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The ABC's of Smarter Dating

26 Tips and Strategies to Improve Your Love Life

Ask Questions

One of the best things you can do to succeed at dating is to ask questions. Asking questions allows you to discover if you are on the path to success. Many women are afraid to ask questions because they are afraid of the answers they may receive. Which sounds better to you? Option A) Asking a question that reveals the truth immediately or Option B) not asking the question only to find out when the truth reveals itself much later down the road?

If you look at both options, you ultimately wind up at the same place (the truth) but in option A you get there much quicker. Yes, sometimes the truth hurts but since you're going to find out the truth anyway wouldn't you rather know much sooner? If you are the type of woman who is afraid to ask questions for fear of finding out the truth you might want to ask yourself "why?" Why would you rather avoid the truth?

Now, I don't live in fantasyland. I realize some men lie. But if you get good at asking questions and observing his actions it will be much easier to expose a guy who belongs to the "liar's club." (see O: Open Your Eyes).

It's also a good idea to learn how to ask a man questions. Do you like to be interrogated? Well, neither does a man. If you were to show up on your first date with a list of 99 questions which you just start firing off at him there is a 99.9% probability that you will never have a second date.

The best way to ask a question from a guy is to ask with a natural state of curiosity. The best questions are those which you naturally work into a conversation so that he doesn't even realize you are questioning him. Which sounds better?

1) Hey Bob, do you want to get married? 2) Hey Bob, what are your thoughts on marriage?

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In #1 Bob will probably feel like you are pressuring him. But in #2, by asking with a natural curiosity you allow Bob to communicate his thoughts & feelings on marriage without feeling like he has to give you the answer you are looking for.

Instead of wondering what a guy is thinking or feeling you simply have to do one thing...ASK!

Believe You Deserve a Great Man

Perhaps one of the b i g g e s t reasons women f i n d dating and relationships so difficult is that they don't believe they deserve a great man. Ask any woman and they will logically tell you they deserve a great man, but if you were to look at their dating & relationship history the results say otherwise.

If you do not believe you deserve a great guy and "OWN IT" in every part of your being finding true love and the man of your dreams becomes much more difficult.

Choose Carefully

If you were clothes shopping would you buy the very first item you tried on? What about if you went out to dinner. Would you order the first thing you spotted on the menu? I hope not. In both cases the first choice may have been the best, but how would you know if you didn't at least look at the other options available? One of the keys to making dating easier and more enjoyable is to make better, smarter choices with your men.

By making choices which are more in alignment with who you are and where you want to go in your relationship your dating will not only become easier but you will give yourself a much greater chance of succeeding. The truth is the reason dating and relationships are so difficult for so many women is that they make really poor choices.

Making better, smarter choices not only increases your odds of landing the man of your dreams it takes 99% of the drama & games out of the process. Can you think of any more incentive to make better choices?

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The ABC's of Smarter Dating: 26 Tips & Strategies to Improve Your Love Life

Don't Play Games

One of the surest ways to increase the stress and drama in dating and relationships is to play games. Games are great if you are a child on the playground or you want to gather a bunch of friends over to play charades. There is absolutely no place in a relationship for games. Observe those individuals who are in relationships in which they are unhappy & unfulfilled and invariably you will notice that one or both persons are playing games.

One of the best and easiest ways to cut out the stress and drama of dating is to immediately get rid of a guy who plays games. Unless you are the type of woman who is addicted to the drama, I strongly urge you to get rid of all the "players" as soon as you recognize them.

It will be in your best long term interest to avoid game playing altogether. We're not in high school anymore and if you continue to play games or allow a guy to play games you will continue to get the same results. IS that what you want?

Evaluate a Guy's Life

If you want a "Good Guy,"a guy to be your partner for life look at how he lives his life. How does he treat people? Is he respectful and courteous or is he rude and obnoxious? Does he go out of his way for others or does he expect the world to cater to him? Does he lie or is he a man of his word?

There is an old philosophy that says to see how a man will treat his wife look at the way he treats his mother. Well, I believe that the way a guy treats the people in his life, not just his mother is a great example of how he will be in a relationship. Once you see how he is in his normal, everyday routine ask yourself this question: "Is this the type of guy I want to be in a relationship with?" Remember, a leopard does not change it*/s spots, and neither does a man!

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Forgive Those Who Hurt You

One of the best ways to push a guy away is to constantly talk about how your "ex" hurt you. In fact, the best way to make a guy run away on the first date is to vomit all over him how your ex screwed you over & broke your heart. Would you like to be held accountable for the actions of someone else? Well, neither does a man? Just because your ex crapped all over you does not mean that the new guy will.

Carrying around all the baggage about how you've been wronged or how you've been screwed over is one of the best things you can do to kill any chance of having a relationship with a guy. If you still are having unresolved anger & resentment towards an ex there is only one thing you need to do to move on. Forgive him. No matter how much you don't want to move on and have the relationship you desire you must forgive. Forgiveness, is not for your ex IT IS FOR YOU! It allows you to move into the new relationship and get rid of the baggage from your past. Because if you continue to carry it into a new relationship you are starting off making it much more difficult for your relationship to succeed.

Get Off Your A**

"God helps those who help themselves." ---Ben Franklin

If you're waiting for the doorbell to ring & the man of your dreams to come walking thru I've got some news for you. It's probably not going to happen. Sure, it can, but the odds of it happening are less than having all the members of our government pass a lie detector's test. Just because you join a gym does not mean you are going to get in shape. And just because you joined an online dating site does not mean that you will meet a guy.

You've got to take action! You must put yourself out there. You don't have to use every piece of equipment in the gym to get in shape & you don't have to go to every single's event in the world to meet your guy. The key to Smarter Dating is to find those things that work for you. Do not waste your time on things that require a tremendous amount of

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effort. In fact, that is a great way to know if you are on the right path. If you find what you are doing is draining and requires too much energy you are probably on the wrong path. When you are having fun and enjoying the process you are much closer to creating the results you desire.

Hold Out for The Great

Are you willing to give up the good to go for the great? What would you rather have: a good relationship tomorrow or GREAT relationship a year from now? If you were to study those individuals who have great relationships, you will see that very often they walked away from relationships where they knew they were settling. There was a part of them that knew in order to have the type of relationship they wanted they had to cut bait. In fact, this attitude is what separates those who succeed in life from those who don't.

Holding out for the "Great" does not mean that you search the globe looking for the "perfect guy". Because much like the tooth fairy, Santa Clause and the Easter bunny the "perfect guy" does not exist. Sorry to burst your bubble.

The perfect guy, the one u think that is out there that will never do anything wrong, will say all of the right things and that will treat you like a princess 24 hours a day for the rest of your life while looking like a Greek Adonis... JUST DOESN" T EXIST! SO, stop searching for him.

However, there is good news. There is a guy that is just "perfect for you". The guy that you can be attracted to and realize that he will be able to provide all the important things that you need to be happy and fulfilled for as long as you both may live.

When I first met my wife, I knew she was the girl for me because she had ALL the important qualities and characteristics I was looking for. I wasn't looking for perfection but I was looking for the perfect girl for me and within a few months of dating her it was clear to me that she was "the one".

Holding out for the Great does not mean you have some unrealistic expectations that you keep searching for. It means knowing what is

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really important to you and making sure you don't settle for anyone who doesn't give you those things.

Any time we settle in life, especially when it comes to relationships there is a part of us that feels unhappy & unfulfilled. There is a reason that 85% of all relationships fail. The choice is yours, you can search the world over looking for the "perfect guy" or you can grab the "perfect guy for you" the minute you identify him.

Those who succeed in having great relationships are simply willing to do things and make choices that the others aren't. Remember, "The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little extra!"

Imagine a Great Relationship

The human brain is one of the most fascinating things in our universe. It functions much like a search engine on a computer. If you were to type something in Google on your computer, it will search the web until it finds what you are looking for. Well, that is exactly how the human brain works.

Have you ever decided to buy a new car? The second you started thinking about this new type of car what did you notice. You probably noticed that you started seeing that type of car all over the place. Those cars were there before but your brain was not programmed to look for them.

One of the major reasons women think it is hard to find a good guy is because they have programmed their mind with a lot of negative beliefs. Some of these are: "All the good men are taken", "A good man is hard to find"," I'll never find a good man", "I have bad luck when it comes to men" and "Men don't know how to be honest". Now, I'm not saying that these things sometimes aren't true but if this is how your brain has been "programmed" guess what it is going to continue to search for. PROOF!

One of the biggest changes that led to my dating smarter was when I changed my mental programs. I used to believe that "I just can't find a nice girl who doesn't play games". Up until that point, that had been my experience in the single world. But once I realized that there were tons of nice, honest women out there guess what happened to my dating? It skyrocketed!!! I went from hardly dating to dating several women a week. I'm the first to admit I'm no Brad Pitt, so if it can happen for me it can happen for you. In fact, that is why I first created the smarter dating programs. I wanted to share the "Secrets to my dating success". If I could meet my soulmate in less than 90 days, why couldn't you?

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There is no doubt in my mind that if you learn to date s m a r t e r you can have the same results...that is unless your brain has been programmed to believe otherwise.

Just Be Yourself

Have you ever dated a guy who pretended to be a certain way only to reveal his true nature a few months later? Have you ever dated a guy and pretended to be a certain way in the beginning only to let your hair down a few months later? C'mon be honest.

Relationships in which a person pretends to be someone they are not are destined to fail because sooner or later the parties realize that their relationship is built on a foundation of lies & deception.

One of the best way to ensure the death of a relationship is to pretend to be something or someone you are not. If a guy isn't going to love you for who you are why would you want to be with him? The right guy is going to love you for who you are and how you treat him. By being yourself from the very beginning you give the relationship a much greater chance of succeeding because it is based on honesty & integrity.

At the end of the day each new relationship is going down one of two paths. It is going to succeed or it is going to fail. That's it. Those are the only two options!!!. If you choose to pretend to be someone else or your partner pretends to be someone else, you ultimately will wind up with a failed relationship. The problem is that you would have failed much quicker and saved yourself a lot of time and energy if you both were yourselves from the very beginning.

Are you familiar with Baskin Robbins, the Ice cream store? If you are you know that they make 31 flavors. Why? Because people have different tastes. If a guy doesn't like you for who you are it is not a reflection of you it is a reflection of his tastes. So, if he chooses Rocky Road & you're Cookies and Cream why are you taking it personally?

Know What You Need in a Man

One of the best ways to find Mr. Right is to know EXACTLY what it is you need and want from him. If you wanted to buy a new house wouldn't it be in your best interest to know what your needs and wants were? What is your price range? What city or town do you want to live in? What type of home do you like? What are the taxes and school system like? There are certain things that are important to you and you wouldn't think of buying that house without knowing all your buying criteria were being met, would you?

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