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Behaviour Management Tips & Children with ASD

Sometimes there is a need to think a little more about things first.......

Stay Calm! It’s easier to reflect about your child’s behaviour when you are calm. It is difficult to help your child to change when you are upset or agitated.

Ask your child what happened, what he or she would like. Some children can explain things themselves.

Know the context for the child’s behaviour. Behaviour does not happen in a vacuum.

What went on recently?

What happened just beforehand?

What was the child expecting?

Any recent changes in the child’s life?

Any recent changes for the family?

Reframing: try to think about the problem another way.

Is it really that bad? Am I taking an extreme view?

Am I looking only at the negative here?

Will this really matter in 5 years time?

Change happens over time. Sometimes you cannot see change when you are in the middle of it.

Are my expectations OK?

COMMON SOURCES OF BEHAVIOURAL DIFFICULITES

AVOIDANCE or ESCAPE

WANTING SOMETHING (now) [pic]

[pic]SENSORY (tired, overwhelmed)

Some Common Tips

Small Steps First. e.g. for the child who finds it hard to play with other children……. encourage him or her to play with one child first.

BOUNDARIES ARE IMPORTANT

Remind your child about the rules.

“Too many cooks rules spoil the broth!”

Many children benefit from written rules

Try not to give in to tantrums or it could get worse.

Boredom is a source of many problems. Has the child enough to look forward to? Does the child know what to do when they have ‘nothing’ to do?

Distraction. Sometimes talking about IT is not necessary.

It might be more productive to distract the child when they are beginning to have a tantrum.

Triggers

Avoid those triggers that set your child off....it at all possible.

Rewards help keep people on tasks. Rewards make like worthwhile. Use what the child likes as a reward for good behaviour.

PUNISHMENT: Research proves that it rarely works in the longterm.

With anxiety or phobia type behaviours, the way to overcome the fear is to gradually expose the person to the distressing event and to encourage more appropriate responses.

Ignore it.

Ignoring difficult behaviours works often by not bringing attention to those behaviours.

COMMUNICATION ISSUES

Use the sequence of “First” (we do this) and “Then” (“we do that”) to help with predictability and to get cooperation on current tasks.

Say it once; Say it clearly.

Try Listening to what the child is saying and not saying……

If you were in his or her shoes, what would you want someone to hear?

Emergency Plan

Things do go wrong.

It might be no harm to have a plan for when things go wrong.

“PLAN B”

If your child is doing something inappropriate, offer him an alternative behaviour to do. It is very hard to do “nothing”.

E.g. If your child is talking to other children inappropriately, tell him or her to say “hello”, to share one piece of “news” and to listen to one piece of news from the other person, then smile and say “see you later”.

Action plan:

Choose one idea that you think might help you with your child?

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What can you do about this idea?

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What would help you to bring about this change?

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What first step can you take next?

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