AFFAIR HEALING
AFFAIR HEALING
A Recovery Manual for Betrayed Partners
by Tim Tedder, LMHC, NCC
? 2015, Currents Counseling Services LLC
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Contents
Preface
How To Use This Manual
Introduction
CHAPTERS
Chapter 1: Consider Your Options, then Schedule Your Decision
Chapter 2: Make Careful Choices Regarding the Affair Partner
Chapter 3: Release Your Grip on a Wayward Spouse
Chapter 4: Establish Your Boundaries
Chapter 5: Expand Your Personal Support
Chapter 6: Stop Protecting Secrets & Lies
Chapter 7: Help Your Spouse Understand Your Pain
Chapter 8: Get to the Truth Carefully but Certainly
Chapter 9: Determine Who You Will Become, With or Without Your Marriage
Chapter 10: Regain Control of Thoughts and Feelings
Chapter 11: Move Intentionally Toward Forgiveness, Cautiously Toward Trust
Chapter 12: Invest in Qualified Counseling, Together or Alone
Chapter 13: Know Which Direction to Move
Chapter 14: Commit to Conversations that Connect
WORKSHEETS
W1: Staying, Leaving, Waiting?
W2: The Benefits & Risks of Contacting the Affair Partner
W3: Know What You Control
W4: Training Your 2 Guards
W5: To Tell or Not To Tell
W6: Empathy Exercise
W7: Asking the Right Questions
W8: Ongoing Affair Conversations
W9: Apart or Together?
W10: Journaling Guide
W11: List of Offenses
W12: Before the Affair
W13: Counseling Prep Worksheet
W14: Move?Toward Journal
W15: Triple?A Conversation
References & Resources
Bible Study Guide
About the Author
? 2015, Tim Tedder, LMHC, NCC | | Affair Healing: A Manual for Betrayed Spouses
Preface
My response to any suggestion that I write book about infidelity has always been, ¡°Why
would I want to do that?¡± Good affair recovery books, by authors much smarter than I,
have already been written. (I will mention them in this manual, in case you are not
aware.) And, besides,the process does not come easily to me. If anything I scribble comes
across as interesting or insightful, it requires a lot of effort to make it seem that way. For
those reasons, ¡°write a book¡± has never been on my bucket list.
But you are reading this preface, so obviously I changed my mind. Why? Because I
wanted to create a more versatile resource. This manual is written in a way that allows
you to use it ¡°as is¡± for individual healing, or with its companion manual (written for
unfaithful spouses) for couple's working together. Exercises and worksheets have been
included to make this an effective self?help tool.
Comments from men and women in affair recovery have been used extensively
throughout the chapters. Their opinions and insights were gathered from emails, session
notes, written stories, and posts in the AH Community forum. Actual names and any
identifying details have been altered to protect confidentiality.
Despite my previous hesitation to add another book to the library of infidelity literature, I
believe the Affair Healing manuals offer a uniquely useful approach to recovery. Time
will tell how this book is judged, but I hope you will find it valuable in your journey
toward healing.
Sincerely,
Tim Tedder, LMHC, NCC
Currents Counseling Services, LLC
? 2015, Tim Tedder, LMHC, NCC | | Affair Healing: A Manual for Betrayed Spouses
How To Use This Manual
Who Should Use It?
If you have been betrayed by a spouse or partner and have not decided to be done with
them yet, this manual will give you clear directions toward the restoration of your
marriage while maintaining your own health and wellbeing. It will help you know
exactly what to do during the next weeks and months.
Use Alone or with Your Spouse
This manual is written in a unique style that allows it to be easily used as a guide for
individuals or for couples. The workbook is divided into two parts: (1) exercises that are
listed at the end of each chapter and (2) worksheets provided in their own section
following the last chapter. Each chapter's exercise will provide instructions for the use of
any recommended worksheet.
A Manual for Individuals: Although the chapters are written in a kind of progressions,
feel free to jump to ones that are of most interest to you right now. Follow the Exercises
for Individuals instructions provided at the end of each chapter. Go at your own pace.
A Manual for Couples: Your partner will need to use the manual was written as a
companion to this one: Affair Healing: A Recovery Manual for Unfaithful Spouses
(available at ). Each chapter of this manual relates in theme to the
same chapter in the companion manual, although the content is quite different.
Couples can proceed at their own pace. It is recommended that you and your spouse work
through the entire manual one chapter at a time, but if you skip any parts, make sure you
both are reading the same chapter number and following the Exercises for Couples
instructions provided at the end of that chapter.
The PDF Advantage
This version of the Affair Healing recovery manual is available to you in PDF format,
which provides these advantages:
¡ñ It can be readily downloaded.
¡ñ You can print the worksheet pages. (The Contents page shows you which pages to
print for each worksheet.)
¡ñ It can be easily read on most devices, including desktop computers and tablets. (If
you use a smartphone, you¡¯ll want to rotate the document so that it appears in
landscape mode for easier reading.)
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