How to Talk to your Kids About Feelings
How to Talk to your Kids About Feelings
The easiest way to acknowledge feelings is to talk about them.
Children know when an adult is upset. It is helpful to share your feelings with your child. You don’t need to go into great detail, just enough to make feelings “discussable.” You might say something like “This makes me feel sad. How does it make you feel?” Or, “I sometimes feel concerned. I was wondering if you feel scared.”
The following are other suggestions to help your child deal with grief, loss or other stressful life situations.
• Give the feeling a name. Label your feelings or those of your children. For example. “It looks like you feel sad.”
• Model calmness and share ways that you calm yourself. Comment on what you tried and how it worked. You might say, “When I am upset, I take a walk (pray, read the Bible, enjoy a bubble bath…) and that helps me feel better.” Or, “When I first heard the news, I cried. Crying helped me feel better.”
• Help your child to discover ways to calm himself or herself. Offer your children several ways to calm themselves. For example, “You look scared. Would you like to draw a picture or would you like for me to hold you or read a story.” A good goal might be to have as many calming “tools” as they are years old. An eight year old would have eight ways. A four year old would have four ways to comfort himself. You may want to make a list of “Stressbusters” to hang on the refrigerator. For the non-reader, you could draw pictures.
• Children need a variety of calming “tools”—auditory, physical, visual, self-nurturing, and creative. They might choose calming “tools” such as listening to music, reading a book, reading scriptures or quotes about strength and peace, taking a walk, writing or drawing about their feelings, or talking about their feelings.
• Listen to and talk with your child providing brief and honest answers in developmentally appropriate language.
• Verbalize positive coping statements like, “What good can come from this? How can I help someone else? What can I do that is constructive?”
• Doing something almost always helps people feel better. Model taking actions that are constructive such as sending a card or making a meal to share.
When feelings are strong and painful, children need to know how to deal with the situation. Children need “tools” to help to calm them. If you need further suggestions, please don’t hesitate to call your school social worker.
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