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124691315785Adapted from The University of Chicago fat talk guideWhat is Negative Body Talk?Negative Body Talk is any statement that reinforces the appearance ideal that is promoted by the media. Negative Body Talk is damaging to both men and women, and can be difficult to respond to.Examples:You look great! Have you lost weight?Do I look fat in these jeans?Check out those man-boobs.That person is too fat to wear that!00Adapted from The University of Chicago fat talk guideWhat is Negative Body Talk?Negative Body Talk is any statement that reinforces the appearance ideal that is promoted by the media. Negative Body Talk is damaging to both men and women, and can be difficult to respond to.Examples:You look great! Have you lost weight?Do I look fat in these jeans?Check out those man-boobs.That person is too fat to wear that!Negative Body Talk Response Guide168910186500What is Fat Talk?00What is Fat Talk?338455223520ACTAsk for clarificationExamples:Why do you feel like you can’t wear that piece of clothing?Challenge their perspectiveExamples:Why are you concerned about what someone else looks like?Tell them how you feelExamples:I feel really sad when you say negative things like that. I think you’re gorgeous. 00ACTAsk for clarificationExamples:Why do you feel like you can’t wear that piece of clothing?Challenge their perspectiveExamples:Why are you concerned about what someone else looks like?Tell them how you feelExamples:I feel really sad when you say negative things like that. I think you’re gorgeous. Try to be nonjudgmental and concise in your statements while being mindful of how the other person may be feeling. Learning how to counter negative body talk takes practice. It is also important to take into consideration context like:LocationYour relationship with that personYour own comfort levelTone of voiceNonverbal body languageFactors related to mental health (i.e. eating disorders)255319279070“Lindsay has really gained weight over the holidays.”Response suggestions:-I hadn’t noticed.-I don’t think that’s our business.-She seems like she had a really good break!“Spring break is coming up so we’re having a weight loss challenge; do you want to join me?”Response suggestions:-Why is that necessary for spring break?-No thank you!“Don’t you think Jennifer Lopez is a little too heavy?”Response suggestions:-Nope!-I try not to have opinions on other people’s bodies.-I don’t know, I mostly notice her awesome singing voice.“He’s too fat to be going shirtless.”Response suggestions:-I’m not sure what that means. Why do you feel that way?-As long as he is comfortable, who cares?-His clothing choices are really his business, not ours.“I hate my body so much.”Response suggestions:-What makes you feel that way?-Why don’t we think about the reasons you appreciate your body instead?“Only skinny girls and muscular guys have relationships”Response suggestions:-That is definitely not true.-If that were true, people wouldn’t come in all shapes and sizes. “She really doesn’t have the body to be wearing that outfit.” Response suggestions:-Does she have a body? Then she has the body to wear that outfit.“He shouldn’t have skipped leg day.”Response suggestions:- I try not to have opinions about other people’s bodies.- Body shape and size are largely determined by genetics.“You look great in that dress. I wish I could wear something like that.”Response suggestions:-Why do you think you couldn’t?-Of course you could, you can wear anything you want.-Thanks. You can borrow it any time!“I wish I could get liposuction.”Response suggestions:-I think there are much better uses for your time and money.-Let’s talk about that. Do you think it’s something in the media that makes you feel like such an extreme procedure is necessary?0“Lindsay has really gained weight over the holidays.”Response suggestions:-I hadn’t noticed.-I don’t think that’s our business.-She seems like she had a really good break!“Spring break is coming up so we’re having a weight loss challenge; do you want to join me?”Response suggestions:-Why is that necessary for spring break?-No thank you!“Don’t you think Jennifer Lopez is a little too heavy?”Response suggestions:-Nope!-I try not to have opinions on other people’s bodies.-I don’t know, I mostly notice her awesome singing voice.“He’s too fat to be going shirtless.”Response suggestions:-I’m not sure what that means. Why do you feel that way?-As long as he is comfortable, who cares?-His clothing choices are really his business, not ours.“I hate my body so much.”Response suggestions:-What makes you feel that way?-Why don’t we think about the reasons you appreciate your body instead?“Only skinny girls and muscular guys have relationships”Response suggestions:-That is definitely not true.-If that were true, people wouldn’t come in all shapes and sizes. “She really doesn’t have the body to be wearing that outfit.” Response suggestions:-Does she have a body? Then she has the body to wear that outfit.“He shouldn’t have skipped leg day.”Response suggestions:- I try not to have opinions about other people’s bodies.- Body shape and size are largely determined by genetics.“You look great in that dress. I wish I could wear something like that.”Response suggestions:-Why do you think you couldn’t?-Of course you could, you can wear anything you want.-Thanks. You can borrow it any time!“I wish I could get liposuction.”Response suggestions:-I think there are much better uses for your time and money.-Let’s talk about that. Do you think it’s something in the media that makes you feel like such an extreme procedure is necessary?-29688-1009400024765086359“Nice beer gut.”Response suggestions:- Dude, that’s rude.- I don’t really care what you think.“I wish I had her body.”Response suggestions:-I don’t think thoughts like that are very productive. Your body is yours, that’s why it’s awesome.-Have you ever thought that maybe she has wished the same thing? The grass is always greener.“Does this dress make me look fat?”Response suggestions:-I think it’s more important to focus on how you feel wearing the dress.-If you like the dress, who cares?-Why would that be a bad thing, if it did?“I am thinking of becoming a vegan because I hear it helps you lose weight.”Response suggestions:-I’m not sure that’s a healthy reason to make a major lifestyle change.-Why do you think you need to lose weight?-Have you talked to your doctor about it? That’s a pretty big decision.“You are so thin/muscular, how do you do it?”Response suggestions:-When you use “thin” or “muscular” as a compliment, it makes me really uncomfortable.- I try not to think about bodies like that. I do what I need to in order to keep myself healthy and happy.“I don’t want anyone to see me without my make-up on.”Response suggestions:-What do you think would happen if they did?-I understand, I feel that way sometimes too. I just try to remember that no one is actually passing judgment on whether I am wearing makeup or not.-What do you think it is that makes wearing makeup feel so necessary?“You won’t “get any” if you don’t drop a few.”Response suggestions:- I don’t need to change my body to attract a good partner. “I’m way too fat to be eating this.”Response suggestions:-That seems like a silly qualification for choosing what to eat.-I’m not sure what you mean by that. Can you explain why you feel that way? “You look great. Have you lost weight?”Response suggestions:-Nope! “I need to bulk up and lift weights. Want to join me?”Response suggestions:-Nope! 00“Nice beer gut.”Response suggestions:- Dude, that’s rude.- I don’t really care what you think.“I wish I had her body.”Response suggestions:-I don’t think thoughts like that are very productive. Your body is yours, that’s why it’s awesome.-Have you ever thought that maybe she has wished the same thing? The grass is always greener.“Does this dress make me look fat?”Response suggestions:-I think it’s more important to focus on how you feel wearing the dress.-If you like the dress, who cares?-Why would that be a bad thing, if it did?“I am thinking of becoming a vegan because I hear it helps you lose weight.”Response suggestions:-I’m not sure that’s a healthy reason to make a major lifestyle change.-Why do you think you need to lose weight?-Have you talked to your doctor about it? That’s a pretty big decision.“You are so thin/muscular, how do you do it?”Response suggestions:-When you use “thin” or “muscular” as a compliment, it makes me really uncomfortable.- I try not to think about bodies like that. I do what I need to in order to keep myself healthy and happy.“I don’t want anyone to see me without my make-up on.”Response suggestions:-What do you think would happen if they did?-I understand, I feel that way sometimes too. I just try to remember that no one is actually passing judgment on whether I am wearing makeup or not.-What do you think it is that makes wearing makeup feel so necessary?“You won’t “get any” if you don’t drop a few.”Response suggestions:- I don’t need to change my body to attract a good partner. “I’m way too fat to be eating this.”Response suggestions:-That seems like a silly qualification for choosing what to eat.-I’m not sure what you mean by that. Can you explain why you feel that way? “You look great. Have you lost weight?”Response suggestions:-Nope! “I need to bulk up and lift weights. Want to join me?”Response suggestions:-Nope! 123190-27114500 ................
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