Where Have All the Good Men Gone? Gender and Online Dating
[Pages:4]SPOTLIGHT
Research Series
March 31, 2014.
"Where Have All the Good Men Gone?" Gender and Online Dating
Derek A. Kreager,1 Population Research Institute, Pennsylvania State University; Shannon E. Cavanagh, University of Texas at Austin; John Yen, Pennsylvania State University; Mo Yu, Pennsylvania State University.
Online dating platforms reduce many of the social and geographic barriers that exist in traditional dating settings, such as schools, work, neighborhoods, etc. In this study, we examined whether gender norms and preferences for more "socially desirable partners" benefit men and create a dating disadvantage for women in the earliest stages of dating. We tested this idea with six months of online dating data from a mid-sized southwestern city in the United States (8259 men and 6274 women). We found that both men and women tend to send messages to mating candidates who possess the most socially desirable sociodemographic characteristics (e.g., age, height, education, race, etc.) regardless of their own social desirability. We also found that men and women who make first contact connect with equally or more desirable partners than those who wait to be contacted. However, women are four times less likely to send messages than men. Finally, our findings suggested that socioeconomic similarities in longer-term unions result, in part, from relationship termination (i.e., non-reciprocity) rather than initial preferences for similar partners.
Why Is Online Dating an Important Subject for Family Researchers to Study?
Over the past two decades, the stigma associated with online dating has largely disappeared, making online dating not only acceptable but even a preferred mateselection strategy.
Did You Know?
A recent nationally representative survey (Rosenfeld and Thomas 2012) found that more than 20% of heterosexual adults and 60% of same-sex couples who started their relationship since 2005 met online.
Related Articles
Kreager, D., S. Cavanagh, J. Yen, and M. Yu. (2014). "`Where Have All the Good Men Gone?' Gendered Interactions in Online Dating" in Journal of Marriage and Family, vol. 76, issue 2, pp. 387-410.
Kreager, D., R. Felson, C. Warner, and M. Wenger. (2013). "Women's Education, Marital Violence, and Divorce: A Social Exchange Perspective" in Journal of Marriage and Family, vol. 75, issue 3, pp. 565-581.
Kreager, D. and D. Haynie. (2011). "Dangerous Liaisons? Dating and Drinking Diffusion in Adolescent Peer Networks" in American Sociological Review, vol. 76, issue 5, pp. 737-763.
1Please forward correspondence to Derek Kreager at dak27@psu.edu.
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The increased prevalence of online dating is unlikely to recede anytime soon as younger generations have spent most of their lives fashioning identities through similar social media platforms (e.g., Facebook and Twitter). As traditional ways of meeting partners (e.g., church, school, family, and neighborhood) decline, online dating is becoming increasingly attractive as a way for singles to connect.
Online dating also tears down many of the social and geographic barriers common in traditional dating settings. For example, in schools, workplaces, and neighborhoods, daters are only likely to meet potential partners of similar
While revealing little about longterm relationship outcomes (e.g., marriage), online dating data
socio-demographic characteristics (e.g., economic status, provide rich information about
race, and education), so unions formed in these contexts tend patterns and dynamics of early
to magnify existing group inequalities. Most online dating relationship formation.
sites do not restrict their membership to any particular social
group, which reduces many of the structural obstacles daters face offline. This is particularly true for
marginalized or small populations (e.g., gay men and lesbians) that may have difficulty finding available
partners in offline dating venues.
Finally, online dating data provide a window into the hard-to-measure contexts of partner searches, first contact, and initial impressions. Data from online dating websites provide opportunities for researchers to analyze large numbers of interactions that are difficult to capture in offline settings.
In sum, online dating provides exciting and important insights into current and future coupling and marital trends.
Why Has There Been So Little Research on Online Dating?
Summary of Study Findings
1. Most online dating websites are run
by business entities that have few
What characteristics do people seek in a desirable incentives to make their data available to
partner? Average peer ratings from our sample revealed academics (particularly when research
that being white, athletic or thin, tall, well educated, a may demonstrate weaknesses of the
drinker, and a non-smoker are desirable characteristics for dating website).
sampled male and female online daters.
2. Family scholars are skeptical of online
However, strong gender differences exist:
dating research because it is impossible
Age: Men prefer younger women, whereas women to measure certain long-term outcomes,
prefer older men.
such as marriage or inter-partner
Height: Women prefer taller men, whereas men do not dynamics, through online dating.
show a strong preference for women's height.
Race: Black women are preferred less than black men 3. Online dating is a relatively new
by their online dating counterparts.
phenomenon. It takes time for research
Education: Men rate women with post-graduate and theory to catch up with sudden degrees as less attractive than women rate men with social change.
similar education.
Mode of selection: Men prefer photos, whereas women seek longer written profiles.
These findings suggest a gendered preference for looks over written communication skills, advanced education, and cultural interests.
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Gender and Online Interactions
As with prior research, we found that heterosexual male online daters 1) are much more likely to send first contact messages than women (by a four-to-one ratio) and 2) tend to send messages to more socially desirable (measured through average peer ratings) partners than themselves. The result of these patterns is that the majority of first contact messaging in heterosexual online dating platforms originates from men and goes to a relatively small number of highly desirable women.
More than men, women typically wait to be contacted before reciprocating messages to potential partners. Combined with male patterns of vertical messaging, female passivity results in many women having to choose partners from a less desirable suitor pool. This could leave many women wondering, "Where have all the good men gone?" Interestingly, however, when women do send first contact messages, they are just as likely as men to send messages to more desirable partners.
Is There an Initiator Advantage?
By comparing the desirability ratings of senders and receivers over repeated exchanges, our findings suggest that an active mate-searching strategy increases the probability of connecting with a more desirable partner than a passive strategy. This is because even though the majority of messages to persons of the opposite sex will result in non-response, the possibility remains for "less desirable" daters to have sustained connections with more attractive partners. This potential is much smaller for passive daters of either gender. Moreover, because men are far more likely to send contact initiation messages than women, they are more likely to benefit from the initiator advantage.
Conclusion
Contrary to observed similarities among married couples, male and female online daters--at all levels of desirability--primarily seek out the most desirable daters as potential partners. Along with these vertical preferences, we also found evidence of an initiator advantage in online dating exchanges. Those who initiate contact are more likely to pair off with a more desirable partner than those who wait to be asked. Interestingly, the fewer women who initiate contact were more likely to connect with a partner than male initiators and the quality of their partners was equal to those of women who connected with a passive strategy. An important implication of these findings is that women should not be discouraged from sending messages if they want to connect with attractive partners. Finally, we found evidence that partner similarities increase with each reciprocated exchange. Individuals may begin their search by seeking out that "one in a million" partner, but surviving couples tend to be more similar in their levels of social desirability than those who break apart.
References
Lin, K. & J. Lundquist. (2013). "Mate selection in cyberspace: The intersection of race, gender, and education." American Journal of Sociology, 119, pp. 183-215.
Rosenfeld, M. J. & Thomas, R. J. (2012). "Searching for a mate: The rise of the internet as a social intermediary." American Sociological Review, 77, pp. 523-547.
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Copyright ? Population Research Institute, Pennsylvania State University, University Park, PA, 16802, USA. Email: info@pop.psu.edu Suggested citation: Kreager, Derek, Shannon Cavanagh, John Yen and Mo Yu (2014) "'Where Have All the Good Men Gone?' Gender and Online Dating" in Spotlight: Research Series, March 31, 2014. Spotlight: Research Series is published by the Population Research Institute at the Pennsylvania State University and features research conducted by its faculty. The Population Research Institute (PRI) at the Pennsylvania State University encourages, organizes, and supports innovative research and training in the population sciences. With the talents of more than sixty outstanding scholars, PRI provides a supportive and collegial environment to stimulate collaborative, externally funded research. PRI is an NICHD-supported population center, grant no. 2R24HD041025.
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