Crucial Conversations Chapter 8: Explore Others’ Paths
Crucial Conversations Chapter 8: Explore Others' Paths
How to listen when others blow up or clam up
Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan, Al Switzler ?
"When others do damage to the pool of shared meaning by clamming up (refusing to speak their minds) or blowing up (communicating in a way that is abusive and insulting), is there something you can do to get them to dialogue?"
You'll never work through your differences until all parties freely add to the pool of meaning.
Notice when safety is at risk and restore it (Chapter 5)
1. If you offended, even accidentally, apologize 2. If someone misunderstood, use Contrasting 3. If you are at odds, find mutual purpose
Start with Heart
1. Be sincere ? when you invite others to share, you have to mean it 2. Be curious ? when others become furious, we must become curious ? move to wonder
Getting at the source of fear and discomfort is the best way to return to dialogue Notice physical fight/flight responses in self and others 3. Stay Curious ? don't react to their story, continue to listen and wonder "Why would a reasonable, rational, and decent person say this?" 4. Be Patient ? Emotional change often lags behind changed thoughts
Encourage others to retrace their path
SEE & HEAR
TELL A STORY
FEEL
ACT
PATH TO ACTION
1. Every sentence has a story ? When we enter into the middle of someone's story, we have to guess at what came earlier to bring the story to this point.
2. Break the cycle ? don't respond to what's in the middle of the story. Ask questions to get to the beginning of the story they are telling themselves
Step out and make it safe
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Inquiry Skills 1. When? ? look for cues that others are moving toward silence or violence 2. How? ? Be sincere with our invitation for others to share 3. What? ? Listen in a way that keeps it safe
AMPP ? Ask, Mirror, Paraphrase, Prime 1. Ask to get things rolling 2. Mirror to confirm feelings 3. Paraphrase to acknowledge the story a. Remain calm and collected b. Don't push too hard 4. Prime when You're Getting Nowhere a. When others appear to want to share but don't feel safe b. Power Listening ? Offer your best guess, with humility and tentatively
But what if they're wrong? This is not about agreeing or assenting ? it is about arriving at shared understanding ? I understand you and you understand me ? so that we can move toward dialogue
Remember your ABCs 1. Agree ? when you agree 2. Build ? when others leave out key pieces 3. Compare ? when you differ
Describe your own story of a time when you needed to explore another's path because they were finding it difficult to speak their mind with calm and peace.
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