FROM THE HOST OF THE UNF*CK YOUR BRAIN PODCAST UNF CK YOUR ...

FROM THE HOST OF THE UNF*CK YOUR BRAIN PODCAST

UNF CK YOUR BRAIN

EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO KNOW

KARA LOEWENTHEIL, J.D.

MASTER CERTIFIED COACH

LISTEN UP LADY!

IT'S TIME TO GET REAL

I'm going to level with you. Being a high-achieving feminist woman in a man's world is stressful, overwhelming, and exhausting. I know. I have BEEN there, let me tell you. I spend my entire 20s in constant flight or fright, white-knuckling through anxiety at every turn at work and then collapsing on the couch at the end of the night to numb myself out with Netflix and snacks.

Here's the bad news you don't want to hear: Your secret fears are right: The problem is you.

But here's the good news you haven't considered: It's not your fault. There's nothing wrong with you. The problem can be fixed.

How we fix this shit. Evolutionary biology (be afraid of everything) + social conditioning (women are less worthy and always need to be improved) is a heady, toxic brew. It has shaped the way you think, feel, react, and experience the world in ways that you can't even see because you're still in the middle of your patriarchy Stockholm Syndrome.

Whether you're struggling with anxiety about your performance at work, stress in your love life (or lack thereof), exhausting yourself with social and family obligations, or constantly criticizing your body like you are being cast in a production of Mean Girls ? biology + social conditioning is to blame. Your brain isn't broken. You just don't have the user's manual.

But I do. I lived it, I've studied it, and I've figured out how to solve it. The answer to all of your problems is rewiring your brain to create authentic self-confidence. In study after study the vast majority of successful women (80 ? 90%) say that confidence was the key factor in their rise.

And before you say anything, listen, I've heard it all before. Here's a quick FAQ for every objection you have. How do I know what they are? Because I'm psychic. Or because I've worked with hundreds of women like you. One of those.

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FAQ

Q: I've been this way since I can remember. Doesn't that mean I was just born like this and can't change?

A: No. It means that you were taught to think in ways that are holding you back, and no one has taught you to think differently. That doesn't mean it can't be done. Remember, you came out of the womb without any thoughts at all. Over time you learned to think the way you think now. And in a much shorter amount of time, you can change the way you think on purpose. It's called neuroplasticity, and everyone has it. If you've ever learned something new before (like, your entire profession ? or how to change a diaper ? or where to go for a great massage), you can learn this.

Q: What if my brain truly is broken and this doesn't work?

A: Most of my clients think that when they sign up, and so far they have been 100% wrong. You may be a special snowflake in the sense that you're a unique and beautiful sea creature of wisdom (paging Leslie Knope) but your brain is not uniquely broken. I promise.

And if I happen to be wrong for the first time with you, I have a satisfaction guaranteed refund policy. If you come to a call a week, do all the workbooks, and ask for coaching each week on the call and in slack and at the end of the program you don't believe you've made progress, you can get a full refund.

Q: What if I get TOO confident and I become arrogant and selfish?

A: This is a common question, but also not a thing. People who act arrogant and selfish aren't truly confident. They are desperately insecure and want to convince everyone of how great they are. Think about a hero or heroine you admire ? when you think about Michelle Obama or Frida Kahlo or Elizabeth Warren, they seem confident, right? Do they seem arrogant and selfish and uncaring? Nope. True confidence actually makes you way more open to other people's thoughts and ideas because you're not so terrified of finding out other people disagree with you or that you might be wrong.

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Q: What if I shouldn't actually feel confident because I'm really not good at the things I worry about?

A: Nice try, brain. There's literally never any benefit to tearing yourself down. When you tell yourself you are terrible at something, it makes you feel anxious and ashamed ? which makes you procrastinate, avoid, and collapse face first into the Ben & Jerry's at night. Believing you are already good at something actually makes you excited to get even better ? it inspires you to learn and grow and improve. There's no upside to insecurity in any area of your life. However good at something you are, you are allowed to feel confident about that ? and the more confident you feel, the better at it you'll actually get.

Q: Isn't it crazy to have to spend this much to feel better?

A: I think it's a f*cking bargain, honestly. Think about how much your unhappiness has cost you in therapy that didn't work, vacations that you couldn't enjoy, new clothes that didn't make you feel confident, and gym memberships you ignored.

And then think about the cost of NOT solving this problem - is it worth the money to actually enjoy the rest of your life? To kick ass at work? To feel present and loving with your family? To have the love life you've dreamed of? To reach your financial goals? And while we're talking about finances, how much money are you leaving on the table *every year* because you don't negotiate raises or compensation like a boss because you're too worried about whether your boss likes you.

Investing in your mental and emotional skills is literally the most important investment you can make. Your brain determines everything in your life ? both how you feel every day and how you act at work and how much money you make over the short and long term. In fact I was going to say it's the most important after food and rent, but it might be more important than rent ? because if you learn how to create whatever you want in your life, you can create more rent money too.

Bottom line: This is a "teach a woman to fish and she can feed herself forever" skill set, and quite frankly it's f*cking priceless. (But in case you want numbers, I've made approximately half a million dollars in the last couple of years that I wouldn't have made if I hadn't learned how to manage my mind. Talk about a good return on investment.)

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TIME & MONEY VICTORIES

I know, most coaches have polished testimonial quotes with professionally photographed clients. But I like to keep it real. So instead, throughout this document, I'm sharing just a *fraction* of the posts my clients have made in our "victories" slack channel over the few weeks before I created this PDF.

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