HEA Premarital Christian - Individual Counseling
Happily Ever After
FOR COUPLES PREPARING TO MARRY
Program Materials
Caring Couples, Happy Lives
Happily Ever After
FOR CHRISTIAN COUPLES PREPARING TO MARRY
Table of Contents
Front Matter
Introduction
Exercises
Overview of RELATE Areas
5
Overview of Christian Marriage
A Triangular Model of Love
Vision and Goals
Exercises
Religion and Spirituality in Your Marriage
Creating a New Family from Two
Intimacy and Attachment
11
17
Communication and Conflict
Communication
Exercises
Watching the Video by John Gottman
Conversational Intimacy
Making Sense of Emotions
Emotions Tree
Mirroring Summary
Advanced Listing Techniques
Family Background: Discovering Your Imago
30
Conflict Resolution
Exercises
The Four Horsemen of the Marital Apocalypse
When We Argue
How to Take a Time Out
Relationship Repair Checklist
Solving Problems Together
Behavior Change Requests
48
Roles, Responsibilities, and Decision-Making
Roles, Responsibilities, and Decision-Making
Exercises
Roles
Rules
Decision Making
Total Family Work
63
Money Matters
Exercises
Financial Profile
Financial Upbringing
Financial Worksheets
Financial Goals
80
Sexuality ¨C Part I
Sexuality ¨C Part II
Exercises
The Sex Talk
The Five Gears of Sex
Turn Ons and Turn Offs
106
113
Money
Sexuality
Children and Parenting
Children and Parenting
Exercises
Your Desire for a Child (or Another Child)
Your Beliefs about Parenting
Questions about Children and Parenting Part 1
The Four Parenting Styles
Types of Abuse that Occur in Families
Questions about Children and Parenting Part 2
125
HEAC WHOLE BOOK 2017 FINAL 10232017.DOCX
Structure of the Course
This course is organized into content areas that you can adapt to your needs and interests. It¡¯s not
necessary to work on every content area. You can skip content areas you don¡¯t need. For example, if you
and your partner have discussed finances to your satisfaction, there is no need to spend time on it in this
course.
You also can choose which content areas to work on at home and which to work on in your sessions. For
example, you might choose to work on the Parenting content at home, and use your sessions for content
that is more of a challenge for you. Once you¡¯ve looked through the content areas, discuss with your
counselor which areas you believe you¡¯d like to emphasize. Your counselor also will give you
recommendations based on your RELATE results, but you and your partner have the final say on the
content that¡¯s right for you.
To keep the course cost-effective, it is designed so that you and your partner do most of the work at
home. Your counselor is available during sessions as a facilitator, coach, and teacher. The hours that most
people spend on the course components are shown below, but since you customize the course, your
actual hours may look different.
Typical Hours for Course Components
RELATE - 1
Couples
Dialogue - 6
Sessions - 3
Workbook 6
Online Test (One hour at home)
We use the RELATE, an online relationship inventory, to give you a bird¡¯s-eye view of your strengths and
challenges. Most couples take the RELATE before the first HEAC session. Taking it first leaves you four
sessions to discuss the relevant portions of your results. However, if it¡¯s not possible to take it before the
first session, you¡¯ll be able to take it later and still address your results in the remaining sessions.
Please be sure to print out and read your RELATE report before your session so
you can flag any areas to discuss with your counselor.
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Sessions with Your Counselor (Three or more face-to-face clock hours)
We suggest a minimum of four, 45-minute sessions (for a total of three clock hours) with your
counselor. Often, the second session is a double session, lasting 90 minutes. Many couples find that
having 60 or 90-minute sessions throughout the course gives them more time to accomplish their goals.
Sessions can be done either in our offices or over the internet. Since this course is customizable, you can
choose how often to attend sessions. Some couples like to do all four sessions in a month; others prefer
to spread them out over time. Just let your counselor know what you think is best for you. If you think
you¡¯d benefit from addition sessions, you are welcome to schedule them at any time.
Workbook (Six hours at home)
The workbook contains information we think is the best available given the current state of relationship
research and theory. We have included much more information than we think you can cover in a foursession course and expect you to address part of the content during your course and part of the content
at your leisure. Some of the content is designed to be used as a reference over the course of your
marriage to address possible challenges in the future.
We have included exercises for learning and practicing good relationship skills. Worksheets, such as
financial history and budget grids, give you ways to organize information for discussion.
The workbook also contains a number of questionnaires that we have adapted from among the vast
literature on relationship enhancement. These are useful in augmenting the data in your RELATE report,
allowing you to go deeper into your specific beliefs, values, expectations, and needs in a given area.
Couples Dialogue at Home (Six hours at home)
We think the best place for you and your partner to learn about each other is in the privacy of your own
home. So, throughout the workbook and at your counselor¡¯s suggestion, you are encouraged to practice
HEAC communication techniques at home when doing your HEAC homework.
Content Areas of the Course
Keep in mind that you bring your own values, opinions, and history into a relationship, and they might not
always match your partner's. In addition, you may go into marriage believing it will fulfill all of your social,
financial, sexual and emotional needs. By discussing your expectations before marriage, you and your
partner can better understand and support each other in having a long and happy marriage.
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