The “3 C’s”: Clarity, Consequences, and Consistency Worksheet

[Pages:1]The "3 C's": Clarity, Consequences, and Consistency

Worksheet

In helping your child make changes, it is important that there is clear communication about agreed upon expectations (with your child, your partner or anyone else involved), clearly defined (ahead of time) consequences (both positive and negative) for observable behaviors, and consistent and reliable follow through on those agreed upon expectations. A breakdown anywhere in this chain leads to problems.

This worksheet is designed to help you think through in advance how you want to give a consequence to your child for engaging in a behavior you want to see LESS of (e.g. smoking pot in his room, skipping school, coming home after curfew). At these times, structure and consistency are crucial.

Step 1: In the left-hand column, list your expectations. Then in the right-hand column, identify the consequence that will result from going against the expected behavior. Use your S.M.A.R.T strategies as you outline expectations and focus on Specific and Measurable behavior.

Expectations (CLARITY) He will come home on time from the party.

CONSEQUENCE for Negative Behavior If he is more than 15 min late he will not be able to use

the car the following weekend.

Step 2: Use Positive Communication skills to spell out how you will tell your child in advance of these consequences and identify any problems that may get in the way of being consistent with your message.

COMMUNICATION in Advance I know it is hard to leave your friends, but you need to be home by curfew. If you are later than 15 min you will not be able to use the car next weekend. I'm happy to send a text reminder?

Things that may get in the way of CONSISTENCY

I will be working and he may need to go to soccer practice. I will make sure my husband can drive him.

Expectation for the Week: Expectations (CLARITY)

CONSEQUENCE for Negative Behavior

COMMUNICATION in Advance

Things that may get in the way of CONSISTENCY

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