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INTRODUCTION-2286005588000Did you know that Mario has a whole different life that you don’t know about? It’s his life in school!Yes, Mario goes to school. And the best part is that Mario always knows the right thing to do!!480060094615000You can learn from Mario. Come along with us and read Mario’s Social Stories. As you read each story, think about what Mario says and does. Think about how you can do what Mario does! If you have questions about how Mario thinks and acts, you can ask your teacher or helper. Soon, you’ll be just like Mario!! 5257800-508000HOME IS DIFFERENT FROM SCHOOLMario knows that when he’s home, he behaves differently than he does at school.-685800102108000When Mario says silly things at home, his parents might laugh. But if he says those same silly things in school, he might get into trouble. That same thing happens to me sometimes. I don’t understand why my teachers get angry with my silly blurts, but my parents laugh.Mario tells me that’s because the expectations at home are often different from those at school. At school I need to “think about you” more than I do at home because there are so many people to think about!! My silly comments could make students feel uncomfortable. My silly comments could make my teachers feel uncomfortable. And they could make the principal uncomfortable.548640010985500My parents know me very well. They love me, no matter what I do. But other students and my teacher don’t know me that well. And, truthfully, they don’t love me like my parents do! So I have to act differently at school and pay attention to my expected behaviors. That will make other students and my teachers comfortable. That’s what Mario does. And I will do that too.2057400543560005486400-508000COMING INTO SCHOOLWhen I come into school each day, I have routines to follow. Mario knows how to follow routines. I am learning that too. When Mario goes into his classroom, he does the following:Mario enters the classroom quietly. He unpacks his backpack, hangs it and his coat up, puts his homework in the bin and places his books in his desk.Mario immediately checks the board to look at the day’s schedule-2286003048000Then Mario immediately begins his morning edit or other classwork that is assigned.Here’s what Mario DOESN’T do!He does not immediately go to the teacher to tell him or her what happened last night, or this morning or on the way to school. He only goes to talk to the teacher if it’s an emergency!He does not go to the teacher to show him or her an item that interests himHe does not wander around the room and talk with other studentsHe does not call out silly commentsI can learn to do what Mario does. I can enter my classroom quietly, unpack my backpack, hang it and my coat up, put my homework in the bin and place my books in my desk. I can check the schedule then start my morning edit. I can do these because I can do what Mario does. This will make Mario happy, my teacher will have comfortable thoughts about me, and I will feel happy.2057400619125005486400-508000EXPECTED BEHAVIORSMario knows the difference between expected and unexpected behaviors. Mario also knows that expected and unexpected behaviors can change depending where he is. For example, something that might be expected and okay to do at home, might be unexpected, or not okay to do, at school! Expected behaviors are things I do that make me feel good about myself and other people happy. When other 028067000people are happy, they feel comfortable when they are with me. They treat me nicely, say kind words to me and want me to play with them! My teacher may tell me how pleased she or he is. My expected behaviors give Mario comfortable feelings about me. That makes me feel calm and good about myself.52578001206500Unexpected behaviors are things that I do that make other people unhappy. When other people are unhappy, they have uncomfortable feelings about me. When other people have uncomfortable feelings about me, they may tell me to go away, say unkind things to me, or tell an adult about what I’ve done. My teacher or the principal may scold me. Mario would be unhappy. That would make me feel anxious, unhappy, or uncomfortable. I want to do what’s expected of me. Mario wants me to do what is expected of him. If I do what’s expected, like Mario does, I will be happy and everyone else will feel comfortable around me.22860001524000GETTING STUCK4572000-508000-685800257810004572000112204500-914400112204500Getting stuck means to think about one thing and not let out of your mind. Sometimes I get stuck when I think about Mario! Sometimes I get stuck when I have a question that I can’t get answered! Sometimes I get stuck when I want to tell someone something and that person won’t listen. Sometimes I get stuck when I want to keep talking about something and no one wants to listen!-457200104775000Everyone gets stuck sometimes. But Mario knows how to get “unstuck.” Mario has a pretend filing cabinet in his brain. When he gets “stuck” on a thought, he opens the filing cabinet and puts the thought inside. Then he closes the drawer. Once his thought is closed inside the filing cabinet, Mario can then think about something else.Sometimes Mario writes his thought down on paper. Then he takes his paper and rips it up, or crumples it up and throws it away. When he throws the paper away, the thought goes away with it and he gets “unstuck.” 331470056070500-68580023749000Sometimes Mario thinks he can say five things about his topic to himself. Then he counts the things on his fingers. When he’s said it five times, poof, it’s over and he’s unstuck.527050031496000Sometimes Mario gets stuck on something that he has to tell someone. If it is really important, and the teacher isn’t in the middle of a lesson, he raises his hand and asks the teacher if he can tell her something, so he can get unstuck. If the teacher says yes, he tells her just three short sentences about his thought. Then, poof, the thought is gone.525780023431500Helping yourself get unstuck is an important skill. Mario knows how to get unstuck, and now I do too.5715000-69088000BEING PART OF THE GROUPWhen I am part of a group, I might think that no-one is paying attention to me. I might feel “invisible.” But I’m not. Mario knows that people are always paying attention to what we’re doing, even when we’re in a large group.If I’m in a group and burp real loud, other people know it. They might not like me if I burp real loud in a group. If I do that, I’m only thinking about myself. Instead of thinking about the group, I think, “I have to burp.” So I burp.-68580061404500But when I’m with other people I have to think about their feelings. If I burp real loud, other people might think that I’m rude. They might not like to be around me.524573551308000When I’m with a group, I have to think about the people in the group. I have to pay attention to others in the group. I have to talk about what they want to talk about. I have to do the kinds of things they want to do.When I’m part of the group, I show I’m part of the group by showing whole body listening. If I’m part of a group and start talking about Mario when they’re talking about the life cycle of a plant, my mouth isn’t part of the group. If the group is listening to someone talk, and I start looking around the room, my eyes aren’t part of the group. If they’re talking about the plant life cycles and I’m thinking about video games, my brain isn’t part of the group. If they’re talking about plant life cycles and I’m listening to the heater, my ears aren’t part of the group. 205740061658500When I’m part of a group, I have to make sure that my eyes, ears, hands, feet, brain are all part of the group. If I do, the other people in the group will be comfortable with me. 4572000-508000STANDING IN LINEMario knows that teachers in school expect him to stand in line sometimes. When he stands in line, he knows exactly what to do!548640097218500-6858005778500First, Mario lines up an arm’s distance away from the person in front of him. He stands still, making sure he doesn’t fidget. He doesn’t talk unless the teacher says it’s ok. If he does talk, he whispers. When it’s time to move, he walks quietly with the group. When he walks, he stays an arm’s length away from the person in front and behind him.2057400140589000I am going to stand in line just like Mario does. I can do what’s expected of me when I walk in line. If I do what’s expected, my teacher might praise me. What I do will make her feel comfortable with me. That will make Mario happy. And that will make me happy too.4572000-508000PARTICIPATING IN CLASSMario knows how to participate in class and now I do too!548640088201500When he’s in class, Mario listens very hard to what others are saying about the topic being discussed. When Mario makes comments he makes sure they are on the same topic. When Mario asks questions, he makes sure they are about the same topic.When Mario makes comments, he makes sure he doesn’t talk too long. He limits his comments to only three sentences! 4114800807720000000Mario also uses his brain filter. If someone says something he doesn’t agree with, he can keep his thoughts in his thought bubble. If he really wants to make a comment, he can say the following: I think your comment is interesting But I disagree I think…..then he talks about his idea.-6858007366000Mario does not say things like, “You’re wrong,” or “I have a better idea, “ because that might make others feel uncomfortable or sad. He talks only about the topic everyone else is talking about, and he keeps his comments short – three sentences only! I can keep my comments on topic, say only three sentences, disagree in a kind manner and participate in class so that everyone feels comfortable. That makes Mario comfortable. And that makes me happy!182880076835005486400-69723000Unexpected Free Time in ClassWhen Mario has unexpected free time in class, he knows exactly what to do.-91440020383500Mario listens to his teacher. She may give him choices of what to do. She may tell him to take work from the free-time basket or read, or work on homework. Here’s what Mario does not do: He doesn’t make sounds or fidget or walk around the classroom. That distracts others and makes his teacher unhappy.When it’s time for the next lesson, Mario puts his work away immediately and listens to the teacher. He also follows his teacher’s directions. That makes his teacher happy. When his teacher is happy, Mario feels calm and comfortable.I can do what’s expected during unexpected free time. I can do that because I like doing what Mario does.182880015621000BEING A SOCIAL DETECTIVE4572000-508000Do you know what detectives do? Mario does. Detectives look for clues to solve a mystery.Sometimes people are a mystery. Sometimes I have trouble figuring out what other people are thinking. Sometimes I have trouble figuring out how other people are feeling. Sometimes I have trouble figuring out that things I do can change the way other people feel.297180062928500Being a social detective means that I have to really watch other people and find clues to figure out how they’re thinking, feeling, or what they’re planning to do.For instance, if a person looks like this I can look for clues to make a smart guess about what’s happening. The boy’s face is all scrunched up, so I know he’s uncomfortable. His shoulders are also shaking. My smart guess is that he’s scared. If I could hear him, he might be going “ohh!” which would be another clue that he’s scared. If I could hear him and he was saying “brrr,” then my smart guess would be that he’s cold.Being a social detective is hard work. I have to look, listen and make smart guesses about other people. Mario knows how to do that, and I’m learning how to do it too. 16002002413000THINKING ABOUT YOU, THINKING ABOUT ME4572000-508000-914400138938000People think about themselves all the time. When they’re eating, they may think about whether they’re enjoying their food. When they’re reading, they may think that they’re enjoying the book. When they watch television or play video games, they may think about how much they like what they’re doing.But when people are around others, they shouldn’t be thinking about themselves! They should be thinking about the other people in the group.The natural next question is, “Why?”571500098552000Well, Mario knows that when he thinks about others, they feel comfortable around him. Thinking about others means you know that your behavior can change how others feel. If Mario says something hurtful to someone (which he wouldn’t do, would he?) he could make that person unhappy or uncomfortable. If that person is uncomfortable with Mario’s words, he might not want to play with Mario any more.-91440096202500If Mario is thinking of himself when he’s with others, that means he’s only interested in what he wants to do, what he’s saying, or what he’s thinking. When he’s thinking about others, he is interested in what they are doing, what they’re saying and what they’re thinking.If Mario is thinking about others, he will listen to what they’re saying and might ask a couple questions to learn more. If he’s thinking about others, he might decide to play a game they want to play. If he’s thinking about others, he knows that his words can make them happy or sad, comfortable or uncomfortable.Mario thinks about others when he’s in a group. It’s okay to “think about me,” or think about yourself, when you’re all alone. But when you’re in a group, Mario knows it’s important to “think about you,” or, think about others. WHAT IS UNCOMFORTABLE?4572000-508000-68580042481500I know that when I do something unexpected, that makes others uncomfortable. But what is uncomfortable? When I sit in a silly way on a chair, I can feel uncomfortable. 471170022288500If my clothes are too tight, that can be uncomfortable. If it’s 90° out, I can be uncomfortable. Mario and I don’t like feeling uncomfortable.5257800189992000-68580075692000Sometimes, people can feel uncomfortable when they’re with other people. If I tell someone I don’t like his or her shirt, that could make him or her uncomfortable. If I tell someone his or her hair looks messy, that could make him or her feel uncomfortable. If I call out during class and don’t give others a chance to talk, that can make them feel uncomfortable. (It will probably make the teacher uncomfortable too.) If I cry if I lose a game, I might make other people feel uncomfortable. If I talk only about things I want to talk about, I might make others feel uncomfortable. If I play only things I want to play, I might make other people feel uncomfortable. Uncomfortable is a weird feeling that people don’t like. Mario doesn’t like feeling uncomfortable, and neither do I.If I do things that make other people uncomfortable, they may not like me. They may not ask me to play with them. They may not want me to be in their group. They may tell me to be quiet or go away. My teacher may scold me. I will do expected behaviors. When I do expected behaviors, other people feel comfortable!!! That will make Mario happy, and it will make me happy too!228600021018500PERSONAL SPACE4572000-508000When I’m with other people, I respect their personal space. Mario respects personal space too. Personal space means that you leave at least one arm’s length of space between you and the other person. Not respecting personal space means that you are a “space invader!” You are invading others’ personal space.-68580023431500We all need personal space. If someone puts his or her face right up close to mine, or to Mario’s, we get uncomfortable. And, I would make other people uncomfortable if I put my face right up close to theirs.When I’m walking with people, I leave at least one arm’s length of space between us. If I bump into them when I walk with them, I’m being a space invader and not respecting their personal space.If my papers, binders and books get all over the student’s desk next to me, I’m being a space invader and not respecting his or her personal space. If I sit so close that I’m bumping the student next to me in an assembly, I’m being a space invader and not respecting his or her personal space.Mario always respects others’ personal space. I can do that to. Respecting personal space is expected behavior. I like doing what’s expected. That makes Mario and others happy and that makes me happy too.4343400-21082000054864003746500WHOLE BODY LISTENING-68580029654500When Mario is in his classroom, he knows exactly what to do! He shows whole body listening! That means that he:-68580042418000Listens with his eyes. That means he looks at who is speaking and watches his or her face and body to make good guesses about what he or she is thinking, or how he or she is reacting to me. -80010049339500Listens with his mouth, which is closed and quiet. That means he’s not talking, humming or making other sounds when others are talking. It also means that when he talks, he makes comments only on the subject being talked about by the group-82550027305000Listens with his hands held quietly on his lap, on his desk, quietly taking notes or down by his sideListening with his feet standing still or feet quietly on the floor-68580010541000Listening with his brain. He thinks about what the speaker is saying and what others are doing that will help him make guesses about their thoughts and actions-90106517462500Listening with his heart, showing that he cares what the speaker is sayingMario shows whole body listening. If Mario shows whole body listening, so can I. If I show whole body listening, that will make Mario happy. My teacher may praise me, and I will feel calm and comfortable with myself.4572000-508000Working By MyselfMario knows how to use expected behaviors when he works by himself in class. I can learn the same things!!When Mario is given work to do, he stays calm and does it, even if he doesn’t like it. Sometimes he thinks it’s boring to do. But he does the work anyway, because he knows that’s expected.-68580068008500If Mario gets “stuck” in his work, he goes to another part of the assignment and does that first. Then he comes back to the more difficult part. If he’s still “stuck” he raises his hand and asks an adult for help.When Mario is finished his work, he reads quietly, or does homework or other activities that the teacher has told him to do. I can learn how to work by myself and do what Mario does. That will make Mario happy, my teacher happy and it will make me feel calm and comfortable.205740047625004572000-508000WORKING IN A SMALL GROUP-91440071501000Sometimes I am expected to do my work with a few other students. This is called working with a small group. When I work with a small group, I do what Mario does.Mario participates by staying on topic and talking about what the group is talking about. If I want to talk, I stay on topic and only say 3 sentences at a time. In that way, I make sure others have a chance to speak too.534733523431500If I don’t like what others are saying, I keep my hurtful thoughts in my thought bubble. If I have a different idea, I can tell it to others. But I can’t say their ideas “stink” or that my idea is “better.” That would make others feel sad and uncomfortable around me. -9144003238500If I’m bored, I play the “social fake.” I keep my head up and look at the person who is speaking. I make sure my body is part of the group. That will make all members of the group comfortable with me.I like following Mario’s rules for working with a small group. When my teacher sees me using expected behaviors in a small group, she may praise me. That will make me happy. And Mario will cheer me on, saying “hooray!”205740086360004800600-5080000-508000SHOWING RESPECTRespect is being careful and thinking about other’s feelings. Mario shows respect by using kind words and actions. And I can too. Respect makes everyone feel welcome, comfortable and safe. Sometimes, I say and do things that I don’t realize can be hurtful. These hurtful things do not show respect. If I tell someone his or her hair looks funny, or use their name in silly ways, that does not show respect.What is respect, then? Here are some examples that Mario uses:548640047815500-4572002095500Respect is using kind words and actions. It is saying “please” and “thank you.” It is waiting for your turn to speak and not “bumping” words or “blurting.”Respect is listening to other people. Even if I say “please” sometimes, people don’t want to do what I ask. Respect is accepting that and walking away or moving to another subject.Respect mean to use a calm tone of voice. If I whine, or my voice sounds angry, that is not respect.-45720038798500Respect might be carefully helping another student. If someone drops something on the floor, I might pick it up and give it back to the person, saying “I think you dropped this.”Respect is sharing 480060016954500Respect is keeping your books and papers on your own desk and not being a “space invader.”571500015049500Respect is giving others’ their “personal space.” Respect is working quietly when others are trying to thinkWhen Mario is in school, he always shows respect. Respect is being careful and thoughtful with other people. Respect helps everyone feel welcome, comfortable and safe. ** Taken from The New Social Story Book, by Carol Gray?4572000-23368000Talking to the Teacher with Respect **I can learn from Mario how to talk to my teacher with respect. When Mario is in school, he talks to the teacher with respect. Mario always uses a calm voice and kind words. Mario doesn’t interrupt her when she’s talking. Most of all, Mario doesn’t call out silly words when she’s teaching.-6858002540000I usually talk to my teacher with respect, just like Mario. But sometimes, I feel frustrated or angry. These feelings are uncomfortable. When I feel that way, I forget to talk to teachers with respect. Sometimes I’m feeling silly. When I do, I forget to talk with teachers with respect. Mario wouldn’t like that!434340045910500When I don’t talk to my teacher with respect, she gets angry or frustrated. She might say angry words to me in front of my friends. That can embarrass me and make me feel uncomfortable. But if I talk to my teacher with respect, she might tell me how nice I am, and that will make me feel happy. Mario likes it when I talk to my teacher with respect.I’m going to learn from Mario It’s important to talk to my teacher with respect even when I have uncomfortable feelings or am feeling silly. 2286000508000 4800600-68580000MY TEACHER IS NOT HERE! -68580019812000My teacher’s name is _______. Most school days, _________ teaches my class. Sometimes, _____ has to be somewhere else.509270028702000Mario knows that teachers get sick. ________ may be sick. ________may need to stay home.457200019494500Mario also knows that teachers go to teacher workshops. ________ may be at a workshop, learning new things. 0127000Many teachers have children and they get sick or have doctor’s appointments. One of _______ children could be sick or have to go to the doctor’s.502920070485002057400153733500We have a substitute teacher when ________ is sick. That is okay. When my regular teacher is not here, I can make good choices and show expected behaviors, just like Mario. Mario and I know that _________ will return to class as soon as ____can. 5029200-1143000We Have a Substitute Teacher! -45720013652500502920046609000Today my class has a substitute teacher. This means my teacher is not here today. On a substitute teacher day, Mario would show his every-day expected behaviors. He would stay in his seat, avoid making ‘blurts,’ raise his hand, use kind words, keep his hands and feet to himself, work quietly and follow the classroom rules.137160039179500Some students may act differently, however. They may think that because our regular teacher isn’t here, they can do what’s “unexpected.” Some might wander around the room, blurt out comments, act silly and disrupt the lesson. These are not good choices.2743200167005000-6858006985000480060018986500When I have a substitute teacher, I can make good choices, just like Mario does. I can do what’s expected even though my regular teacher isn’t here. I can still earn my points! That will make both my substitute and regular teacher happy. Mario would be happy too. When they’re happy, I feel proud.4572000-508000VISITING THE BATHROOM-91440024638000When Mario has to go to the bathroom, he knows what to do. First he raises his hand and waits for the teacher to call on him. Then he asks her if he can use the bathroom. When she says “yes,” he stands up, pushes in his chair and walks quietly to the bathroom. He closes the bathroom door quietly once he’s entered. -91440064071500After he uses the toilet, he washes his hands using soap and water. Then he dries his hands with paper towels. Then he returns to his seat quietly. Those are expected behaviors.434340090995500Mario also knows there are things that he should not do. He should not run to the bathroom. He should not announce to others that he has to “wee,” or “pee.” He should not make any comments to others about going to the bathroom. He should not leave the bathroom door open. He should not wipe his hands on his clothes. These are unexpected behaviors.Mario knows exactly what to do when he has to go to the bathroom. He uses expected behaviors. These are the same things that I can do. I like doing expected behaviors. My teacher may praise me, and that will make me happy.4572000-508000EATING IN THE SCHOOL CAFETERIA-91440042481500When Mario eats in the school cafeteria, he shows expected behaviors. I can do the same thing. I line up quietly and walk with others in my class to the cafeteria. I wait quietly in line to get my food. Once I get my food, I walk quietly to my table. I sit an arm’s length away from others at my table. When I find my place at my table, I sit with others I know. I don’t sit with people who are mean to me. If someone tells me tell me to do things that everyone else laughs at, he’s not being my friend and I don’t sit with him. When I eat my lunch, I chew with my mouth closed.-9144007112000During lunch I talk with students sitting around me. I talk about things they want to talk about. Sometimes I can talk about things I want to talk about. But I only say three sentences at a time. Then I pause and let others continue the conversation. If others don’t want to talk about my interest, I stop talking about it. These are expected behaviors.Here’s what I don’t do: I don’t push, fight, fidget or cut in line. I don’t run or act silly. I don’t sit with people I don’t know. I don’t play with my food or drink. I don’t talk only about my own interests. And I don’t tell others how they should behave. These are unexpected behaviors.Mario uses only expected behaviors in the cafeteria. I want to be like Mario. So I’ll use expected behaviors too. That will make everyone happy!205740015176500PLAYING WITH OTHERS4572000-508000Mario knows how important it is to be able to play with others. He knows that if he plays nicely with others, they will want him to be part of their group. Here’s how Mario plays with others:525780012382500009525000He thinks about the people he wants to play with and chooses people who are nice to him. When he finds them, he looks to make sure the activity isn’t full and there’s room for him to participate. He looks at their bodies and their faces. If they look back at him and smile, he makes a guess that they’d like him to play with them. Mario uses his eyes and body to show others he’d like to be part of their group. He walks up to them, keeping his body one arm’s length away from them. He turns his shoulders toward them and asks if he can play with them. He watches what others in the group are doing, to decide what he should be doing. He is flexible, asking questions about the rules if he doesn’t know how to play. 050482500He uses positive, expected comments. He is a good sport, saying “good game” to the winners. He doesn’t cry or get upset if his team loses the game. After all, it’s just a game! I can do what Mario does when he plays with others. He uses expected behaviors and I will too.1828800252730004572000-508000RECESS-68580073850500When I’m at recess, I’ll do what Mario does. Mario lines up quietly with his class and walks to the playground. When he gets to the playground, he chooses the activity he wants to do.If he wants to play with others, he uses his eyes, brain and body to observe what they’re doing. I then he asks if he can join in their activities. If they say yes, he watches with his eyes, brain and body, to show them he’s thinking about them. He doesn’t beg them to do what he wants to do.548640038227000Sometimes Mario’s friends don’t want to do what he wants to do. That’s ok. It doesn’t mean they don’t like him. It just means they want to do something different!If people want to do what Mario is doing, he talks kindly to them. He doesn’t insist they follow his rules. Mario never hits, kicks or screams at others. If he loses a game, he doesn’t cry. Mario does what is expected on the playground.I can do what’s expected on the playground too. I do exactly what Mario does on the playground. That will make him feel happy, the recess aides happy and that will make me happy.2514600-40132000TELLING THE TRUTH4572000-508000-68580072644000Mario tells me I should always tell the truth. Telling the truth is important. Telling the truth means to tell the facts, exactly as I know them.Sometimes it’s scary to tell the truth. If I do something that makes others feel uncomfortable, they may tell my teacher or the principal. If an adult then asks me if I did that, I might want to give a bold-faced lie and say I didn’t. Or, I might change the “facts” because I think that I won’t get into trouble. It’s not good to give a bold-faced lie or change the facts so I don’t get into trouble. Usually adults will learn the truth. Then they will be even angrier with me.548640027241500If I tell the truth as soon as I’m asked, my teacher, principal and other adults will feel more comfortable about me. They still may scold me for making others feel uncomfortable, but they will know that I tell the truth. That is a good thing.Mario tells the truth. I can tell the truth too. When I tell the truth, it makes Mario happy, and my teacher and principal happy. When they’re happy, I’m happy too.2057400934720004572000-508000THE SOCIAL FAKEEveryone tells me I have to tell the truth. Mario says I have to tell the truth. But sometimes, the truth hurts other people or makes them feel uncomfortable. That’s where the “social fake” comes in. Mario uses the “social fake” and so can I.5257800166814500-6858006794500If I put my head down on my desk because I’m bored with what the teacher is saying, that will make my teacher uncomfortable. She or he might tell me to put my head up. That’s where the “social fake” comes in. If I’m bored, I should look at the teacher, smile a little; maybe nod my head a little. In short, I’m pretending that I’m paying attention. I can do that for a few minutes, then I have to go back and REALLY pay attention! That’s what the “social fake” is all about. We’re pretending, so we don’t make other people uncomfortable.-457200108585000If someone asks me if I like his shirt, I might use the “social fake.” Instead of saying “no” and making the person uncomfortable, I can use the “social fake” and say, “it is a nice color of blue!” When we use the “social fake” we look for something nice to say!If someone asks me if I like his haircut, I might use the social fake and say, “it’s really short!” or “it’s great for summer.”I don’t always have to use the “social fake.” If someone wants me to play a game and I don’t want to, I don’t have to say “sure.” But I do have to make sure I’m polite. I can say, “no thank you. Maybe some other time.” 205740088138000The “social fake” works when telling the truth will hurt other people’s feelings. It should NEVER be used to cover up what I’m doing. The Social Fake is different from lying! Mario knows when to use the “social fake,” and when not to. I am learning that too.WHITE LIES4572000-508000I know it is best to tell the truth. The truth means describing the facts exactly as I know them.-68580084264500Sometimes I might state information that is not the total truth, but I can say it because it might protect how other people feel. Walking up and telling someone I don’t like the way they smell would be the truth. But that would also hurt their feelings. I can keep that thought in my thought bubble. Or, if the person asks if I like her new perfume, I can say something like, “it’s a different kind of smell,” or “I’ve never smelled anything like it before!” I should never change the facts of a situation to protect myself from getting into trouble. If I do, that’s bold-faced lying. And bold-faced lying is unexpected behavior.411480021082000Mario knows the difference between the truth and white lies. (White lies are sometimes like the ‘social fake.’) Mario uses both of them to keep from hurting other peoples’ feelings. But Mario always describes the facts, as he knows them. I do too.4800600-45720000BOLD-FACED LIES-91440072644000Mario always tells the truth. He knows that telling the truth means describing what you believe to be the facts, exactly as you know them.Bold-faced lies are wrong. Bold-faced lies occur when people state information that they know is false. Usually people tell bold-faced lies in order to protect themselves from others becoming angry or disappointed with them. Sometimes bold-faced lies get other, innocent people into trouble. Sometimes people tell bold-faced lies about themselves to make themselves look important, or because they think other people will like them more.548640037338000Bold-faced lies are never acceptable or expected behaviors. Mario does not tell bold-faced lies. I don’t want to tell bold-faced lies either.-68580072961500I want the adults and students in my life to feel comfortable around me. If I tell bold-faced lies, they won’t want to be near me. My teachers and the principal won’t like it. Other kids might not want me to play with them, or be in their group. Bold-faced lies hurt people. If I tell a bold-faced lie about someone else, it will hurt his or her feelings. If I deny that I did something – a bold-faced lie – I will hurt myself because people won’t trust me. And if I tell bold-faced lies about myself – telling someone that I did something exciting that I didn’t really do, people won’t trust me.Mario likes it when I tell the truth. So do I.20574009779000FIRE DRILLS4572000-508000Sometimes fire drills scare Mario. He doesn’t like the noise of the fire alarm. He doesn’t like the crowds of people. He doesn’t like everyone moving together to one place. Fire drills scare him!-9144009525000Sometimes I feel the same way.Mario has learned what to do in fire drills. I can do the same thing. He can be calm about fire drills, because he knows they are just practice. It’s important to learn what we should do, so if there ever is a fire, we’ll be ready!525780017208500When the bell rings, I leave my seat, push in my chair and walk quietly to the classroom door. If I have fire drill buddies, I line up behind one of them and in front of the other. If the alarm hurts my ears, I can put my hands over my ears and stand quietly, waiting for the line to move. I must stand quietly, because I have to be able to hear my teachers’ directions. So I don’t hum loudly or scream “this hurts my ears.”When people in front of me start to walk out of the classroom, I stay in line and 027940000walk quietly with the group. We walk to the special place outside that is set aside just for my classroom. I know there are lots of people crowding all around me and that makes me uncomfortable. But I can tell myself “this won’t last long. I can walk with the group until I get to my fire-drill line.” I stand in line quietly until my teacher tells me to return to my classroom. If I have a question, I can raise my hand and wait for the teacher to come to me. She may take a few minutes because teachers have to take attendance at fire drills and give them to the people from the office.548640032321500I walk quietly back to my classroom. When I sit back down in my seat, I can talk again if my teacher says it’s ok.These are the expected behaviors that Mario follows. I can follow them too.LATE ARRIVAL4572000-508000Sometimes Mario’s school opens late. Usually this happens in the winter, when there’s snow or ice on the roads. Mario knows what is expected of him when school opens late. I can do the same thing Mario does, because I like doing what’s expected.-45720069151500When Mario has a late arrival, he enters the classroom quietly and immediately unpacks his backpack. He hangs up his backpack and his coat and goes to his seat. On regular days, Mario goes quietly to his desk. On late arrival days, most of the other kids in Mario’s classroom are excited about the snow or ice. They may tell other kids or their teacher about how the snow or ice looked at their home. I can comment about that too. But I know that I still have to do my morning work. So I will make only one or two comments, then get to work!When I’m ready to work, I sit down and look at the board. My teacher will have written our new schedule on the board. If I have any questions about the schedule, I raise my hand and ask the teacher. If, as the day continues, I forget about the change in schedule, I might get confused. If I do, I can look at the board and see the new schedule.228600077216000Mario and I both know that sometimes things happen to change our schedules. We can stay calm about this by reminding ourselves that something is different, and by asking questions when we’re confused.EARLY DISMISSAL4572000-508000Sometimes in winter, it starts to snow when we’re at school. Sometimes, it snows so hard that adults decide to close school early. Sometimes school is closed early for another reason: Maybe the electrical power goes off, or there’s a problem with the heater. This is called an early dismissal.-914400571500Early dismissals don’t happen very often, but when they do, my teacher and other adults are there to help me. They help Mario too.When Mario’s school dismisses early, this is what happens:There is an announcement that school will dismiss at a set time548640048133000The teacher tells students that the early dismissal will require some changes in class assignments and possibly homework. She/he will explain those changesSchool will be dismissed when the buses arrive to take students homeParents will be told that students will be home earlyIf students are supposed to go to a friend’s house, or to an after-school program, those people will be told tooMy school has the same rules in place for early dismissal!Mario is excited when there’s an early dismissal. But he knows that often when he feels it big on the inside, he has to express it smaller in public. So he doesn’t jump out of his seat and scream, “Yea, time off!” or anything like that. I can be just like Mario and make expected choices when my school announces an early dismissal!205740052959000WORDS ABOUT WORDS!!4572000-508000When Mario talks with other people, that is called “communication.” Communication has its own vocabulary. It’s called “Street Vocabulary.” I’m going to learn about “street vocabulary.” By knowing this vocabulary, I’ll be able to communicate better with other people!I’m going to learn four communication street vocabulary words at a time. Here are the first four:Tunnel Vision: Talking without “thinking with your eyes.” Talking without lookingOverload Road: Talking without thinking how the listener is taking in the message. Talking on and on about something the listener isn’t interested in. Interruption Junction: Interrupting someone’s thoughts with my own thought (Sometimes also called “bumping words.”) or with an inappropriate (unexpected) body movement, like just walking away! Dead-End Bend: Responding to someone else’s question by not giving any information for someone to think about or respond to. That ends a conversation immediately! Example: someone asks me what I did today and I respond “nothing.”5257800-45720000COMMUNICATION STREET VOCABULARYMario knows “street vocabulary” about communication. Here are four more vocabulary words:Missed the Turn: The conversation changed slightly onto another topic and I did not realize it changed. I kept talking about the same old topic!Detour: A person changes the topic when it’s not appropriate. (Someone else is talking about the weather and I make a comment about trains.)Cop Stop: Clearly inappropriate (unexpected) comments or actions, such as telling someone he/she is ugly, or doing something unexpected like walking away from the group while conversation is continuingCrash Mash: My body language and tone of voice do not match what the words mean. (Yelling at someone when I simply mean to share an idea.)Mario likes it when I learn new communication vocabulary. So do I!5029200000COMMUNICATION STREET VOCABULARY IIIMario knows the following street vocabulary words:Speeding Ticket: Talking too fastRunning a Stop Sign: Making a lot of negative comments in a conversation so that people just wish I would stop!Broken Engine: Completely ignoring the conversation with my body and my words.One Way Street: Talking only about my interestsCarpool Lane: Sharing the conversational topic/asking questions about others that is on topic.Good Driving Award: Doing everything just right!I want to be a good communicator. I will learn my communication street vocabulary and work for a Good Driving Award! ................
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