men have ever been around.

If you do this, you're much more likely to have men begging you to be in a relationship with them than you will by learning techniques and tactics to trick men into it.

And you'll also attract much higher quality men by being an amazing woman than you ever will through techniques and tactics. Having boundaries is one of the keys to being an amazing woman.

The second method to keeping your power is this...

2. Keep at least one aspect of your single life

A lot of women who get into relationships lose themselves to that relationship. You need to keep a certain aspect of your single life completely separate from the man you're with.

This doesn't mean you shouldn't invite the man you're with to experience this area of your life or once in awhile. But make sure you have something that's completely separate from him.

Have your own passions and something that you're working on that he isn't involved in. This will help keep you grounded and allow you to go off into your own world so that it doesn't feel like you're smothering him.

Make sure you're taking care of your own needs and giving to yourself. Take care of your body. Take care of your emotions. Take care of your spiritual needs.

Give yourself a place or an area that is completely yours, without him. This is essential to your health and wellbeing.

It'll also help to keep the polarization going in your relationship which fuels passionate lovemaking.

Also, you need to...

Keep Doing What Made Him Attracted to You

Whenever you look at older couples who have been together for decades and are happy together, you always find some of the same things in common. One of these things is that they continue to attract each other forever.

Fortunately, as long as you're using authentic ways to attract your partner, this is actually a lot of fun. Continue to be playful. Continue to flirt. Continue to have fun with your partner.

Keep dating him. Practice staying connected to the feminine part of yourself. Create a ritual around it if you have to. Be the type of woman that attracted him in the first place.

Also, continue to allow him to be the man in your relationship. One of the issues that comes up in a lot of relationships is when the woman has a strong father figure who is still living.

If you've relied on going to your father for information or advice about something, start going to the man you're dating instead. If you're keeping your father as the man in your life, you're not opening a space for another man to come into it.

Keep doing all the things that you first did to attract the guy you're with. He's attracted to you because of those things. And he'll continue to be attracted to you if you continue doing those things.

There's just one more thing that you need to think about when keeping a man interested in you. And it's this...

Be the Type of Woman That He Wants to Keep

The solution to making a man want you and keep wanting you over the long term is a solution that every woman needs to hear but hardly any want to listen to. In order for a man to want you for a long term relationship you need to do this...

Work on and develop yourself.

I don't mean changing yourself. I'm not talking about acting like someone different than who you are. I mean pulling the best part of you out and developing yourself to be the best version of you.

If you don't do this, you'll be in and out of relationships your whole life, thinking maybe you just weren't meant to have the real thing.

You'll practically be forced to use games and manipulation to keep a guy around.

Why?

It's not that there's anything wrong with you. If you want a man who has his life together, he will want you to have your life together to almost the same degree.

This means learning how to overcome your insecurities. It means loving and accepting yourself. It means determining what's important to you in a man and making sure you have that too.

There's nothing like having a woman come and ask me for advice who wants a guy who is in shape and healthy yet she eats poorly and doesn't exercise. Why would a guy who is healthy want to date a woman who doesn't take care of her physical health?

Do you want a man who is emotionally mature? Have you let go of your past and begun deliberately creating the life you want to live?

Most of the women who come to my website and buy my products are looking to make men change. They want to make a man love them, commit to them, and treat them in a certain way.

To a certain extent, you can definitely influence the people around you. But I want you to think about this...

It's extremely difficult to change things about yourself. Ask someone who is a chronic nail biter how hard it is to stop biting their nails... or someone who cracks their knuckles how hard it is to stop that... or snacking at night or any other perpetual habit.

It's very challenging to change our own behaviors. And you want to control someone else's behaviors? Or ALL men in general?

Look: this is what will make the biggest difference in men wanting you or not. This is the message that you need to hear if you want men to want you.

If you start working on yourself and begin to develop yourself into the most amazing version of you, not only will men be more inclined to want you, they'll also be more inclined to commit to you.

And the types of men you attract will be of a much higher quality.

It's not about being perfect or creating unrealistic expectations for yourself either. You just need to own your power as a woman. You need to recognize your beauty. You need to let go of the story you constructed about who you are and what you deserve in life.

It's your stories, limiting beliefs, and inability to own your power that prevents you from truly opening a space for a great guy to come into your life. It's these things which stop men from being mesmerized by your presence.

If you really want men to want you, start working on yourself and your life. Create an amazing life that a man would love to be a part of.

Make sure that you're the quality woman that a man wants. Be the woman that he wants and it will be very easy for him to want you.

Imagine not needing games, not needing manipulation, not feeling powerless anymore... and instead knowing how magnetically attractive you are to men. You're what men want.

They want to know the authentic you. They want to be around you because of how amazing you naturally are. You're what men have always wanted. That's the power of working on yourself and pulling out the most amazing parts of you.

Exercises

1. Where do you need to set boundaries where you currently aren't? 2. What activities can you do in order to give yourself an exciting single life outside

of any man?

3. How can you stop focusing on making a man do something and instead become the type of woman he wants to do that for?

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