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"A Man And His Family" a man’s roles

Basil Marotta Jericho Ministries

Session Outline: (Some excerpts from Pat Morley’s STM Seminar & OTI)

Eph. 5:25 "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her."

Eph 5: {25} Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her {26} to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, {27} and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. {28} In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

Ted Jones: …God says, as you love your bride is how you will love my bride.

Eph 6:4 Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

The above verses teach us that we are to love our wives, and by extension our children, as Christ loved the church. How did our Lord love the church? He literally died for her.

In the Old Testament "Christ" is synonymous with "Messiah", or "Anointed One". There are three offices associated with anointing and Jesus fulfilled all of them. As leaders of our family we are expected to live out what these offices suggest with our loved ones.

Three offices men must fill:

(record your attitude and action items for each)

1. The family prophet his back to God… facing family...relaying to them what God is showing him…communicate God to the family

2. The family priest. His back to family facing God…he is the family shepherd …relaying to God his family needs and petitions…do you know your family needs…your wife’s needs? How do you find out what they are?

3. The family king, which means to lead, protect and provide. Not the autocratic boss, but as servant leader…who provides spiritual, emotional and physical leadership which creates atmosphere where each member can grow…help, love and protect them through tough issues they may face…we are the leaders whether we like it or not…don’t abdicate the leadership role….

"The great secret of contentment is not getting what you want but wanting what you get."

Stu Weber …Four Pillars of a Man’s Heart

to provide, as a Servant-King A king who is not a servant is merely a tyrant.

to protect, as a Tender Warrior A warrior who is not tender is only a brute.

to teach, as a Wise Mentor, A mentor who is not wise is just a know-it-all. and

to connect, as a Faithful Friend A friend who is not faithful is at best an acquaintance, or worse, a betrayer

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1 Peter 3:7(NIV) Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers

(NKJV) Husbands likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.

I’ve been married 44 years…this is a lifelong project

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Life Implication: The biggest hindrance to men discovering and living out their roles as head of their home comes from dysfunctional notions of success. We must resist buying into three destructive myths:

1. Success means a dynamic career

2. I’m doing this for my family …work becomes end in itself…family needs and wants you…illust Sue…would you quit your job for me

3. Money will solve all of my problems sometimes can create more problems than it solves…you become a slave to material goods….a prisoner

"No amount of success at work can compensate for failure at home."

Another definition of failure…succeeding at something that doesn’t matter

Ecc. 5:10-12 "Whoever loves money never has money enough; whoever loves wealth is never satisfied with his income. This too is meaningless. As goods increase, so do those who consume them. And what benefit are they to the owner except to feast his eyes on them? The sleep of a laborer is sweet, whether he eats little or much, but the abundance of a rich man permits him no sleep."

“Don’t pray for tasks equal to your power, pray for power equal to your task.” Phillips Brooks

For Meditation:

Understanding the role of a prophet, priest and king how am I doing in each area on a scale of 1-10? What myth am I guilty of entertaining? What must I do to improve?

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|Scripture References: Col. 3:18-21; Eph. 5: 22-6:4; 1 Peter 3:1-17 | |

|(Col 3:18-21) Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. {19} Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them. {20} | |

|Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. {21} Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become | |

|discouraged. | |

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|(Eph 5:22-33) Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. {23} For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, | |

|his body, of which he is the Savior. {24} Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. {25} | |

|Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her {26} to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with | |

|water through the word, {27} and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and | |

|blameless. {28} In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. {29} After all, no| |

|one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church-- {30} for we are members of his body. {31} "For this | |

|reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." {32} This is a profound mystery--but| |

|I am talking about Christ and the church. {33} However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect | |

|her husband. | |

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|(Eph 6:1-4) Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. {2} "Honor your father and mother"--which is the first commandment with | |

|a promise-- {3} "that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth." {4} Fathers, do not exasperate your children; | |

|instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. | |

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|(1 Pet 3:1-17) Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over | |

|without words by the behavior of their wives, {2} when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. {3} Your beauty should not come from | |

|outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. {4} Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the | |

|unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight. {5} For this is the way the holy women of the past who put | |

|their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands, {6} like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called | |

|him her master. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear. {7} Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you | |

|live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will | |

|hinder your prayers. {8} Finally, all of you, live in harmony with one another; be sympathetic, love as brothers, be compassionate and humble. | |

|{9} Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing. | |

|{10} For, "Whoever would love life and see good days must keep his tongue from evil and his lips from deceitful speech. {11} He must turn from | |

|evil and do good; he must seek peace and pursue it. {12} For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous and his ears are attentive to their | |

|prayer, but the face of the Lord is against those who do evil." {13} Who is going to harm you if you are eager to do good? {14} But even if you | |

|should suffer for what is right, you are blessed. "Do not fear what they fear ; do not be frightened." {15} But in your hearts set apart Christ | |

|as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness| |

|and respect, {16} keeping a clear conscience, so that those who speak maliciously against your good behavior in Christ may be ashamed of their | |

|slander. {17} It is better, if it is God's will, to suffer for doing good than for doing evil. | |

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