Chapter 7: Anger and Aggression - Psychological Self-Help
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Chapter 7: Anger and Aggression
Introduction¡ªAn Overview of Anger Statistics
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Definition of terms
Recognizing anger
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Hidden anger¡ªpassive-aggressiveness
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How angry are you?
A case of jealous anger
Understanding Anger: Theories and facts
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How much hatred is there in the world? The 2002 WHO Report
How do we get so angry? Sternberg¡¯s theory
How anger interacts with other emotions and factors
Are some people just ¡°evil¡±?
The control of emotions
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Society tries to control meanness with punishment
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Society doesn¡¯t try prevention
Innate, genetic, hormonal and physical factors
The Frustration-Aggression Hypothesis
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Displacement of anger
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My conclusions about catharsis
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Historical overview: Frustration-Aggression Theory
Social Learning Theory
Aggression and child rearing practices
Self-hatred and self-reports describing anger
Mental processes that generate anger/aggression
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Disliking people who are different
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Hating people for "no reason"
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Pain leads to aggression
Internal dynamics of aggression
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Psychoanalysis
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Anger-generating thoughts
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Put-down games & psychological put-downs
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Anger, anxiety, guilt, depression, dependency and sex
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The effects of gender roles and cultural differences
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Psychological excuses for aggression; anger may pay off
Anger in intimate relationships
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Marital conflict
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Dealing with the ¡°intimate enemy¡±
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Trying to get our way
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Finding better ways to resolve anger
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Psychological abuse in intimate relationships
Physical abuse of spouses and children
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How do we start being physical?
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Statistics about abuse of ¡°loved ones¡±
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How common is wife rape?
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Abuse within the family
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Why do women stay?
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Can abusers change?
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Long-term effects of abuse within the family
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Books and websites about domestic violence
Child abuse
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The consequences of child abuse or severe punishment
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Sources of information: Dealing with problem children
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Anger is usually a two-way street
Parent-teenager conflicts
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Getting closer again
Jealousy
Distrusting others
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How to become more trusting
Disliking others without valid reasons: Prejudice
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Unconscious prejudice
Understanding our own prejudices¡ªAllport and DuBois
Prejudice can take many forms
Extreme prejudice
You don¡¯t think you are prejudiced any more?
Is intimacy a possible antidote for racial prejudice?
Experimentally created prejudice and new research
The authoritarian personality and prejudice
Integration: Is it reducing racial prejudice?
New methods for changing stereotypes, emotions and prejudice
Self-help methods to reduce our prejudice
Books and websites about reducing prejudices
Methods for handling our own anger/aggression
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An important long-term concern
Self-help tailored to each person¡¯s needs
Four popular books and tidbits about reducing anger
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Bradley P. Barris
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Les Carter
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Carl Semmelroth
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Lynne Namka
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Tidbits of information about anger and violence
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Emotional rumination vs. thoughtful reflection
Using methods from different levels for your own self-help
Level I: Behaviors and simple thoughts
Level II: Methods for reducing anger
Level III: Skills to avoid anger
Level IV: Cognitive methods for reducing your aggression
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Buddhist teachings about controlling anger
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More cognitive methods described in this book
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Forgiveness¡ªDetails of cognitive ways to reduce anger
Level V: Be aware of and neutralize unconscious causes
Suggested books for specific anger problems
Websites and videos
Warning: An angry situation is dangerous
Dealing with an aggressive person
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Coping with rape--a horrible crime
Dealing with a stalker
Recommended readings about aggressive people
Reducing the other person's anger
The angry child or violent teen
If you are a victim of violence or bullying
Social-educational solutions to violence
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Anger and Aggression
This chapter will provide (1) signs of anger, (2) theories about how and why
aggression develops, and (3) means of preventing or coping with anger (in
yourself and in others).
Introduction¡ªAn Overview of Anger
How we deal with stress, disappointments, and frustration determines the
essence of our personality. In this chapter we consider frustration and
aggression. Anger may do more harm than any other emotion. First of all it is
very common and, secondly, it upsets at least two people--the aggressor and
the aggressed against. There are two problems: how to prevent or control
your own anger and how to handle someone aggressing against you. This
chapter attends more to self-control.
The overall effects of anger are enormous (Nay, 1996). Frustration tells us
"I'm not getting what I want" and eventually anger is related to violence,
crime, spouse and child abuse, divorce, stormy relationships, poor working
conditions, poor physical health (headaches, hypertension, GI disturbances,
heart attacks), emotional disorders, and so on.
Just how widespread is hostility? Very! Psychology Today (1983) asked,
"If you could secretly push a button and thereby eliminate any person with no
repercussions to yourself, would you press that button?" 69% of responding
males said yes, 56% of women. Men would most often kill the U. S. president
or some public figure; women would kill bosses, ex-husbands or exboyfriends and former partners of current lovers. Another survey of college
students during the 80's indicated that 15% agreed that "if we could wipe out
the Soviet Union, and be sure they wouldn't be able to retaliate, we should do
it." That action could result in over 100 million deaths! The respondents
seemed to realize the great loss of life because 26% said, "the United States
should be willing to accept 25 million to 50 million casualties in order to
engage in nuclear war." What an interesting combination of intelligence and
mass violence in the same species. In light of the subsequent disintegration
of the Soviet Union, this kind of pugnacious, arrogant, uncaring thinking is
really scary. The problem was an unwillingness to carefully consider the
atrocities of nuclear warfare plus a macho toughness engendered by the
1980¡¯s Cold War rhetoric.
For reasons I hope to soon make clearer, Americans are amazingly violent compared
to people in other countries. In 2002, approximately 290 million Americans suffered
23 million crimes. 23% of those crimes were crimes of violence. For every 1000
people over 12, there was one rape or sexual assault, another assault resulting in an
injury, and two robberies. Yet, criminal violence is fairly predictable (not at some
specific time but in general) in the sense that 50% of males convicted of a crime
between 10 and 16-years-of-age will be convicted of more crimes as adults. Also,
being exposed to violence in childhood (at home, in their community, & in the
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media) is associated with the child having poor health (Graham- Bermann & Seng,
2005) and with them being violent as an adult. We could do something about these
things but we don¡¯t, perhaps because we believe aggression is just ¡°human nature¡±
and/or because we are angry and thus indifferent to stressed kids, especially if they
are of another race or a different economic or ethnic group. Also, our society is far
more insistent on punishing rather than preventing adolescent
violence/crime/misbehavior (another reflection of our own anger?).
Great atrocities are attributed to crazed men--Hitler, Stalin, terrorists, etc.
But, several psychological studies cited in this and the next chapter suggest
that ordinary people can rather easily become evil enough to discriminate
against, hurt, and brutalize others. Likewise, Goldhagen (1995) has
documented that ordinary Germans by the thousands rounded up and
executed millions of Jews. It isn't just the prejudiced and deranged that
brutalize. There is scary evidence that almost all of us might, under the right
conditions, develop a tolerance or a rationalization for injustice. Even the
most moral among us may look the other way (certainly the many murderers
in Germany and Russia talked to priests, ministers, town officials, etc.).
German doctors performed atrocious experiments in concentration camps.
Each of us strongly resist thinking of ourselves as potentially mean or bad,
yet there is evidence we can be persuaded to do awful things by leaders and
governments. Interestingly, we have little trouble believing that others are
bad and immoral. Storr (1994) attempts to explain intense human hatred and
cruelty to others, such as genocide and racial or religious conflict. Concerning
hatred, we are psychologically still in the dark ages.
The crime rate soars in the U.S. and our prisons overflow; infidelity and
spouse abuse are high; 1 in 5 women has been raped, 683,000 women were
raped in 1990 (30% were younger than 11!); our murder rate is several times
higher than most other countries. We are prejudiced. We distrust and dislike
others. Even within the family--supposedly our refuge, our safe place, our
source of love--there is much violence. Between 1/4 and 1/2 of all wives have
been physically battered which causes great psychological trauma too
(Goodman, Koss, & Russo, 1993). Physical fights have occurred within 1216% of all marriages during the last year. In 50% of these instances it is
mutual violence, i.e. both try to beat up on the other. But children 3 to 17 are
the most violent: 20% per year actually abuse their parents; 93-95% are a
"little physical" with parents. In addition, last year 10% of children were
dangerously and severely aggressive with siblings. Nearly one third of us fight
with our siblings. About 25% of all murders are by teenagers. There are 1.2
million cases of child abuse per year. Pogrebin (1983) even says we are a
child-hating society but that overlooks the vast majority of children who are
loved, even pampered.
One of the most appalling statistics is that among women who die while
pregnant or within one year of pregnancy, 30% are murdered (Chang, Berg,
Saltzman & Herndon, 2005). The percentage is a little higher in young teen
women (especially black) who have not gotten good prenatal care. A similar
study by The Washington Post found that 2/3rds of these murders involved
domestic violence. Many were slain at home by husbands, boyfriends, or
lovers. In spite of our TV preoccupation in early 2005 with the Laci Peterson
case, we aren¡¯t doing much about helping women during this stressful period
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