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Human Sexuality per the Bible

By: Dr. Vernon Phillips

Part One – God created Sex

1. The Bible knows more about sex than anything the world can tell you. God created us male and female according to Genesis 1:27-28, 31. He said “Be fruitful and multiply and everything that He made was very good (includes sex). He created two people of opposite sexes that were attracted to each other. Who created the human sex drive? (Story about young boy and his father) living like hermits apart from modern civilization). Two Geese Story

2. Some Christians feel that the sex drive is evil or wrong (Victorian era). One of the great theologians of the early church named, St. Augustine felt that sex was sinful and that men and women should live in celibacy. In other words use sex only for reproduction and cease after you produce children. Martin Luther and other great Reformers broke away from this teaching and later Luther married a nun. The sex drive is God-given because you do not create your own sex drive. WE ARE THE ONLY CREATURES WHO CAN BRING ANOTHER HUMAN BEING INTO EXISTENCE WITH AN IMMORTAL SOUL. That is awesome!

3. Sex involves your physical Body, your Soul and your Spirit. All of your physical senses are involved (seeing, hearing, smelling, tasting, and feeling). The sexual encounter involves every aspect of the physical self. Sexual intimacy is more than the bringing together of sexual organs, more than arousal, more than orgasm but the experience of sharing self-abandonment by merging two persons into one flesh according Genesis 2:24. How is my soul involved in sex? Your soul is composed of your mind, emotions and your will; all three of these are affected by the sex drive. To participate in a sexual act is to give a person access to your soul. This should not be given to the wrong person because it is invaluable. Do not grieve the Holy Spirit (Ephesians 4:30).

Part Two - Sex is a gift from God. Do not waste this precious gift on the wrong person.

4. The Scripture says, “The soul that sinneth, it shall die” (Ezekiel 18:4). The Spirit does not die, it returns to God according to Ecclesiastes 12:7. You are a spirit clothed in a body. Your spirit is the God-breathed, eternal essence within you.

5. Leaving and Cleaving (Genesis 2:24). “Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother and shall cleave unto his wife, and they shall be one flesh.” The physical tie of a man and woman through sex is even stronger than the physical tie of a child to a parent. (This is why you can’t tell your child anything if they start having premarital sex) The person that they are sleeping with has a stronger hold on them than you.

6. The entire Song describes pleasure of sexual love. Song of Solomon depicts the beauty of love between a man and a woman as experienced in the relationship of marriage. The language is very frank but beautiful. There are no references to prayer, worship, or piety (religious duties). The Songs warns against premarital sex (Song 2:1-7; 3:5; 8:4). Do not stir up or awaken love until it pleases.

7. Sex was created by God not only for procreation but for pleasure. When you read the Song you will find the bride pleading with her husband to find his sexual pleasure with her. Read Song 4:16; 6:3; 7:10. The lily in 6:3 is a symbol of purity or in this case, virginity. Sex honors God when done properly between husband and wife. Read Hebrews 13:4 “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed is undefiled, but fornicators (premarital sex) and adulterers (outside of marriage) God will judge. Also the Book of Corinthians 10:31 because it says “whatever you eat or drink or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.”

8. Duties of a Husband: Ephesians 5:25-28, 33; Deuteronomy 24:5 (love your wife as your own body and also as Christ loved the church. 1 Corinthians 7:3 says render (repay, restore, make payment) unto her due benevolence (the affection due her). This means pay attention to her. Nurture her, show her affection, and cheer her up). Give honor to them as the weaker vessel that your prayers not be hindered (1 Peter 3:7). Don’t do this! Drink waters from your own fountain (Proverbs 5:15-20) and do not be a whoremonger (Proverbs 31:3) because you are giving your strength to the wrong woman.

9. Duties of a Wife: Ephesians 5:22-23; Colossians 3:18; 1 Peter 3:1-6 (wives submit (come under, put under) subordinate yourselves unto your husbands and reverence your husband). Reverence is showing deep respect, honor and love to one who is worthy. Don’t pay more attention to another man than to your own husband. Proverbs 12:4; 18:22 A virtuous (excellent) wife ………

10. It is not the method, but the motive that honors the Lord. Most sex books will describe the method but the Bible talks about the motive for sex which is more important. The Bible is silent on physical techniques of sexual intercourse, referring only to marital rights or enjoyment (Exodus 21:10, Genesis 26:8; 18:12). Sex is a gift from God; do not waste it on the wrong person.

11. Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). All sins destroy, but no sin has the same effect on the memory, personality or soul of a person as sexual sin. In intercourse your whole being is united with them.

12. Sexual Deviations: These sexual behaviors are condemned in the Scriptures. Homosexuality (Leviticus 18:22, Romans 1:26-27, 1Corinthians 6:9-10); bestiality (Exodus 22:19, Leviticus 18:23); incest (Leviticus 18:6-18, 1 Corinthians 5); rape (Exodus 22: 16-17); adultery (Exodus 20:14); fornication (1 Corinthians 6:9-10); prostitution (Proverbs 7:1-27, 29:3).

13. Sex and Alien Bonds: Sex of any kind always bonds people together, body, soul and spirit. Such bonds are alien and sinful because the participants have been bonded sexually without a covenant of marriage (1 Corinthians 6:15-16) and are violating what God intended. AIDS researchers tell us that when we have a sexual relationship, we are, in effect, having sex with all the people with whom our partner has had sex. This is true medically and true metaphysically.

14. The Power of the First Bond: The power of the first sexual experience is so powerful that it can determine the direction of a person’s sexual orientation. A boy recruited by an older male for homosexuality may hate the experience, but because sex bonds two people together (body, soul and spirit), he may feel a sense of security and fulfillment with this relationship. This is why some later seek male partners, not because they are born homosexual but because this experience has been stamped on their soul. This may help to explain why a young woman may marry a man with whom she has slept, even though he may be abusive. The first bond can create a “soul-tie” that is hard to break and because you have experience intimacy outside the proper boundaries, you will have a tendency to forgo courtship and immediately seek genital intimacy. The temptation to continue this way is powerful and persistent.

Father/Daughter – Many people seek love and acceptance through the sexual relationship, but they do not find it. A young girl that did not have a warm relationship with her father will be tempted to seek love in the arms of other men.

Those who know how to repent and come under the authority of the Word can be free.

Part Three- What makes for a happy marriage? According to Peter and Paul it comes that to three (3) major points.

15. Men need to love their wives and show them that they love them. You must fill her emotional bank account. This is a major fault of men by not paying enough attention to their spouse.

16. Women need to submit (come under) and obey their own husbands.

17. Don’t deprive (defraud) each other in the marriage bed (1 Corinthians 7:3-5).

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